Post # 1
My Fiance and I both figured that our parents, siblings, and all who have a job at our wedding, should know that they are obviously invited and expected to be there. We asked his sister to attend to our guest book, but she is suddenly very upset about “not being invited.” If you ask me, just being his sister is obvious enough. Are we totally wrong about this??? I’m happy to give them an invite if they want one for a keep-sake, but as far as siblings needing to have it to know they are invited seems a little insecure to me.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Yes, you need to send invitations to everyone. I can see why she was offended, tbh.
Post # 4
Unless you have siblings you don’t talk to or something ..then i can see why u should send them an invite ..but if your close and they’re in the wedding ..then yeah i would assume they knew they were invited..People are just sensitive about this stuff..i can almost hear fi laughing , when it tell him we have to send invites to wedding party..lol.. Oh well best to know now ..
Post # 5
I’m not sure what you mean by insincere. I know my brother’s wedding is in October and I’m waiting on my invitation… I will also be upset if I don’t get an invitation!
Post # 6
I’ve been in weddings in the past few years as a bridesmaid and my brother got married in May (I did a reading) and I got invitations for all of them. The only one I didn’t get one for was my sister’s and I was 22 and living at home so I shared an invite with my parents.
Post # 7
I think the only exception to “needing” to send one is if you tell them beforehand that you ran short or something. Otherwise, I could see that they would be expecting one.
Since what’s done is done, you can just apologize and give them one.
Post # 8
I’ve sent them to everyone, including our wedding party, parents and officiant…
Post # 9
absolutely they neede invites. Just explain that you didnt know the etiquette, assumed they KNEW they were invited, that you are really sorry and give them one
Post # 10
I would go ahead and send invitations to your families and wedding party. Even though they know some of the details, they should receive an official invitation.
Post # 11
i think it may have been adding insult to injury – first, not getting an invite, then second, being asked to be guestbook attendant. don’t get me wrong, it’s great you wanted to include her, but to many, that role is kind of…well…a non-role.
Post # 12
Awww I would totally send one. Course, knowing my friends and family, if they didn’t have an invite, they’d totally forget when it was! Alot of people want to see the invite and have their own copy, so definintely send one.
Post # 13
I disagree, and clearly am the only one who does haha, I think if you have siblings who are part of the wedding party and you talk to and see regularly, they do not need an invitation.
Post # 14
I sent an invitation to everyone including those that i was 100% sure they wouldn’t be able to attend. I just think it’s polite and it let’s them know you’re thinking of them and want them there.
Post # 15
I also sent one to our parents, siblings, wedding party and officiant. I didn’t even consider not sending one! Not only is it a reminder of day and time, but it is a keepsake for them as well! They were all very appreciative!!
Post # 16
I’m sending one to everyone. I figure my mom/sister/etc. would not only want to be “invited” but also want the invite as a keepsake.