(Closed) Do you miss the beginning of a relationship?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you miss the excitement of a new relationship?
    Yes - we are too comfortable : (45 votes)
    24 %
    No - I'm more excited about my stable relationship & our future : (123 votes)
    66 %
    Other - please explain further in your post : (17 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9551 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I used to sometimes, but not anymore. Our relationship is much more stable now, we feel more comfortable around each other, and we know we can make it, we have been through some really tough times. Our relationship is so much stronger than it was at the beginning. So while we don’t have that ‘new relationship’ feeling, we have something much better – everlasting love.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4688 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I definitely miss it. There’s nothing like those butterflies!!! It’s different now but not in a bad dway just more… subdued I guess. We are excited for the future… THAT gives me butterflies!

    Post # 5
    Member
    7772 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Not even a little bit.  I am obsessed with DH, so it still feels new!  I love the stability of our marriage and relationship.  Been through so much!

    Post # 7
    Member
    427 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I definitely miss the excitment of a new relationship, but I wouldn’t trade it for what we have now.  We still have lots more to experience together, so there are other things to be excited about 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    3058 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Our relationship was pretty rocky in the beginning so no, I don’t miss it lol we were long distance and I was being a commitment phobe so things are 100x better now than when we started out!

    I do sometimes miss the butterflies I had before this relationship though. I don’t remember having too many butterflies exactly, just nerves, with my SO… I think the long distance & my attitude at the time was the reason.  My relationship prior was a horrific mess I shouldn’t have been in but because it was kind of “bad” the butterflies never went away in that one. I also think they were much more intense then, so any butterflies I’ve gotten since then about anything pales in comparison.

    I don’t really envy new relationships because I am so much happier right now than I ever have been in any stage of any relationship before.

     

     ETA: “Envy” was just my choice of words. I’m not implying others envy anything…I can’t “miss” the beginning for me because it was a bit more rough than most so “envy” probably applies more in my case. Don’t need anyone jumping down my throat about being jealous or envious lol!

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    4528 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Sometimes, but I’m more excited to have found something lasting

    Post # 10
    Member
    4664 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yes. I admit it… We had a crazy and amazing start and I’ve even been guilty, in my weaker moments during a fight, of saying the dreaded “BUT YOU USED TO XYZ.” 

    I know nothing can stay like that forever, and we totally still get those moments of excitement and infatuation and I’m happy that we ARE so comfortable and I don’t have to find a way to end a date because I have to go to the bathroom and am so shy and nervous I’d rather say goodnight than be honest in that situation. (True story.)

    I’ll cop to the occasional daydream of our first days together when it was like something out of a movie…  But now we’re stable, we’ve been through tons of ridiculous shit both good and terrible, and I know I can depend on him and we’ll have each other through whatever comes, and that’s wonderful too. I’m not scared anymore. 

    So I voted for yes but I guess it’s more of an “all of the above.”

    Post # 11
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    8475 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Hell frigin no!! I like it much better now being 130% comfortable around my DH.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I like what we have now! 

    Post # 13
    Member
    4609 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    A little. The “new relationship” butterflies were nice, but I still get butterflies, just a different kind. I also miss our sex life a little. We only got to see each other once or twice a week when we first started dating, so we had sex ALL THE TIME to make up for the rest of the week we wouldn’t be having any. Now, we don’t have that so much, but I still enjoy the sex life we have today. 

    I love our relationship the way it is now though, because I have something for forever now. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    1728 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    Yes and no. The beginning of our relationship was marked with a lot of turbulence and immaturity (on his end). He eventually “grew up.” We never traveled much early on anyway, but I do remember my former friend when he met his boyfriend. I’d been with my husband for just over a year by that point. Those two were constantly jet-setting and my friend was so starstruck it was nearly laughable.

    It all eventually peters out. My eyes are wide open and I know well what’s happening around me now. I shudder to think of all that I put up with when I was starstruck!

     

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    405 posts
    Helper bee

    I also do miss it, but only occasionally. The butterflies, the excitment, the getting to know eachother etc. That was all super fun, but I love being able to be myself completely, and not worry. I love the trust and the saftey.

    So, not really either.

    Post # 16
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    2855 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Not really. SO and I started dating in the spring of our senior year of high school, and we sort of just drifted from friends into boyfriend and girlfriend. I didn’t really have a honeymoon period, per se, and some aspects were a bit akward since I was/am his first (only) girlfriend. After 7 years and 2.5 years living together, we’re super comfortable and I actually find that more fun.

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