Post # 1
Okay, I know no one wants to cop to being resentful of their friends… but sometimes it’s hard to see others in relationships where they get to spend so much time together and maybe not appreciating it.
I have a good friend who is in a similar situation to me, and she is constantly criticising other couples. I can’t help but wonder if it’s because she’s jealous, since she’s so far away from her SO.
Do you find that you resent others who are in Short Distance Relationships (I like that, MrBee!), or even in Shorter-Than-You Distance Relationships? Or are you more happy for them that they don’t have to endure what you do?
Post # 3
I’m happy for them. No resentment. I actually sometimes feel sorry for them. I tend to think them spending so much time together drives them nuts. I am about an hour away from Mister; which is really not LDR in the traditional sense, but it is pretty far when your friends tend to see their SO daily or every other day because they live like 10 minutes from each other. I appreciate the distance we have and don’t desire to have what they have because it tends to be a little bit much for my tastes. But you know, to each its own. I just like my “me time” and so does Mister, so LDR works for us.
Post # 4
I do this sometimes. Recently I heard a friend complaining that she only gets to see her husband “for dinner and bedtime.” I realize that’s frustrating for her, but I would kill to see my sweetie at dinner every night!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t say resent, but I guess I could say I was a little jealous of a friend before. We were both the same driving distance away from our boyfriends, but she only had classes on Tuesday/Thursday, and she also must have been rich because she drove home to visit him every weekend Thursday night-Tuesday morning with her huge SUV. I guess I wasn’t too jealous of her monthly gas bill though, haha. Other than that, I try not to compare our relationship to anyone else’s.
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I’m not in an LDR anymore, but I just wanted to add my story:
My cousin and I used to be roommates and we were both in an LDR, but about a year after we started living together, my FI moved to be in the same town as us, so she was still in an LDR and I wasn’t. I can understand some jealousy and resentment, but she pretty much made us feel terrible every time we hung out. It was kind of miserable for both of us!
Post # 7
oh, in my worst moods i am jealous of EVERYONE. friends, strangers i see on the street. even high school kids. sigh. i’m a mess. while i would to be able to see my boy without much coordination i don’t begrudge anyone else. i do try really hard to not let my sadness come through when i’m hanging out with everyone when i’m really missing my boy. no one wants to be a buzz killington!
Post # 8
Long live the SDR! Well, the acronym at least…
I think in a lot of ways, LDRs are inherently exciting… you always have something to look forward to, and absence *does* make the heart grow fonder!! This may be the rationalization talkin’ though…
Post # 9
Haha I really like the SDR acronym 🙂 I don’t really resent my friends who get to be with their significant others…I am more happy for them and looking forward to the day that I can also be in a SDR!!!
Post # 10
I don’t have any resentment towards my SDR friends! It was my choice to get into a long distance relationship.
As y’all know: LDR’s are only for the dedicated. It’s tough to be in one, but very rewarding. Honestly, I don’t think the majority of my SDR friends could handle the pressure and stress of an LDR.
Some of them cry after being away from their SO’s for a day or two. Thats probably the only time I get annoyed… its like “Welcome to a tiny little taste of my world”. I try to be sympathetic, but not really. It’s like “Aww… get a grip.”
Post # 11
I have to admit that I did have a little bit of resentment for people in SDR relationships but that might have been attributed to teenage high school angst!
Post # 12
They may be lucky enough to live with the ones they love, but my beloved is a much bigger catch. (I would never actually say that to them, of course!)
Post # 13
I have no problem with it. I’m happy, they’re happy, that’s good enough for me!