Post # 1
And also, do you invite vendors such as the officiant (who technically only has to be at the ceremony) to the reception?
Our photographer is a friend of my FI, and my mom said we didn’t have to send him an invite because we already have a contract with him. What’s the proper etiquette here? Obviously, he’s on the “official” guest list with the caterer since he’ll be there all evening, but does he get an invite in the mail as well?
Thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 3
you don’t send vendors invites – that’s what contracts are for.
it’s polite to invite the officiant and spouse to the reception. if you don’t have a relationship with him/her, chances are they’ll decline.
Post # 4
I think if its a “friendor” and there is no contract then yes you should send them an invitation.
I think it is typically nice to include the officiant to the reception (aka meaning you have to send them an invite) but this really may only be if you personally know them or are comfortable with them.
The one thing I forgot to do, was keep an invitiation aside so our photographer could photograph it. I didn’t want to send her one in the mail because it might get beat up but I wish I had one for her on the day of.
Post # 5
We know our officiant, so they got an invite. Our photographers are not personal friends, so they didn’t get one.
Post # 6
@caszos: thanks for the advice about saving an invitation! Mine are at my mom’s right now so I’ll have to ask her to save one for the photographer.
Our photog is a “friendor” I guess but we do have a contract with him (he isn’t cheap–even with the 20% discount he is giving us). So are you saying that if we DO have a contract with him, there’s no need for an invite (as @kitzy said)?
As for the officiant, we’ve only met her once, but she’s great and I’d like to invite her to the reception–though she’s married so I guess we would be inviting both she and her husband.
Post # 7
I agree that if its a friendor (regardless of how close you are with them) you should invite them to the reception and send an invitation. Our officiant and musician were both friendors and we sent invitations to both and both came to the reception. If you are having a destination wedding and any of your vendors are traveling to get there you should also invite them to the reception.
Post # 8
@Pomapoo: Your contract is their invite.
BUT if they are a friendor, I’m sure it’s a nice gesture.
Post # 9
No unless they are friendors and i actually knew them beforehand