Post # 1
My Future In-Laws are planning our rehearsal dinner, but I was working on getting the addresses to them when I wondered… does the wedding party get an ‘& guest’ to the RD? The guests obviously wouldn’t come to the church for the rehearsal, so do they just meet them there at the restuarant? All of the wedding party are really good friends, so it isn’t as if they would be isolated in any way. I just wondered if it was proper etiquette to let them if they wish to – or is this an area my Future In-Laws could save a bit of money? (We have a rather large wedding party with 14 people total)
Post # 3
Are any of them coming from out of town? It would be incredibly rude to say they have to leave their dates at the hotel for the Wedding Party to go to the rehearsal dinner. Why couldn’t the dates come sit and watch the rehearsal?
Post # 4
nope none of them are from out of town, they all live within 10 minutes of everything.
is that what normally happens though? people bring dates and they watch the rehearsal go down at the church? i didn’t know it would be rude… i just thought it would be odd if random people sit by themselves in pews while we try to figure out the ceremony.
Post # 5
I think it would be nice. I got invited to a Rehearsal Dinner once (since I was a bm) and I was pretty pissed my bf at the time (now husband) wasn’t invited too. I had to drive 2 hours up to the rehearsal and I was planning on spending the night there. My bf was going to come to the wedding too. But since he didn’t get a Rehearsal Dinner invite I didn’t know if he should drive up with me the night before or what. It just made things a huge hassle and was super inconvenient. Please invite the +1 for your bridal party members at least.
And yes, I’ve seen the dates and family members sit in the pews. It’s not that bad.
Post # 6
Hmmm okay so I’ll just go ahead and include +1s to avoid potentially annoying anyone. Wedding etiquette is stressful lol
Post # 7
they are invited to the rehearsal bbq at my parents but not to the rehearsal itself.
Post # 8
If your wedding party is all local, I don’t think you have to include dates, though it definitely would be nice. However, for people who are traveling and bringing a date, I would invite the date to the dinner.
Post # 9
No, I think typically it they have traveled from out of town or long distances and are married/enggaed then you would include the significant other. Otherwise, I don’t see it as rude as not allowing a “date”…I mean its a rehearsal dinner….not such an event to just bring a random date just because!
It’s also a period to spend quality time with those that have labored to make your wedding day perfect!
Post # 10
I was struggling with this as well as to invite my bridal party’s dates etc. to the rehearsal. My ceremony and reception is located at the same venue therefore, we are holding our rehearsal for the ceremony in one area of the venue and the dinner in the area we will be having our reception. So I can’t just invite them for the dinner portion since they are at the same location and to have them be present for the rehearsal, I think would be awkward especially while were trying to figure stuff out.
Also the main reason I am struggling as to inviting dates is two of my fiancé’s groomsmen (they both having been dating these girls for some time but not married) girlfriends are VERY hard for me to tolerate. I do it and only my fiancé knows that they are driving me crazy lol. Is it super rude of me to just want peace and happy thoughts without two very boisterous, attention needy, not so tactful women attending my very close family/friend orientated rehearsal? I’m not trying to sound like a drama queen but inviting them to the wedding is about all I think I could take (one of the gf knew my fiance’s ex and several years ago when we first started dating would make rude comments to him about how we should break up etc. and he should try again with so-and-so therefore, she has never liked me. I have no hard feeling for the women for her past opinions but I don’t want that kind of energy glaring at me the day before my wedding lol) however, I feel as though I need to include all of them or none of them. So can I skip out on the dates or do I need to just tough it upJ Any suggestions??
Post # 11
yep, all SOs will be invited to the rehearsal dinner for us. Our bridal party is not that big so we’ll be ok 🙂
Post # 12
All our wedding party’s SOs are invited to our rehearsal dinner. Two were engaged but two were in relationships. I felt it was wrong to exclude them. otherwise it’s just awkward!