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Do you send FB friend requests to your work friends

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    luli29    October 9, 2010   Massachusetts

    I'd like to add some work friends on fb, but I feel so awkward about it.  First off, a lot of these people aren't "friends" in the sense that we hang out, but we talk, are friendly, I like them, etc.

    I just feel that if I send a request, they'd ignore it, and then it would be awkward whenever I see them. 

    Do any of you friend your colleagues? 

     
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    MademoiselleL    August 24, 2012   Vancouver, BC (wedding in Maui)

    I do sometimes, if I talk to them outside of work or they are already friends with other coworkers on fb.

     
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    Mrs. Fireworks    July 21, 2012   Chicago

    I'm friends with a lot of my co-workers on FB, even my company's CEO! I've gotten requests from some of them, but others were requested by me.

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    Nope, I like to keep work people at arms length and don't want them too involved in my personal like.  Not that I put much on FB anyways because I can't figure out the "grouping" people thing.  I do have one from my old job, but we never worked together at the same time and I am super close with her parents seperate from my friendship with her.

     
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    Mrs.tobe    September 30, 2011   the middle of there

    I've got quite a few work friends on FB.

    It's been both parties doing the requesting. Sometimes me, sometimes them. Or I have brought it up before in conversation when something is sadi about it, like: "oh, are you on FB? You should find me!"

     
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    Lee_Ann    October 20, 2012   Pittsburgh

    I'm friends with a few co-workers, and a few ex-cowokers.  I work with a small group of people 2-4 others depending (high turn-over rate). So we all know each other pretty well even if we don't hang out after work.  If a co-worker requested me on facebook, I would accept and not think anything of it.

     
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    Koolbeans621    January 1, 2017  

    No....Never, I actually hide the fact I have a facebook account from anyone that I might ever do business with in the near or far future. I have an extremely offensive sense of humor and me and SO use FB to troll his family on a regular basis. Since I work for a college at the moment, I am fairly certen that my colorful humor would get me fired.....In fact I have actually consider creating a business account just for networking that wouldn't be invovled with my cheeky shenanigans. 

     
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    When I was working part time jobs and internships I would request co-workers, so at least I would accept their requests. I requested less then half my friends list though, most people asked me and I accepted. I've never been big on sending them out idk why. Now that I am at a full time job I wouldn't facebook anyone here. Most people don't have one anyway, I am the youngest by a few years at 24. I am linked to co-workers on LinkedIn though.

     
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    As_You_Wish    June 16, 2012  

    I hate having people from work on my facebook. I have one of my bosses on FB but that's because he sent me a friend request one day and then stood at my desk waiting until I accepted his friend request. It was awkward. Tongue Out

     
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    FutureMrsCassar    May 4, 2013   Malta

    nope, definitely not. at the end of the day, they will always be just colleagues and I limit how much I tell them about my personal life. I actually have them blocked, so they don't even see that I have profile....some of them can be quite fiesty, so I wouldn't want them to have access to info on my personal life.

     
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    HisIrishPrincess    March 23, 2012  

    I only have a couple from work, that are my friends outside of work.  I have someone that has friend requested me in August and i'm ingnoring it.  She works in another building so I don't see her much.  She lives near me and I don't want her to figure out where I live based on the pictures on my page.

    I just read the above and I sound a little paranoid lol.  I just have visions of her dropping by all the time.  She is known to do this. haha

     
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    CanadianMermaid    December 2012  

    Nope

     
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    Lolasmomma    April 15, 2011   Morrisville, NC

    I do not friend request people from work.  I have had some people at work friend request me and I feel awkward denying them- so I keep them in facebook purgatory and pretend I haven't seen it.  If I become close friends with someone outside of work- then I feel ok having them as a facebook friend.  But if I see you once a month and we talk for 10 minutes- that doesn't mean I want you to know about my personal life outside of work.  Sorry if that sounds harsh.

     
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    BodyByViGirl    June 16, 2012   Myrtle Beach SC

    I have a completely separate FB and no personal friends are on that one, and no work ones are on my "real" one. I have to keep some visibility to my co=workers and that's really those only way that would "work" and it has for almost 3 years now. I almost never go on the work one.

     
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    BrightGreen    August 18, 2012   Canada

    I have a very strict no friending colleagues policy!! That way if I feel like writing about how my coworkers are all sick today but came in to work anyway just so they could infect me before the holidays - I can! Haha. I am actually very good friends with some of my coworkers, we text outside of work and stuff, but I STILL refuse to add them on Facebook.

     
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    MissGreen    July 2009  

    Not anymore; I've seen it backfire on people. I have this friend coworker who I've defriended bc she just can't shut up; very all about the drama. Well she constantly goes on and on, bashing management and talking about patients but forgot she friend requested our manager. Well it didn't go over well and she nearly lost her job over FB. It's just not worth it.

     
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    missbumblebee    September 8, 2012  

    I agree with others NOPE! I'm trying to separate my work and personal life as much as possible.

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    I'm friends with my coworkers who I've hung out with on the weekends before. And I would accept a friend request from anyone at work. My FB is totally 'clean', there is no content that I wouldn't want my IL's or boss to see.

    Once I sent a friend request to a coworker and after she didn't accept for about 3 or 4 days I just deleted the request. I know she saw it, but I figured her lack of response was her feeling awkward about accepting. From now on, I will not send coworkers friend requests, but I will say in person something like "are you on fb? you should friend request me!" which leaves the door open for them to either choose to send me the request, or NOT to without it being awkward for both of us.

     
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    soyjoy222    June 1, 2012   PA

    No. I've been requested by some work people and I will accept if they request, but I do not initiate the FB friendship.

     
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    mrs_pugetsound    May 14, 2011  

    Nope....I want to keep work life and "real life" as separate as possible.  I've outgrown the point in my life when I was doing embarrassing, college "party-type" stuff that I want to keep from coworkers (ie.  you won't find any "Drunkbooking" on my Facebook), but I still don't care to have these people see me in a non-professional setting (ie. pics with me and my dog where I'm wearing bunny slippers on the weekend or something, or random humor about stuff that annoys me in the office).

     
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    SunnySquirrel    July 6, 2012   San Francisco

    Only a couple, basically the coworkers that I would actually hang out with outside of work and I wait for them to make the rquest.  While my facebook is pretty clean (1. my parents are on Facebook (not that they care what I post) and 2. I am an advisor for my sorority, so I have to keep it under control on Facebook since I am the one lecturing the girls about keeping theirs clean).  That being said, I would still never add my boss.  A coworker added his boss and said boss comments on his facebook page all the time which is very awkward.  My coworker totally regrets adding his boss. 

     
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    Amanda_Rae    May 12, 2012  

    I have a few work friends on my FB... I work at a very young company.. and before we had an internal IM messaging service people either used FB chat in the office yahoo IM... we have grown up since haha

     
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    eeniebeans    October 9, 2010   Baltimore

    I am friends with several of my co-workers.  Some because I want to and some because I felt I could not turn down their friend request.

     
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    Sassygrn    June 4, 2011   Minnesota

    I have quite a few FB friends that are co workers! Though some of them work in differ offices and I work with them via email for work.  The stuff I post on FB is nothing for me to ashamed of and I talk about it anyway at work

     
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    Aure    October 6, 2012   Las Vegas

    No, I don't send them but I get them a lot. I accepted a lot of them because I felt bad denying them. I'm a manager now and I wish I hadn't accepted them, it makes me feel awkward. I tend not to post anything too crazy (or often) on FB though, so I guess it's not terrible. I just wish professional contacts would stick to using LinkedIn.

     
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    janie-janie    February 16, 2010  

    if you value your career, I would not be facebook friends with co-workers. 

     
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    ladyartichoke       UK

    It depends.  In my industry I think FB is a very valuable networking tool.  And I have got no less than 5 jobs offers through it, two I had to turn down.  One was a one off.  One was full time but temporary.  One was permanent, full time.  I would only add people I genuinely get on with though.

     
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    Caizn    August 2, 2014   KCMO

    I never would have at my old job. This new one I just very recently added two of the girls. I probably wouldn't add anymore than one other one who doesnt have FB, because I bash another co-worker (that everyone wants to get riiiid of) pretty badly. But thats it. Its the kind of job that there are no secrets anyways so anything on my FB is already out there.

     
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    Moja Milosc    September 24, 2011  

    No.

    I don't plan to FB friend anyone and I hope they won't friend me. Most of the people I work with are good friends with each other and spend all of their time together outside of work and I'm just not interested in that. I had a friend who posted a picture of herself on a trip and almost got written up for calling out to go on vacation, when really she called out because her son was sick and didn't leave for the trip until 3 days later on her weekend off. I don't want work involved in my personal life. period.

     
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    missblueshoes    November 2011   Florida

    No way!  I friend only close friends and family on facebook and connect with co-workers on LinkedIn.

     
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    MademoiselleL    August 24, 2012   Vancouver, BC (wedding in Maui)

    I just want to add since so many people are saying no, that "work" and "real life" are not always separate for everyone. 

    My closest girlfriends happen to also be my co-workers.

     

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