Do you mind people touching your bump?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: My bump is...
    there for anyone who wants to touch it (no asking needed!) : (12 votes)
    6 %
    available for touching but please ask first : (46 votes)
    22 %
    only for family members and extremely close friends : (93 votes)
    45 %
    for my husband and children only : (49 votes)
    24 %
    for no one but me : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Other : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7216 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Touching without asking is incredibly rude (husband and my own pre-school kids excepted). Maybe it’s a cultural thing but I hardly got it.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5421 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think it is SO WEIRD when people do this (not pregnant or TTC either btw). I think it’s a bit weird even if friends and family do it without permission (if someone placed their hand on my stomach I’d be like ‘Umm, what are you doing?!’); but it’s just so strange if strangers do it.

    Equally though I’ve had pregnant women or their partners grab my hand and place it there, or ask if you want to touch (and I feel it’s kind of rude to be like ‘No thanks’); and as someone who isn’t particularly fussed about pregnancy or babies I have to say I find that just as odd, and just as much as an invasion of personal space. So, I guess it kind of works both ways.

    I think some people just get crazy excited when it comes to pregnancy and kind of lose all sense of personal boundaries!

    Post # 5
    Member
    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @FromA2B2013:  I did not like that at all. I did ask a woman once. But she was pregnant with twins and HUGE. I was just in awe. She said I could touch it and I felt one move! It was bizarre and fantastic. But I did feel bad after the fact cause I shouldn’t have even asked, I should have kept my hands to myself!

    Post # 6
    Member
    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    No pregnant. Not TTC. When I am pregnant, no one touches my bump without my permission. Permission they more than likely won’t get. Husband, other children of ours, potentially my Mum and best friend etc. excluded.

    So. Rude.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2630 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Not pregnant or currently TTC, but this really freaks me out. I don’t like unnecessary contact, and the idea of strangers touching my belly just…ugh no! 

    Post # 8
    Member
    412 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I saw one of my best friends the other day, she has got a much more noticeable bump in the fortnight since i last saw her, I instinctively lightly touched it and said what a gorgeous baby bump she has, I hope she ddidn’t mind! 

    I am pregnant but not noticeably yet, I won’t mind close family and friends touching it without asking (basically those who i hug hello and goodbye), but i feel strangers and acquaintnces should ask first!

    Post # 9
    Member
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Mischka:  This.

    I’ve had SO MANY pregnant ladies tell me that random strangers touch their bellies. That’s weird and will get you a slap on the hand.

    Post # 10
    Member
    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It doesn’t bother me at all if hubby or family touches the bump..

    I have yet to have a stranger or someone I don’t well touch or ask to touch, my instinct would be to slap but I guess we will have to see if it will even be an issue! 

    Post # 11
    Member
    6023 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It wouldn’t bother me if my husband or mom did. I actually think it’s sweet when I see a husband with his hand on his wife’s belly because, to me, it shows how much he’s “into” the pregnancy.

    Other people…hell no. I’m not a touchy-feely person to begin with so it would just freak me out. I’d probably have a knee jerk reaction of slapping their hand lol

    Post # 12
    Member
    7265 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I wouldn’t like it if a random stranger touched it, but I have had some coworkers who I’m not extremely close with touch it and it hasn’t bothered me.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1734 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    Besides my husband, I honestly don’t want anyone touching mine. The sad thing is that this is culturally reinforced to some degree, so it would be a huge slap if I refused it from our families.

    Unfortunately, I’ll most likely have to end up letting my mother-in-law, mom and whoever else intrudes touch my belly (picking my battles and all). I really hate it and I don’t like attention from people. Yet if I dare say “No,” it’ll be WWIII (“I bet she let her mom touch her belly! I’m the grandma too!” “You won’t let me touch it, but I bet you caved and let your in-laws!”). Yet another reason I’m hoping to postpone announcing to our families as long as possible…at least it’ll cut down on that.

    I wouldn’t let strangers touch me, though. I’d probably deny being pregnant, even if it’s very obvious.

    Post # 14
    Member
    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @CookieCreamCakes:  +1

    I haven’t encountered strangers wanting to touch it (yet) but friends and in-laws that go for it without asking, I usually wince back and tell them that my belly button is sensitive. Its not entirely untrue. I’ve always had a sort of an outtie and being pregnant has made it pop out earlier than it should have. Therefore, it IS more sensitive. I like that it makes them feel awkward for going for it without asking. I think its extremely rude when people feel they are allowed to touch a pregnant lady’s bump.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1091 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    There’s a maternity t-shirt that says “If you didn’t put it there, don’t touch it” haha! I’m not TTC, but I would totally wear that whenever I’m preggo.

    Post # 16
    Member
    2627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am pregnant and it doesnt bother me. It does surprise me when someone does with out permission (rarely happens) but still doesnt bother me. 

    I know its coming from a place of respect, awe, excitement etc. 

    I consider it a little strange, but I have no problem with it. 

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