Post # 1
Just curious: How many of you Bees plan on being a stay at home mom, and what is your reasoning? We were having a conversation about this the other day at work, and I’m interested to hear your thoughts. I’m not currently pregnant, but have thought about this issue for the future!
Post # 3
I used to think it was ‘ideal’. Then I started working in a kindergarten setting and I noticed how well-adjusted and school-ready the children were who did NOT come from a stay-at-hom-Mom situation. Now I plan to happily send my children to preschool while I work.
Post # 4
Right now, my plan is to head back to work after we have children. I can take a year off and they will hold my spot, so that may be an option. I feel like I would get bored staying at home!
However, things may change when we reach that stage in our lives. I can’t see me staying home full-time, though. If we could comfortably make it on his job, I might. FI wants me to stay at home. His mom did with him and his brother. We’ll see!
Post # 5
No, but my FI has told me on several occasions that he plans on being a stay at home dad.
Post # 6
Yes; until they are atleast 3. Then maybe I’ll go back to work full-time. I definitely will once they’re in grade school. I’m hoping I can do seasonal tax work or part-time book-keeping.
Post # 7
I’m not sure yet…I think it will be financially feasible for us if DH continues in his current job, but I don’t know if I WANT to stay home. I could see wanting to stay home for like the first year, but then I feel like it’s so hard to get back into the job market.
Post # 8
If everything works out as planned, then I will be a stay-at-home mom until our children go off to preschool. Then I’d like to work part-time or as a teacher so that I can get home when the children get home.
Post # 9
I voted for “Not Sure Yet”, but that’s because I plan to stay home part-time so I wasn’t sure how to vote. I hope to work 3 days per week and spend two full days at home.
Post # 10
I grew up with parents that both worked and I turned out fine! Personally, I don’t think I could handle being home all the time. I know you have a kid to do stuff with but I’m not a big household maintainer so I wouldn’t spend a lot of time on the home.
Post # 11
If we have children, I would like to be the one to be with them until they are in school. I don’t have family to watch them. As far as my career goes, I plan get my MFA first, keep making art whether we have kids or not, and possible get a teaching job. So, I would be a stay-at-home mom sort of, but I could never stop doing what I do. I have a friend who had kids just so she wouldn’t have to work, and I could never do that because I am a motivated work-a-holic. I just hope to be good enough to make it working for myself.
Post # 12
Because of my career choice (and subsequent educational debt), being a stay-at-home mom will not be a viable option. I may choose to work part-time though when they are really little (it depends on my job situation though). Basically, I inadvertely made the decision when I chose my career… Honestly, I can’t imagine staying at home though. I would not be happy without academic stimulation and contributing to society in a broader sense.
Post # 13
I wish, but it will never happen!
Post # 14
Well, kinda. We own our own software company which hopefully within the next year or so will be profitable enough for us both to quit our day jobs and do full time. Working for ourselves will allow us to be home with our future kid(s) or at the very least, work around their schedules.
My mom was a SAHM for the majority of my childhood. While I always thought it was annoying having her be class mom and stuff, looking back I think I would have much preferred that to having her work.
Post # 15
FI & i don’t have children yet, but when we do we plan on me staying home with the children. i work as a nanny, so i guess you could say i make a living doing a lot of what SAHMs do- i love it! i may work a little. part time a couple days a week, just so i feel like i have a little of my own money, but i could bring a little one with me.
Post # 16
In Canada we get one year paid mat leave, so I will stay at home for the first year. There is an option in our mat leave benefits to work 5 hours a week without penalty on your mat leave, which I might do if I find I need more “grown up time”. Then after the first year I will work part time (in my current position which is 1/2 time). I pick up extra shifts now, but might not once we have kids.