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@anniebear: I have a handful of people I wish I hadn't invited. Not much you can do. If the coworker is being catty, I'd just hope she doesn't come (and she likely won't).
@christalynn11: Thanks christalynn11, I think this girl will most likely attend because she told my other co-worker that she's looking forward to witnessing how cheap my wedding is :( She is so mean! How are you dealing with the annoyance, knowing that people you don't like are coming to your wedding? :(
I let my sister bring her boyfriend (of like 6 months) and i invited one co-worker bc she loves weddings and helped me out alot...i regret inviting both...it sounds harsh. Its to little to late now and the wedding has come and gone but it still there and i guess there is nothing you can do about it.
8 days after the wedding my sisters boyfriend confessed to sleeping with another girl before the wedding...so now i have a pic of this douche at the gift opening etc and my co-worker was in for it just bc she loves weddings. We did a huge group pic right after the ceremony and she came up and sked me to come with her and her husband as they would like to take a pic of us by this sign she likes...im surrounded by family and actual friends at this point, i asked "can i say no?" and then started walking to the reception....
She will be fine at the wedding, I wouldnt worry about it to much...if it gets worse just say she isnt invited anymore *laugh*
I regret giving my BM a +1. At the time she wasn't dating anyone and everyone was getting a plus one.
But now the guy that she is dating is a douche. At our friends wedding (we were both BMs) two weeks ago he got sooo drunk, acted like a fool and picked fights with BM all night till the point she was crying and fighting with him outside the reception.
And now he is coming to my wedding? UGH!
I am so glad you started this thread! we will be sending out out invites soon, there is a few people we sent STD's to that I dont want to invite im still debating.
@Baileyh: Omg, that's awful, makes me wonder if my friend's brand new boyfriend will last her until October. And I know what you mean about the co-worker who's only invited because she "loves weddings".. I have one of those too, in addition to the catty girl. What's upsetting is that I gave the catty girl a plus one for her husband. Now I wish I didn't give her two seats. Can I retract her plus one?? lol
@Future Mrs. Martin: Ugh, that's a situation that should allow us to retract invitations. If only there was a diplomatic way to do that, lol.
@mishelleez: I don't think there is any good way of not inviting someone that already got a STD! How are you going to do that?
@mishelleez: You're so lucky, you only sent STD's. You can always send a message saying there have been changes in plans and that you won't be able to invite them after all. For me it's a bit too late, I've already given the invites to this girl that is so mean to me. And her husband was invited too!! Uggh.. I'm totally kicking myself.
I seriously can't stand one of my BM's boyfriend. He and I don't get along, but of course I have to invite him because he's her BF. After the wedding and reception, my in-laws are hosting a private dinner for the bridal party and our immediate families, and he'll be there as well. I told my MOH to keep him away from me.
I honestly wish we hadn't sent STDs. I changed my mind about A LOT of people after that but of course still invited them, and some came! Your guest list will never be perfect, sadly.
Ugh that is awful. She's only attending your wedding for basically the free food and the chance to talk smack about your wedding. The mis manners side of me says to suck it up because there is no polite way of dis-inviting a wedding guest. In the end, you would have to be the"bigger" person.
However, the other side of me says that it just seems so wrong to invite someone who is behaving so rudely!! You said you guys use to be good friends with. Is there any way to fix the friendship?
I regret giving my BM a +1 for her on again off again boyfriend of 6+ years whom she cries over EVERY SINGLE TIME she gets drunk!!! Literally last weekend I went out with her and him and she was crying to me by 11:30 because they have a horrible relatoinship!
Then I told her we were all getting our nails done the day before the wedding and she was like "Well I just feel so bad for him what is he going to do by himself!?" He has never cared about her and I'm sorry he can either stay in his room or lounge by the pool!
I am so afraid she is going to be crying over something with him at our wedding!!
@anniebear: Well, in my case some of the people are family - so it's not been fun. We have a lot of people who decided to make comments, start fights within the family and be completely rude. So I wish I could un-invite all of them, basically. I don't deal with it well - spent most of my night last night crying about it! LOL I'm kind of emotional though... so no advice there, sadly.
As far as handling her being invited, I agree with the PP that if at one point, you two were good enough friends that you were happy to invite her, you should try again to talk to her about things. I think I would send her an email and say that you feel the distance between you and I would also explain that you have heard some comments through the grapevine and that you would like to give her the opportunity to set the record straight. Ask her to coffee and let the ball fall into her court. Yeah, it's passive - but it also means she will have time to think about what you have said before blurting something out.
Depending on her response (or lack of one) I actually would dis-invite her unless she is willing to talk this through with you ahead of time. She sounds like a bit of a frenemy.
I think these stories always concern a co-worker. I invited all of my sales team, only 3 people. One is a family friend and would have been invited anyway, one cannot come which is fine but the other one has RSVP'ed yes. Since she would be alone I told her she could bring her BF. I am not too sure about it but I didn't want her to be alone. I may regret this later... but what is done is done.
There were literally 3 people at our wedding who were invited with a guest and they were all special circumstances.
@MissChirpie: Good idea! Stay as far away from him as possible.
@daniellemybelle: Thanks so much for that comment, you are so right, the guest list won't be perfect. So sad, but true :(
@TwinkleToesJMU: Yes, exactly, she is only attending the wedding for the free food and the chance to criticize anything that's less than luxurious. I will try to fix things with her but I'm a bit reluctant because of how b*tchy and mean she's been. I don't like confrontation :(
@clarebee: Aww, I feel bad for you. Drama at your own wedding is not fun :(
@christalynn11: Like you, I am also emotional about this, but I haven't cried, I've just been so mad at myself for being an idiot and inviting these people. I feel like the biggest idiot in the world right now. But yes, I will hopefully try to talk to her and see if our friendship is salvagable. Thank you so much!
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I invited my co-worker whom I was good friends with when I started working here. However, since I got a promotion she has been really frigid, b*tchy and catty. She never wants to have lunch with me anymore, she has been making insulting jokes about my wedding, and she is always snapping at me. Most recently, I bought a cake for our other co-worker's birthday, and this girl took a slice before we could even bring it out and sing Happy Birthday. I pulled her aside and asked her if she was mad at me, to which she replied "No I'm not but I'm busy I can't talk right now."
I am starting to regret inviting this girl to my wedding. Too bad we can't retract invitations.
Has anybody experienced anything like this? What did you do about it??