Post # 1
I was searching posts here and it seems like a LOT of us went over our original wedding budget, for one reason or another.
We are only having 50 people, an intimate outdoor ceremony. I have shopped around so intensely to find good deals. I called so many people, bargained, cut money where I could. Thinking of these individual costs, (venue, catering, officiant, entertainment, etc) it doesn’t seem like much.
Today I put everything in an excel spreadsheet and I wanted to CRY when I actually added it all up. How could I have been so careless? I am almost 50% over budget. We can afford to pay for these things, but I wish I would have sat down LONG ago and thought harder about this. It’s only one day!
When I originally did my budget, I guess I had no real idea of what things REALLY cost. Even though I have tried so hard, my heavens, this is turning into a huge chunk of change I did not mean to spend. I feel guilty and depressed. I was already sort of wishing we’d eloped (a lot of bad things have happened in the past 6 months with friends/family) and this is really making me regret it even more.
Please tell me this is just nerves and that I’ll feel better when the big day is actually here…I always get nervous/sick about large purchases, so I guess this is no exception. But my oh my…thinking of how else I could have spent this $$!!!
Post # 3
I think it is just nerves. We only had 24 guests, including us and the wedding party, and if I break it down to per person, I just want to be sick, but it was well worth it, and like you, I bargain shopped and cut corners everywhere I thought I could. That said, I wouldn’t have had our wedding any other way. As long as you aren’t going into debt for your wedding, it will all be worth it. You will be glad for the choices you made.
Post # 4
I think alot of us when we first started planning didn’t have a clue on how much alot of things were going to cost. Originally I was going to try to buy everything as I am not much of a DIY type, but I soon learned to at least try some things just to save money. It all is turning out better than I would have hoped, but geez, still trying to keep us in budget has meant sacrifices and more work than I bargained for.
Post # 5
It is crazy how you start with an idea of what is going to cost. Even with all the deals and DIY projects me and my mom did we still went overbudget. Luckily my parents covered our original budget and me and my fiance were able to save the difference. However i am happy we have everything we want for our big day and even though we went over budget it is still all paid for with no debt in the end so i am one happy bride to be.
Post # 6
“I think alot of us when we first started planning didn’t have a clue on how much alot of things were going to cost.”
My wedding will be very small- we started out with a 5k budget, and now it’s looking to be around 8k. I basically chalk it up to not doing my research before setting a budget/being unrealistic about how cheap I could get some things. I don’t think I’ll regret it in the long run, it’ll be exactly what I wanted 🙂
Post # 7
I regret going over budget in certain areas, but not for the most part. Our wedding was my dream wedding and as bad as I was feeling initially on the actual day I was so glad to have splurged on it.
You can’t go back and wear a better dress or add more decor or hire a better band after the fact, you only get one shot. So I say go with the best of everything within your budget and don’t feel bad about it.
Post # 8
Our rehearsal dinner was so much fun and so much cheaper than our wedding that I kind of regret not doing our wedding reception that way (RD was in a private lounge of a sushi restaurant with really posh sofas, great music system, great bartender – wedding reception was at a contemporary art museum. Also wonderful, but cost 10 times as much. Was it 10 times more fun? Nah)
Post # 9
I don’t regret going over budget at all. At the time I was freaking out, and my husband kept saying that it’s for our special day so it’s worth it. And in the end I think he was right. On our wedding day I wasn’t thinking about how much we spent, I was thinking about how perfect everything was.
Post # 10
My Future In-Laws offered us a set amount of money, and anything beyond that we cover. We put aside a number that we were comfortable contributing and are over that by close to $2K I would say… but I still have to tally everything up.
We’re spending much more than I would like on flowers, but it just sort of got away from me. We kept adding stuff. My FH really wanted floral centerpieces for our 16 tables, and I’m not very crafty so I couldn’t think of anything I could actually make.
There were some other things we didn’t think of too, like the ketubah. We still haven’t factored in bridal party gifts and thank you notes/postage… so I’m sure we will be more than $2K over budget by the time all is said and done.
I don’t know… I love weddings, but I feel like this is so wasteful. My Future In-Laws are incredibly generous, and I know I can’t dictate what they want to give us money for- but I sometimes think it’s silly. If they were to have given us x amount of dollars and said “have a wedding or do what you want with it” I would have pushed to put it toward a down payment or savings.