Do you or your SO fantasize about other people during sex?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Do you and/or your SO fantasize about others during sex?
    Yes I do, SO doesn't : (1 votes)
    1 %
    No, I don't, SO does : (2 votes)
    3 %
    We both do : (5 votes)
    7 %
    Neither of us do : (15 votes)
    21 %
    I do, IDK about SO : (27 votes)
    37 %
    I don't, IDK about SO : (23 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We dont – not yet anyway.  I can see this happening in the future though..probably after a few kids and a lot more years together

    Post # 5
    291 posts
    Helper bee

    Both of us fantasise about additional people occasionally, but not other people instead of each other (at least not for me, I can’t speak for him!). 

    Post # 6
    466 posts
    Helper bee

    Neither of us do.  Lol, at least he better not.  Or he is a dead man!  🙂

    Post # 7
    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I don’t…I don’t think I’m imaginative enough to do that haha! He might, I have no idea. But I mean, c’mon, I’m so damn sexy why would he need to 😉 I kid.

    Post # 8
    5968 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

     I just don’t want to know the details lol. Like don’t tell me that you were picturing kate upton while we were doing the dirty  I don’t wanna know! I feel like this is one of those things where ignorance is bliss totally applies. And really how would I ever truly know? Yea I trust DH to tell me the truth but his thoughts are his own so I can never REALLY know with 100% certainty.

    I have on occasion thought of someone else during self love time lol but not during sex with DH. I think a healthy fantasy once in a while isn’t so bad. I think it’s only a problem if it’s necessary to think of something or someone else to get things going. But if DH wants to have a kate upton moment then so be it…… just don’t tell me about it! lol

    Post # 9
    3828 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    ugh welll…i’ve never asked him. BUt i assume he doesn’t. And i dont, though i will admit i am one of those people who is ALWAYS all up in their head, and sometimes my brain wanders to other things.  Like “i should clean the floors after this” and then i’m like “SWIZZLE, focus here damn it”


    Post # 10
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    IDK what he thinks about, I’m not in his head.  I have on occassion. I don’t see a problem with it.

    Post # 11
    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Not always, but occasionally! Not specific people but more like thinking about a naughty video we watched or something…

    Post # 12
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Eh, it’s so normal to fantasize about someone else every now and then. As long as you don’t announce it to your partner (call out the wrong name OOPS!) it’s harmless. I’m guilty of it sometimes. If he does, so be it, as long as he doesn’t tell me. 

    Post # 13
    127 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Honestly, if he did I would not want to know. I don’t ask because I think it would be weird. Tongue Out

    Post # 14
    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I have once or twice, but I really don’t have the focus to keep some sort of fantasy going; I tend to just be really in the moment. I have no idea whether or not he does, and I really don’t want to know. What goes on in his head can stay there as far as that’s concerned 😉


    Post # 16
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    During sex I never have. I wouldn’t doubt that I may in time, but right now I don’t. I have no idea if my FI ever has, and I’m not going to bother to ever ask. I don’t care.

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