Post # 1
I see threads all the time about “this person didn’t give a gift and i know has money because this and that” or “this person came with a partner and 4 kids and gave us $30 inside of a $1 card” or “i was shocked that they didn’t bring a card”. ALWAYS prefaced by “i know you’re not supposed to expect gifts” or “it’s not like i demand gifts”.
for me, i don’t even remember who gave gifts or not. i remember certain things that are more special (like my MIL got us a kitchenaid, or x and y got me this Anthropologie stuff that I love, things like that); but in general? I have NO IDEA. wrote thank yous as gifts arrived and forgot about it. cards? i don’t even know where they are.
how about you?
Post # 3
@bebero: I think I would remember, I take these kind of things to heart. I love cards and the sentiments in them. Although I would certainly not judge someone if they gave me a $1.00card lol.
Post # 4
DH and I both have excellent memory and we had a relatively small guest list (~70 guests = ~40 gifts) and we both absolutely remember exactly who gifted what and what the dollar amount was (if it was a check).
Post # 5
@bebero: i take stuff like that to heart, I remember who did and didn’t get me christmas and birthday presents as well. I will notice and I will remember. I don’t expect much from my family as they will all be travelling a great distance but if I don’t get at least a card from them I’ll be upset.
Post # 6
I remember a good amount – but the ones that stick out ate people who were like oh your gift is on its way then it never actually comes. Not tht I care if you don’t give a gift, but it’s kind of tacky to say that to someone randomly then never send anything. We def ha a few guest who did that and they are the same people who did it to my sister when she got married.
Post # 7
@MrsWBS: lol! why say anything, right?
Post # 9
Yup! We had a spreadsheet so when we wrote thank you notes we could incorporate the gift in the thank you.
Post # 10
I remember virtually all of them… and have a spreadsheet in case I don’t 😉
Post # 11
@Peachytalk: We had someone give us an $8 card (WITH $100 inside). We were like “Who the HELL spends $8 on a CARD?” I prefer the $1 ones! There’s no reason to ever buy a card like the one we got.
OP- I do remember what we got for gifts, but that’s my thing–I have a crazy memory for unimportant details (I’m also pretty great at Jeopardy). I definitely didn’t judge anyone for a lack of gift, though. 6 of our 42 guests were college seniors, and 10 of our guests had small children!
Post # 12
I absolutely remember everyone who gave gifts and what they gave! And by extension, who didn’t give gifts.
Post # 13
We invited 160 guests, 130 attended and I remember who sent a card, who gave us a gift, what they gave or amount of money they gave and who didn’t.
Post # 14
Didn’t you need to figure it out to write thank yous?
We like to let friends and family know as we use their gift. I made salsa for the first time sent a picture text to the friend who gave us the Ninja 🙂
We don’t remember to keep score we remember to be grateful.
Post # 15
Not married yet, but I remember Christmas and birthday gifts.
It might be petty, but if a friend didn’t even make me a card for my birthday, I’m not going to go out and buy her anything bigger than a box of candy for her birthday. Not that I wouldn’t be friends with her, but just because I don’t want to create an uncomfortable imbalance.
Post # 16
I remember who gave gifts because I wrote their names down for the thank-yous.
I don’t remember who didn’t give a gift because truthfully, I don’t care. I don’t need a card to validate my marriage.