Post # 1
So, we’re working on the wedding invites and I’m not sure what to do. A few guests from work have already told me they can’t come after receiving their save-the-dates. My mom didn’t know what the proper thing to do was since back in her day there wasn’t save-the-dates. Do we still send wedding invites if they’ve told us in advance they’re busy that weekend, or is that just begging for a gift?
Post # 3
Yes, you still send invites to everyone that you sent Save-The-Date Cards to.
Post # 4
I think it would be a total faux pas if they didn’t receive an invitation. Let them decline using the RSVP card. You never know, their plans may have changed in the time since they received their save the date.
Post # 5
I sent them just in case. As PP said, you never know…
Post # 6
I would send them, as well. If they ask why they received one just let them know you sent it to them b/c you sent the std and wanted to be proper about it
Post # 7
I think that if you sent the STD and they say that cant come then no dont send them an invitations. that std is kinda like rsvping for the invitation.
Post # 8
I agree with medina, my mom asked me about this yesterday and I said no i’m not sending out invites to people who said no to the Save-The-Date Cards. i’m already spending enough money on the STDS i dont need to spend even more money on invites for people who i know for a fact aren’t coming.
Post # 9
if you send a STD, still send an invite, because their plans may change.
Post # 10
I’m in the same boat. Everyone who got a Save The Date is getting an invite. I figure they’re still invited even if they can’t come.
Post # 11
I tucked a note into the invites sent to those who already told me they won’t be coming . . . something about “in case your plans change . . .”
Post # 12
I would play it on the safe side and send the invite. Like others have said, plans could change. And if someone’s plans do change they might not think to just tell you. I think that would be awkward for them. “Hey I don’t have to do that thing anymore. Can I still be invited to your wedding?”
I would just let the coworkers know as they mention it (or just before you send the invitations) that you’re sending invitations anyway, so not to be alarmed.
Post # 13
yes, definitely still send an invite just in case their plans changed.
Post # 14
I like the idea of tucking a little note in saying “Just in case you have a change in plans, we would love to have you join us!” If I were in that boat, I would think that was nice. 🙂