Post # 1
I’ve been wondering…
How do bee’s feel about asking on boards if others like their er ring choices?
Would you ever ask on a ring post what others opinions were on your ring or what you should buy for an er?
I’m from the school of thought that if others don’t like my er they don’t have to look at it. I stressed over what I wanted like everyone else. But, ultimately I bought it and the fact that I love it is all that matters to me.
But, I’ve always wondered how some people may view the posts asking for help or opinions on what they should get for e-rings.
Post # 3
I know my ering is beautiful. That’s all that matters. I love her, can’t stop staring at her, she’s perfect.
Post # 4
I could care less what anyone thinks. They don’t have to wear it!
Post # 5
I like what like and I dont need any outside influence when it comes to jewelry. Its between me and my man. So no, I would never post up a help me with a ring thread.
Post # 6
@chica95110: I think I would only post to say “here’s my e-ring, and I love it! Don’t you think it’s gorgeous?!”. I wouldn’t post a “do you like this” or “which one should I choose” because people are very honest, and I think that any negativity or bees voting for me to choose my 2nd choice ring over my first choice would affect my feelings about it and make me more indecisive. I saw a response today that was like “I voted for #_ because I’ve seen all the other ones before”. I mean…duh! There are very few e-rings that are completely unique. I mean, we’ve all seen a million solitaires before but they are still popular and beautiful! The only opinions that matter are mine and SO’s. I’m also a sensitive person so I’m more susceptible to negativity and I’d rather not deal with it.
Post # 7
Oh I know some people don’t like my e-ring. It’s not to everyone’s taste but I like it. It doesn’t bother me because it’s just a fact of life. Not everyone is going to like everything!
Post # 8
When I got engaged, my former coworkers said my ring was “cute”. It wasn’t anything like we had looked at- we wanted to get a 3/4 ct round solitaire in white gold. He gave me his late mothers marquise in yellow gold. It’s not a big diamond by any means but it means the world to me. I absolutely love it and wouldn’t have it any other way. Who cares if other people think it’s too small?
Post # 9
I totally agree with everyone… But, I do have to say I love all jewelry. I would never ever say, ‘Hell no, I hate that!’ If its shiney I will wear it without thinking twice.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I wouldn’t change it if I found out someone didn’t like it, but being honest it would probably hurt my feelings a bit. (unless what they didn’t like about it was stone size, then f–k’em! lol)
Post # 11
@chica95110: I’m with you! I love my ring… My FI picked it out and to me that’s the only thing that matters 🙂
Post # 12
I wouldn’t want to hear it if someone didn’t like it, because it would hurt my feelings, but it wouldn’t change my mind about it. But I voted “yes” that it matters, because I have a small ring as he proposed while we were in college, and the number of times people have commented on how small it is (“when is he getting you a real ring?” has been asked twice) has really gotten to me. We’re getting a sparkly setting for it soon, because I’ve always wanted one and he knew that but couldn’t afford it till now, but if I’m being honest the push for it to be soon rather than years after the wedding is because people have made me really insecure about my current one. It makes me feel selfish and lame, but ugh I hate it when people talk down about its petiteness and I think a sparkly shank will keep that at bay.
Post # 13
I picked mine out, so i love it. I don’t really care what others think, and it’s not traditional (no diamond), but it’s me! It’s handmade, from reclaimed silver and sapphires.
Post # 14
I wish I didn’t care, but I will admit that the one and only time a total stranger said my ring was pretty, it was a huge deal to me.
Post # 15
Not really. Nobody comments on my ring and I like it that way. When I first got engaged one of my co-workers called it “so cute and delicate” and even that didn’t bother me. Didn’t realize it was typically perceived as an insult until I found the Bee! I do not like attention for any reason and I don’t particularly care about jewelry, either.
Post # 16
I can understand why people would want other’s opinions on their ring, but that wasn’t really something I took into consideration when choosing my own. Don’t get me wrong, it makes me happy when people tell me it’s pretty, but if someone doesn’t like it I don’t really mind. I am fully aware that it is not everyone’s style, because it isn’t really “classic”, traditional, or understated and lots of people prefer their ring to fit under those categories.