(Closed) do you really write thank you notes for non-wedding related gifts?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: do you send out thank you notes for b-day & xmas gifts? (and other non-wedding related gifts/events)
    yes : (39 votes)
    52 %
    no : (25 votes)
    33 %
    other - explain below : (11 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I usually do when it comes to my older relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, parents, etc).

    Post # 4
    Member
    46141 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes I do- thanks to my mother’s upbringing.

    My mom was really strict about this.

    If she sent children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews etc a gift and you didn’t send a thank you note, she gave you one more chance.

    With the next gift she enclosed a self-addressed stamped envelope with a blank thank-you card.

    If you didn’t send it, that was the last gift you received from my mom.

    Thank you notes for Christmas cards have been sent the first week of January.

    Mom would be proud.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I write thank yous for every gift we get.  I feel bad otherwise.  It’s not like we get a ton of gifts, but Christmas and birthdays we get several from different sources.  Everyone gets a note.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My mother was overbearing and forced me to, so I actually usually do not!  (Self defeating rebellion-)  But I think it is a nice gesture and I try to.

    Post # 7
    Member
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I send a thank you note for gifts that are NOT from close family members.  If it’s my parents, sister, etc. I don’t send a formal thank you.  I just tell them over the phone or when I see them.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I send thank-yous to family members (outside of my immediate family) who buy me birthday and Christmas gifts. And any other gift that seems extra-ordinary (hyphen intentional).

    Post # 11
    Member
    3758 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I usually call them to say thank you if they aren’t there when I am opening it. I suck at mailing things and I never get around to it…

    Post # 13
    Member
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have a stack of 20 adorable thank-you cards with snowmen on them. They were for this year’s gifts, but now they’re for next year. UndecidedI have all the good intentions, I just never seem to get around to it. We never had to write them as children, though, instead we called the relative or friend that gave us a gift. I hope to teach my kids (and FI!) to do thank-you notes for more than just the wedding, but we’ll see how that goes. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    412 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I never have and was never forced to write Thank You notes. Did them within a week of the wedding, shower and Bachelorette party but other than that I have never sent one. Sealed  I know I’m bad. I was never asked to do this as a kid so I never really think about it. I always call the person and thank them but thats all. 

    I have an Aunt who is crazy about Thank You notes and has her kids write them for everything.

    Post # 15
    Member
    302 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I wish I could say I was that good but Emily Post I am not.  I do write thank you cards at times, but usually I just call to say thank you. 

    I will say that have sent gifts to people in recent years and never got so much as a text or email from them… which I thought was really rude.  I can say that I’ve never been THAT bad.

    Post # 16
    Member
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I thank people in person if they are there when I open the gift – to send them an additional note seems redundant in this case. If they are not there I will either send a note or make a call to thank them kindly for their generous gesture.

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