Post # 1
so i TOTALLY understand writing thank you notes for your wedding, your bridal shower, etc…basically the rule is ANY time you get a gift, you must send a thank you note.
but my question is, who really does this in “real life”. in my case, i am talking that i have been going out for my birthday every year with my friends since my sweet 16 (i am 30 now). and most of them usually bring me a birthday gift. as i do for them when i go out for their birthdays. then there is xmas, the past few years i can only afford to get my family and FI a gift, but there was a time when my friends and i exchanged xmas gifts….and for these types of occasions, i do not hand write thank you notes and mail them out! i thank them sincerely in person when they give me the gift.
but i am asking out of sheer curiosity because i have seen some posts where bees reply that ANY time they receive a gift, they send a note (as in for non-wedding stuff). i am curious how many people actually do this?
ps. this post was spawned by the fact that i am sitting here exhausted writing my thank you notes for my bridal shower! and i can imagine that if i did this every year, it would get a little repetitive and feel, i don’t know, less sincere.
Post # 3
I usually do when it comes to my older relatives (grandparents, aunts, uncles, parents, etc).
Post # 4
Yes I do- thanks to my mother’s upbringing.
My mom was really strict about this.
If she sent children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews etc a gift and you didn’t send a thank you note, she gave you one more chance.
With the next gift she enclosed a self-addressed stamped envelope with a blank thank-you card.
If you didn’t send it, that was the last gift you received from my mom.
Thank you notes for Christmas cards have been sent the first week of January.
Mom would be proud.
Post # 5
I write thank yous for every gift we get. I feel bad otherwise. It’s not like we get a ton of gifts, but Christmas and birthdays we get several from different sources. Everyone gets a note.
Post # 6
My mother was overbearing and forced me to, so I actually usually do not! (Self defeating rebellion-) But I think it is a nice gesture and I try to.
Post # 7
I send a thank you note for gifts that are NOT from close family members. If it’s my parents, sister, etc. I don’t send a formal thank you. I just tell them over the phone or when I see them.
Post # 8
I send thank-yous to family members (outside of my immediate family) who buy me birthday and Christmas gifts. And any other gift that seems extra-ordinary (hyphen intentional).
Post # 9
wow, i am surprised that so many people seem to do this!
with my friends, we all buy each other gifts every year, and we never send thank you notes! i think it would almost be silly of us to do so! i guess in a sense, we “thank” each other for the last gift by buying a gift when its their time to receive gifts. like if i didn’t get a bday gift from someone, i would not feel as obligated to get them a gift for their bday. that’s just how it is with my friends though. i didn’t even have their full mailing addresses until i asked for them for my wedding!
Post # 10
hmmm, maybe its because my friends ARE as close to me (if not closer) as my family. like i think if i started sending thank you notes now for bday gifts, they would think i am really weird!
Post # 11
I usually call them to say thank you if they aren’t there when I am opening it. I suck at mailing things and I never get around to it…
Post # 12
@cyndistar3: ya if someone was not there when i opened their gift, i would totally call or email. but i usually open the gifts in person and thank and hug them on the spot.
Post # 13
I have a stack of 20 adorable thank-you cards with snowmen on them. They were for this year’s gifts, but now they’re for next year. I have all the good intentions, I just never seem to get around to it. We never had to write them as children, though, instead we called the relative or friend that gave us a gift. I hope to teach my kids (and FI!) to do thank-you notes for more than just the wedding, but we’ll see how that goes.
Post # 14
I never have and was never forced to write Thank You notes. Did them within a week of the wedding, shower and Bachelorette party but other than that I have never sent one. I know I’m bad. I was never asked to do this as a kid so I never really think about it. I always call the person and thank them but thats all.
I have an Aunt who is crazy about Thank You notes and has her kids write them for everything.
Post # 15
I wish I could say I was that good but Emily Post I am not. I do write thank you cards at times, but usually I just call to say thank you.
I will say that have sent gifts to people in recent years and never got so much as a text or email from them… which I thought was really rude. I can say that I’ve never been THAT bad.
Post # 16
I thank people in person if they are there when I open the gift – to send them an additional note seems redundant in this case. If they are not there I will either send a note or make a call to thank them kindly for their generous gesture.