Post # 1
I’m in a bit of a pickle. I can’t think of anyone to be my bridesmaid/MOH/etc. I just have no desire! I have people coming out of the woodwork just assuming she’ll be my MOH, and all that.
That being said, what if my groom wants a best man/etc, is that ‘allowed’ if I dont have anyone on my end?
Post # 3
@Haruyou: You absolutely do not need bridesmaids! All you need is you, your groom, and your officiant, that’s it! If your FI wants to have someone stand by his side and you don’t, that’s totally fine! No one will think otherwise of you or probably even realize it for that matter.
Not having a bridal party saves you tons of money, too. This girl has a great post about having “non bridesmaids” and she has a bunch of tips on her blog. She was a “no bridal party” gal as well.
Post # 4
@PacificMrs: Thank you for the link! Makes me feel a little bit better. 🙂
Im just getting sick of the fighting and whining. One girl, who growing up we joked we would be eachothers MOH, and I had a pretty nasty falling out a year or so back, and haven’t quite recovered since. We talk, but I don’t feel as close. She is assuming shes still my MOH…
I don’t know how to break it to anyone that I may not choose to have a bridal party.
Post # 5
@Haruyou: Just like that! Just tell them that you’ve decided not to have a bridal party. I would still go out with them to a spa or something for a girl’s day before the wedding, but just with your closest friends. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to honey, it’s your wedding. 🙂
Post # 6
Bridesmaids are a Tradition… and NOT a Rule of Etiquette.
So you can have them or not… or just one (MOH)
Traditionally one of their roles has been to act as a Witness to the Marriage (sign the Church Registry / Marriage License so it can be made legal)
Of course you can always choose someone else to fulfil that role if you like.
Hope this helps,
PS… Here is a piece of helpful advice… IF you do decide to have someone stand up for you, you might want to first go over the Responsibilities and Expenses that come with the role… as a lot of time that will tell you whom among any potential candidates would be the most suited for the job… as a lot of times some of the biggest Drama / Trauma with a Bridal Party comes about because not everyone knows what they are supposed to do / pay for.
Traditional Etiquette Roles & Responsibilities in Regards to the Bridal Party = http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/how-to-communicate-bm-expectations#axzz2UirFZtxT
(See my Reply # 13 in that topic)
Hope this helps,
Post # 7
No, just a bride and a groom. Or a bride and a bride. Or a groom and a groom.
Post # 8
@This Time Round:
Thank you! I feel if I DON’T have a bridal party, I’d regret it. But I’ve heard horror stories about having them. Heck, the one girl who is assuming she’ll be my MOH says I “need to slim down, take these weight loss pills!” Agh!
Post # 9
Nope! I didn’t have them. Nobody cared. I didn’t miss them.
Post # 10
@Haruyou: I think the only reason you would regret not having a bridal party is if you absolutely positively must have those group pics. At least in your situation I mean. It’s not as if you really want a MOH but are foregoing it for political reasons, which I’ve seen on WB a few times.
Post # 11
@Haruyou: No you absolutely, undoubtedly do not. You can have a family member witness for you on the documents.
Post # 12
@Haruyou: not having BMs or a MOH. I could pick my sister as a MOH but I chose not to for a variety of reasons. My FI and I will proudly stand there by ourselves.
Your guy can have a best man if he wants…there are no rules! I never understood why people feel the need to match up numbers….3 girls on this side, 3 guys on that side. I don’t get it!
Post # 13
No way! I started off wanting 5 or 6, then decided do I REALLY have the extra money to spend on helping them out with all of their stuff? I couldn’t think of people I really wanted in the wedding with us, anyways. We’re down to one bridesmaid and one groomsman, I think it’s perfect!
Post # 14
I thought I wanted bridesmaid(s) and then I wanted only one and THEN my FH decided he wanted 5. SO I found Five girls…. then I kicked one out for commiting major wedding fail ( Someone hired her to be their photog…. cancelled 12 hours before). If I could have only picked one……. even though I love them all dearely, I don’t like the anxiety of worring about their dresses, can they afford this and I do because I am a Virgo. Anywho, You can have has many or none as you WANT! My sides wont be even and I don’t even care lol.
Post # 15
After you have a bride, groom, and officiant, the rest of the details are just “wants” and not “needs.” You can do whatever you want. 🙂
Post # 16
Deciding not to have a bridal party has been one of our best decisions in the wedding planning process. There is no stress or expectations of anyone, and our closest friends will still be there supporting us all the same.