Do you really need a planner? She needs to be fired and I still have no invites

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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2657 posts
Sugar bee

It sounds like you are making the right decision.  If she is already unable to keep appointments and making excuses, I doubt it will improve on the day of the wedding.  I am not having a planner; I have some organized friends who are helping me out.  I feel fine with that decision, but I can totally understand if you feel more comfortable using a professional to handle these tasks.

Check your contract because the cancelation process will vary.  Generally, you will need to notify her in writing (letter or email) and any deposits you have made so far will not be refundable.  Document every interaction you have had with her so far – emails, texts, etc.  If she comes back and says you can’t cancel, use this evidence to show that she has not fulfilled her obligations to you.

Post # 4
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1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

JJSoon2bwife14:  When is your wedding? Is it really you late to switch planners? This woman does not appear trustworthy at all. I’d document everything and tell her she needs to do what you’re paying her for. 

Post # 5
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

JJSoon2bwife14:  Wow, this planner sounds beyond unprofessional. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this!

I fired my planner halfway through, because she wasn’t doing what she said she would and she never responded to my emails. Before firing her, I read through the contract, which stated that if I were to end the contract I had to do so in writing and would forfeit any money already paid to her. I lost about $600, which sucked, but it was worth it to ditch the headache she caused. 

I did hire a new day-of planner and I am so glad I did. I think whether or not a day-of planner is necessary depends on your situation. I needed one since we were not able to get into the venue until the morning-of to setup. I did a ton of DIY decorations (lace runners, candleholders) and my MOH did the flowers, so we didn’t have a florist to come in and setup that stuff for us. We did hair/makeup and photos before the ceremony and there is no way we could have setup on our own. My planner and her assistant took care of all the setup and tear down. It was also really nice to have a day-of planner, because she kept us on schedule. The day went by so quickly and my mind was on everything but the schedule, so there’s no way I could have kept us on time myself and I would not have felt comfortable saddling a guest with that responsibility. My planner also dealt with vendor questions the day-of, which was awesome. The last thing I wanted to do was field questions from catering, the DJ, etc. My planner allowed me to fully enjoy the day, without worrying about any of the logistics. I’d hire her again in a heartbeat! 🙂

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Post # 6
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

JJSoon2bwife14:  For reference, my wedding was on September 1, 2013 and I fired my planner in late April 2013. I hired my new, amazing planner in mid-May, just three and a half months before the wedding. The biggest risk I ran was trying to find a planner who was still available for my date. Though many of the planners I contacted in late April/early May were already booked, I did find several who were competent and available.

As far as going about firing your current planner, thoroughly check your contract and if it doesn’t state anything specifically, send her an email stating that you are terminating the contract and ask for all of your money back. She might not give you any cash back, but if there is nothing stated in the contract about refunds, it could be argued that she should offer a refund.

Post # 8
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3878 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Why are you doing this all by text?

If you want to fire her, call her and tell her that, and then follow up with an email (inlcuding your expectations and reasoning for a refund), so you both have it in writing.

 

Post # 9
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6279 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i only used the day of coordinator that the hotel provided.  my mother and i planned my entire wedding and had no problems doing it ourselves.

Post # 12
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

JJSoon2bwife14:  If you feel like you can plan things yourself, I would consider getting a day of wedding coordinator. Basically you do the planning, and then on the day of they are in charge of making sure what you planned goes how you planned it, so you can enjoy the day.

Post # 13
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3878 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

a_day_at_the_fair:  No, a text is writing (albeit not very professional). My suggestion, though, was to call the planner, then follow up the phone call with a written record of the situation. Email made more sense to me that following up by text, that’s all. Sorry if that wasn’t clear!

It’s a moot point it the planner won’t speak by phone though – which in and of itself would worry me if I were the OP.

Post # 14
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

The answer to your original question of “is a wedding planner necessary?” is no.

I would highly recommend a day of coordinator or decorator/florist to put the reception all together for you, so on the actual day of your wedding you’re not trying to do everything. But for invitations, RSVPs, catering, cake, etc you can do that yourself without her drama. 

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