Post # 1
FUUUUUUUUUUCK! I tried to write this post, hit the wrong thing and now I have to start over.
Ok love my in-laws. Do not say I love you but I write love on cards. We have an awesome relationship, so it has nothing to do with the way we get along. I just don’t run around saying I love you to people. Also I think I can count on y hands the amount of times I have heard any of them say I love you to another family member.
Not upset about this, just an interesting topic I think
Post # 3
Same as you. Love my in laws too, but I don’t express it by saying “I love you.” And I’ve never really heard them say it, so there’s that.
Post # 4
@EncoreBridetoBe: I do say that I love them and they say the same back. I said it a handful of times before we got engaged, but only within the past few years. Now that we’re engaged I say it more often. They’ve always been good at telling one another that they love each other – the boys even kiss their parents on the cheek before bed (seriously, its adorable) – so I think that just naturally translated to me when they got to know me. After 6 years I’m like one of the kids. Lol!
Post # 5
We do the “Love you! Drive safe! Bye!” thing when we’re leaving, But not like “Oh, MOM! I just LOVE you!”
Post # 6
@EncoreBridetoBe: My answer would be
“Yes when I have to like when leaving their house or ending a phone conversation. Since we first started dating.
But that wasn’t an option, so I voted “other”
Post # 7
@EncoreBridetoBe: My mom says it to my SO now and then, which I think is sweet but super wierd too. She’s only seen him a handful of times over the years, but I know that she just loves him because I do, and he treats me right. It still seems strange though everytime she says it.
@BrandNewBride: Yeah we do the “Drive safe, love you, bye” thing with his mom too.
Post # 8
They’re not an “I love you” family, but mine is. Like, my family says “Love you” on autopilot to end all phone conversations and everytime we’re leaving after a visit. His family never used to say it to us and he never says it on the phone with them (which I find super weird, but I guess that’s just not their dynamic). Lately though we’ve been getting the “love you guys!” as we’re leaving after a visit from them, and I think it’s a great sentiment. I’m pretty sure this will increase overall in his family once there are grandkids around (they don’t have any yet).
Post # 9
MIL says “I love you” at the end of conversations so I always say it back. I probably wouldn’t ever say it if she didn’t say it first.
Post # 10
“Love you” at the end of a conversation or when leaving each other’s company.
Started at no particular point.
Saying it when we just started dating would seem a little phony to me. I didn’t even love him when we just started dating!
Post # 11
Hell would freeze over first.
I’ve never said it to my own parents – and they’ve never said it to me, so to people I’m not related to who I don’t even like?
There’s more chance of me going to Mars.
Post # 12
@EncoreBridetoBe: this is a good thread. I like my future in laws very much But I am not comfortable exchanging I love yous with them at all. That was never said once in my house growing up by anyone or to anyone. I tell my FI and my pup that I love them and that’s it. My FMIL has said it a few times in text to me & I just respond with some xoxos or something, it’s a little awkward. If/when she says it in person I have my FI with me to handle the response.
Post # 13
It’s more of an, “much love & hugs” kind of thing, we say it at the end of convos, be it on the phone, in person, texting or emails.
Post # 14
@Baal: + 1. Except I do like my FIL’s. I’m still not about to say it to them when I don’t say it to my own mother!
Post # 15
No. I never even thought about this, honestly. I say I love you to my family, but not his.
Post # 16
I couldnt imagine telling them that, ever. I cant see them ever telling me that either.
My FI has told my mom he loves her before though. Haha.