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I have a college friend who shares an e-mail account with her husband. I REALLY hate it when he responds to e-mails that I address to her before she even has a chance to respond. I sent the e-mail to HER, not to HIM. Even if they share, I think it's kind of rude/presumptuous for him to respond to her e-mails.
Do you share an e-mail account with your significant other? Am I out of line to be annoyed by his behavior?
(My hubby and I set up a joint e-mail account for wedding related stuff that either of us respond to, but otherwise have our own personal accounts).
Hmmm...I've never heard of that! Honestly, I think it's a little silly...especially when email is SO popular - I could understand it back when no one used it, but now? Really?
let's see he has an acct with his club that i check but no he has his seperate and i have mine.
i have my own email account but its thru the server/site hubby owns so he can view anything on it any time as hes the administrator. but its usually junk emails.
i would be peeved if he answered emails on my behalf without talking to me. if he was to answer using my email address i would expect him to type "hi, the mrs is telling me to type this..." as i dictate it to him
99.9% of the time i use my work email
I don't think you're out of line... I hate shared email addresses too!! I actually don't email my friends who have shared accounts.
I read somewhere that a lot of couples do this as a method to prevent infidelity... well IMO a shared email account won't stop that from happening.
My FI has my password & I have his, but its mostly for booking flights to see each other. If he purchased my ticket, I'll go into his account & print off my itinerary. I don't think either of us has ever checked the other's email to snoop or for personal reasons! There's no need. We trust one another :)
Oh heck naw. He doesn't need to see my girlfriends' gossip NOR mine. And frankly, I would have issues emailing a friend if i knew her SO read *everything*. I'd wonder if it was a control issue, or practicality or if he didn't trust her or what!
We don't share an email account and I wouldn't share one with him! Email is private. ;)
um i don't see how it prevents infidelity it takes what two seconds to set up a separate user account.
No, we definitely have our own email addresses. We will probably put together a joint wedding one though, just for people with wedding related stuff since we have so many people travelling to the wedding. It will just be easier to keep everything organized... but otherwise... no way!
Hmmm...I think that would really annoy me. We only had a joint email that was connected to our wedding website. Never would have a recreational email together.
@crebre: I KNOW, right?! lol it's ridiculous.
I know atleast 5 or 6 couples that have shared accounts....
Personally, I think it's really weird!! But then again, we haven't even gotten a joint bank account yet.
Well thank you ladies for reassuring me I'm not out of my mind.
I really can't stand it and don't know why they do it!
My parents share an e-mail account, but those are the only two people I had ever heard of. It makes Christmas and birthday shopping very difficult . . .
I'm with EJS on this. He doesn't need to see my girl talk. My friends give him an earful when we are all together anyway.
I don't think it's weird, I mean it would be weird to not have your separate account in addition, but who cares? why is it so horrible to have a joint account?
i mean I get it, i would hate to get responses from the persons significant other, if I didn't send it to that person.
I come as a unit once I'm married
there isn't anything I keep from my fiance now as is...so either way anything someone tells me, my fiance knows about shortly after. yeah, i know.
I think it's wierd! I know some couples set up joint accounts when they get their internet connected but most still have separate ones through work or gmail or whatever. It feels odd to me, like my uncle joined facebook but because he and his wife share an email account which is in her name, he is on facebook under her name! It's confusing and unnecessary. We have a joint hotmail account which we set up when we were travelling overseas so we could send emails back home. We are now using it as our wedding RSVP email address, but the majority of our emails are done through our own accounts.
Its just so easy to get your own account, I really dont see why it would be necessary lol Hubby and I definitely share a lot of things and have less personal space than some couples like, but we definitely don't share email addresses. We know each others' passwords so we can access if need be (like the other day he told me to log in and read a specific email of his. the thought never occured to me that I should see what other emails are there while I was at it lol) It's just not necesary.
WE have one for our RSVP's but other than that no. Although we both know each others usernames and passwords. I think i went through his emails once and realized that it was crazy the man saves everything for some reason and when he deletes it he never empties the trash. But I really do not worry.
i don't know if coming as a unit has anything to do with emails? i leave my acct up all the time and m does the same for him. i think the issue i have with it is what if i were trying to buy him a surprise gift online and they have to confirm it.
Just because you come as a unit doesn't make you one person. If you're my friend, I'm not inviting your husband to a ladies' night out, ya know?
I think its bananas to have a shared account, if it's your only account! My fiance's parents do this, and it drives us both insane when trying to do gifts for birthdays, etc.
I'm not saying it makes you one person, and I'm not saying you should just have one account for the both of you...each has his/her own and then if for some reason you want one you can have a joint one
I just don't think it's that weird, to want to have a joint account you know? even if it's not just for wedding stuff.
personally for me it's not that big of a deal
at any rate, it may be annoying that someone just has an account with her SO, but really...it's their decision, and I think it's a little silly to make a big deal about it, if you want to talk to a friend there is always the telephone anyway..that is unless that have a joint cell phone too....haha :D
I personally think this is nuts. My FI's parents do this and it's annoying as all heck. Plus their email address is supposed to be cutesy but it's just annoying.
Nope, but we have eachother's passwords, not that there is any reason to use them. We usually cc eachother on wedding related stuff though, so we both have the information. Both of our parents share e-mail accounts- the only con to that is at Christmas, have to remember to put in the subject line "For So and So's eyes only!".
oh i totally agree with a joint checking acct (but i'd have a separate one too) how do people surprise their SOs if they have joint accts?! (m's bday is saturday so i'm all about the surprise element of things right now)
We each have our own... my parents share an account, but then my dad has a work account, a blackberry account and another email for facebook so I guess technically they're not quite "sharing."
It freaks me out when people share an account but like it's obviously one person's name on the address. Or what about people who share facebook/myspace accounts?!?!
We have one for wedding related stuff but he never checks it, haha. Other than that, our personal email accounts are just that-- personal! :)
No and I wouldn't dream of doing it either. It is healthy for each person to maintain privacy (which is different from secrecy). Honestly, the only people I know of who share email accounts are older married couples. For example, my grandparents, her sister-in-law and her husband, etc. Of the under 60 crowd, I don't know anyone who shares an account with their spouse or significant other.
We both have email accounts of our own, but opened a joint account for wedding related things (honestly, I'm the only one who ever checks it, but its a great way to keep everything in one place!)
We also have a joint email account for things like the cell phone/cable accounts to log in for bill pay and for our amazon fresh grocery orders.
I dont mind having the joint accounts. I will probably do the same think for bank accounts when we're married (each have our own, but a shared one for household expenses)
I agree that our personal accounts are "personal" but we both leave ourselves logged into gmail all the time. I have nothing to hide and could care less if he sees the emails I get/send. Same with facebook, etc. We both have our own, but are slackers and leave our home comps logged in all the time!
I think it's strange too. We have one connected to our wedding website that is joint, but I just have it forward to both of our accounts. It'd be way too flipping annoying to share an account with him. Plus, we both have different professional/school stuff coming to each of us.
Nope. Two of my best girls have shared email accounts and another one has a shared Facebook account. For which I completely do not understand. I never know who I am talking to or who will read it. I don't think it is weird, I think it is just plain silly and impractical.
Also, what if you wanted to email something to the other person? That would get confusing. :p
Oh the worst is when people share facebook accounts... I hate THAT more than when couples share email addresses!
Couples need breathing space from each other... its not healthy to spend 100% of your time with your SO or to put all your energy into them! It always makes me wonder... do these people hold hands with their SO while they're on the toilet too? Sheesh!
Haha...I really hadn't ever heard of couples sharing an email account. That would get kind of confusing wouldn't it? I get emails from work, school, etc and it would be hard to sort out what is mine and his. I guess I don't see the functionality of it?
my parents have a shared email account... I didn't realize people who got married after the advent of the internet would ever consider this, haha.
J and I do have access to each others' emails though, although as of yet I've never checked his (and I assumed he's never checked mine). He does 'maintain' my facebook page for me though, since it's currently unavailable in China, and I get a lot of messages from friends there. He just copies them into email and sends them to me.
Oo actually my parents DO have a shared account. But my dad doesn't even know how to use a computer. I kid you not. Mom handles it ALL. And nobody emails him, except maybe some business stuff occassionally. I guess that doesn't count though =P
We both have our own email accounts - and it will stay that way after we get married.
We do have a join wedding email account, but that is really for keeping all the vendor communication in one place (and to keep all the emails from the knot, martha stewart weddings, etc out of my regular in box).
We do have one joint email address but that is for keeping track of all of our paperless bills instead of one person receiving them all, we both can see the bills and their details.
As for personal accounts, we do have our own accounts (multiple in fact) and will never share an email account for personal reasons. There's no need for it.
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