Do you personally bring gifts to engagement parties? (Poll)

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you bring gifts to engagement parties?
    Yes : (16 votes)
    33 %
    No : (24 votes)
    50 %
    Maybe/Other...explain please :) : (8 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 2
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    In my circle, engagement parties are NOT for gifts. We recieved a few cards at ours (obviously without money, just really lovely cards) but typically, engagement parties are for friends and family coming together to meet and mingle before the wedding.

    Expecting gifts at an engagement party seems kind of grabby to be honest. There’s plenty of gift giving opportunities tied to a wedding. You were in the right and you shouldn’t feel bad! 

    The host of my engagement party did tell me a few people called her and asked if it was a gift giving occasion, so I’m sure some people are just unclear or confused sometimes, or they bring a gift because they’re worried everyone else will. My host told them absolutely not to bring a gift. If someone felt compelled to bring a gift, then fine.

    Post # 3
    101 posts
    Blushing bee

    im not bringing gift  to engangement. 

    i think it’s a must to bring a gift 🙂 ussualy i just bring a card

    Post # 4
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’ve only been to one engagement party but we brought a nice bottle of wine and a card.  Most of the other guests brought cards, food, or wine.  I know that we didn’t need to bring anything, but I always feel odd if I visit someone’s house for a party without bringing something to contribute.  Some of the bride and groom’s immediate family gave bigger gifts (cash, serving set to use in the wedding, toasting flutes, etc.) and the couple seemed pretty surprised about it.

    Post # 5
    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I voted “no” but there are exceptions to the “rule” for me. If its close family (brother, sister, etc.) than I may buy something or give a giftcards. We had a small engagment party and recived candles, cards, frames, giftcards, and DH’s brothers and wives did get a pretty big gift but like I said there are exceptions to the “rule” in my opinion. 

    Post # 7
    7289 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Where I am they are a gift giving occassion. So as a guest I would personally never show up empty handed. 

    Post # 8
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    TheLadyA :  I am attending an engagement party where I know the bride is hoping to “raise money” for her wedding. I didn’t want to be a debbie-downer and burst her bubble and point out that not everyone knows to bring a monetary gift to the party. She is also hosting her own e-party which is a big no-no. E-parties are usually thrown for the bride and groom not given by the bride and groom. 

    But this is pretty typical in my area where a couple will have a big e-party in hopes of making money off the party to help save for a wedding celebration. 

    Post # 10
    601 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    Well I’ve never been to an engagement party but I might take like a small gift. At my engagement party, me & my fiance didn’t expect any gifts, we just wanted everyone to get a chance to meet but his grandparents gave us some cash & I had a friend that gave us a box of ornaments for our first Christmas together (our engagement party was in December).

    Post # 11
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’ve also never been to an engagement party, seems a little overkill to me. I wouldn’t bring a gift and I’d probably only go if it was just like a get together at a bar or something. There’s too many wedding related parties as it is. 

    Post # 13
    601 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    It was! Oh & she also gave us a wreath she had made. It was so thoughtful & it didn’t cost much to make!!

    Post # 14
    3833 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’ve never been to an engagement party, but I would probably bring a card and something small like a bottle of wine. I don’t consider them “mandatory” gift-giving events, though.

    Post # 15
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    It depends on the type of engagement party.  If it was more of a we’re at xyz bar, come celebrate and pay-your-own way, I don’t think I’d bring a gift.  But if it was a hosted event (at a bar, restaurant, or someone’s house), I can’t imagine not bringing a gift.  It’d probably spend about $50 – $100 depending on how close I was to the couple.

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