Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2011 - AnthonyÃ¢Â€Â™s Fine Dining
This may sound silly, but I feel very awkward about trying to catch the bouquet at a wedding when I’m already engaged! I caught the bouquet about a year ago at my cousin’s wedding…when I got engaged a few months later, my family loved to joke about how I was “next” afterall since I caught the bouquet. I have two good friends who got engaged AFTER I did, and they are each getting married BEFORE I am. It feels very weird to me to participate in their bouquet toss at their weddings when I was engaged even before they were; however, I don’t want to offend them since I will still technically be single. So…do I hafta?
Post # 3
Hm, I’m not sure what the etiquette is, but I stopped going for the bouquet. I feel like it would be a bit odd….like I’m still looking!
Post # 4
I stopped trying as well- which was good because I attended my first wedding where the garter was put on to the woman who caught the bouquet. Talk about uncomfortable, I would have been mortified if that was me!
Post # 5
haha oooh yes! I totally rip my shoes off & play! 🙂
I’ve been to 4 weddings since I got engaged & 3 of the 4 played a game instead of the traditional bouquet toss! I figure this is my last chance & I’d better join the fun while I can. What’s really kind of silly is that I love the bouquet toss, but I’m not having one at my wedding.
Post # 6
you don’t have to even if you weren’t engaged. if i wasn’t feeling the toss, i didn’t join in. simple as that. remember, no one can make you do what you don’t want to.
Post # 7
The last wedding I was at (and I was already engaged), people “pushed” me towards the bouquet toss, so I felt like I had to participate, but I also felt weird. I kinda just stood in the back and pretended like I was participating. 🙂
Post # 9
nobody remembers it, it’s just fun for a minute, and it’s not “saying” anything, plus you will help to fill out the field, and keep the whole thing from looking sparse… you don’t have to go for it either, but if it comes right at you, don’t just let it fall on the ground… go with the flow.
Post # 10
I thought this was a weird thing too! I went to FI’s coworker’s wedding a couple of months ago and when it was time for the toss the DJ called all of the single ladies out to the floor. So, being engaged, I remained seated. But then he said “even the ladies that are with boyfriends or are engaged! You’re technically still single!” I thought it was weird but I had some people urging me, so I just kind of stood to the side but went up with the crowd.
Post # 11
I don’t participate anymore…if people insist (as they always do) I just say that I heard it was bad luck for someone whowas already engaged to catch the bouquet & they leave me alone…
Post # 12
I never participate in the bouquet toss (I just hate it) and no one has ever been offended or said anything. You can always run to the loo if you sense it’s coming and you don’t want to do it. That’s usually what I do because even though I hate it/don’t want to do it, there’s always someone trying to cajole me into participating (as someone else said above).
Post # 13
I won’t, but I also tried not to participate before I got engaged. The second I felt it coming, I conveniently needed to go use the bathroom. Now when I am harassed about participating, I laugh and say “psh, I already know when I’m getting married” and then I’m left alone. I do think it would feel awkward to participate.
Post # 14
Not gonna lie…I love the bouquet toss. I’ll stand up for it until the day I’m married (less than 5 months!).
BUT, I’ve missed more than one toss because I was in the washroom or outside for a breather.
Do what you want. If it’s natural, go for it. If not, sit it out. No one will notice or, if they do, no one will remember. It’s really not that big of a deal.
Post # 15
I think it’s totally up to you whether you want to participate or not. I was engaged when I went to a friends wedding last summer, and I felt awkward going up to try and catch the bouquet, just because anyone that I knew at that wedding knew I was engaged already.
Post # 16
I play for fun…I stand in the back with my single friends (who all lament about how awkward it is, so I go, “no no i’ll go with you!!!”) and tell them I’ll bat it their way.