Do you need to let your ex know that you've moved on? [Poll]

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should he call his ex to let her know he is seeing someone?
    No! : (136 votes)
    94 %
    Yes! : (7 votes)
    5 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    1884 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @mnp:  nope! leave her alone and let her move on.

    Post # 4
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    2873 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I let my ex know that I started seeing someone two weeks after we stopped dating.  He totally threw a fit, and jumped to the conclusion that I was cheating.

    And I still voted for disclosure. It made me feel better to let him know.  I also knew with the group we were in, he would hear, and have the same reaction.  Much better getting it out of the way than let him fume and assume. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    453 posts
    Helper bee

    @mnp:  I think once you’re broken up, that seems to be the cue to move on. (But I’ve never been one of those people who break up, get back together, break up again, rinse and repeat.)

    Post # 6
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    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @mnp:  I mean…shouldnt she be moving on if they broke up anyhow? If he somehow left it open for interpretation saying “maybe, we’ll get back together” than he needs to contact her and make it clear that they are NOT getting back together.

    Post # 7
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    953 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Ah, absolutely not. How awkward would that be?

    hey! its me, your ex…just calling to let you know I’ve found someone new. k, thanks bye!

    Post # 8
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    4819 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    …I call that a dick move.

    Post # 9
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    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I had a friend who had agreed with her boyfriend of 2 years to do this when they broke up. Then of course he never phoned her 6 months later when he started seeing someone else. If I remember correctly I think she was sad/mad that he never let her know. But really.. if I was him I wouldn’t want to. That seems ridiculous at that point. Plus, if I was the new girl I would be like wtf are you letting her know for?

    Post # 10
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    2571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I vote no.  With FB and friends always willing to pass the good word, there’s no need to personally let the ex know you’ve moved on.

    Post # 11
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    1749 posts
    Bumble bee

    Unless they are talking about getting together again, there’s no reason to let the ex know. They’re done, which means that they don’t need to talk to each other about these things.  

    Like nightborn said, leave her alone and let her move on. 

    Post # 12
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    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I VOTED – NO

    This one is easy for me… a no brainer

    See, this is the sort of crap I don’t get…

    Generally speaking… an Ex, is an Ex, is an Ex, because they are an EX

    Lol, clear enough.

    You don’t owe that person a thing.  Infact, I am the type of gal who says… DO NOT LOOK BACK

    Once you are out of my life as a Dating Partner… we are done.

    (Marriage is a tad more difficult… all in favour of ending that cut & dry too… BUT if you have kids, that is never going to happen… which is the ONLY reason that anyone should give an Ex a “heads up”… Proper Etiquette says that if you become Engaged or Remarried, and you have an Ex-Hubby that you have kids with, then you should give them the courtesy of knowing you’ve moved onto another relationship… lol LEVEL in your life. )

     

    Post # 13
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    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Unless she contacts him trying to get back together then there is absolutely no need for him to say a word about moving on.

    Post # 14
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    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    What the heck for? Allow her to move on? Who’s to say she hasn’t already! And if she hasn’t, no telling her he’s dating someone new is going to force her to move on. It’s none of her business, she’s his EX.

    Post # 15
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    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    After my ex and I broke up – he’d always call and let me know he was seeing someone else. I don’t think it was done to help me but more so to try and rub it in my face. It didn’t bother me – I just found it immature and petty.

    Post # 16
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    744 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @mnp:  I think the only possible way this would apply is if they were on a “break” and she thinks they are in the process of working things out.  Then yes, I think he should say I’m dating someone else.  Other than that I say No.  If my ex called and told me Oh I’m dating someone I would think Eff You! haha

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