(Closed) Do You Snoop?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Please pick as many #1-4 that apply AND Pick one from #5 -7!
    I have read their e-mail account : (58 votes)
    18 %
    I have checked their internet history : (55 votes)
    17 %
    I have listened to their voicemails : (12 votes)
    4 %
    I have looked at their text messages : (58 votes)
    18 %
    I feel guilty about snooping! : (43 votes)
    13 %
    No shame - I don't feel guilty at all! : (34 votes)
    11 %
    I don't snoop! : (59 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Uh oh, pick as many from #1-4 and one of #6-7, but what are we supposed to do with number 5? 🙂

    Post # 5
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    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t out of my way snoop, but I guess it just happens/is curiosity? I.e, we sometimes swap computers and so we see each others’ emails, or if I have his phone on a run and he gets a text I’ll check it. We’re fairly open with each other, so none of this is hidden from each other and it’s not like, “you got an e-mail from so and so?!”

    Post # 6
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I don’t snoop. We both have access to each other’s email accounts, and if I’m looking for a specific email I’ll go into his and get it (invitations, pictures, etc.) Except for right now – he asked me not to go into his email because he’s planning a surprise for our January vacation and seeing his email would give it away!

    Snooping usually sets yourself up to be hurt. I’ve learned that lesson from previous relationships so I don’t do it!

    Post # 7
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I dont snoop anymore, but I used to. I would read emails/facebook and text messages that had already been opened. Yes, it is bad, but I dont do it anymore and it wouldnt matter if I did! I dont care if my husband did either. The only time I would care is if I was planning a surprise party for him – other than that, nothing to hide!

    Post # 8
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    2237 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If he gets a phone call (on his cell) and he’s like upstairs or outside I’ll check to see who it is (and if it’s like his mom or his best friend I’ll answer and be like “hold on, FH is fill in the blank“) and yell to him if I know he would want to answer it.  That’s the extent of my snooping.

    Post # 9
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    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t snoop but I’ll occasionally see emails or text messages, if I’m closer to his phone or he leaves himself logged into his email on my computer.  Generally I’ll ask if he wants me to tell him what it is.  I also read his facebook over his shoulder, but that’s more boredom than snooping.  Actually looking at stuff behind his back kind of creeps me out.

    Post # 10
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    2090 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I/we don’t snoop. If his phone goes off and its sitting next to me, I hand it to him without looking at it, and wouldn’t check it unless he asked me to. We often share one of the laptops because its newer and works best – I don’t check his e mail, I just go in, sign out and sign in as myself to check my mail.

    I snooped e mail in the past in other relationships and it only led to more issues, it didn’t solve anything.

    Post # 11
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    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I never set out to snoop and I never have trust issues with him, but i guess i’ve looked at a couple things out of curiosity. The two things that come to mind are sometimes if his phone is sitting right next to me and he gets a text message i’ll look to see who it is from (but i’ve never read it). And one time he got up early and was downstairs on my computer (which was WEIRD) and then when he got in the shower and i got on my computer i looked at the history to see what he was doing (just bc i was curious why he was up early doing that. we are not morning people). But then i saw what it was and totally teased him for it so it wasn’t like i was hiding my snooping. 

    Post # 12
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t feel guilty, b/c he’s sitting right there.  It’s not that I’m being serious with it…I’ll say “let me see what we have here…”  I NEVER go into his email if it isn’t up.

    Post # 14
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    4150 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’ve snooped!!! Not because I’m worried that there’s another girl or anything, just because I’m nosy!!!  FI doesn’t email or text that much anyway, so it’s not very interesting. haha

    Post # 15
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    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    When I date someone and it gets serious I do snoop a bit because there’s so many people out there who are good liars and I want to protect myself, so I don’t really feel guilty. 

    Now with my husband I guess I still snoop sometimes but it’s different.  He knows that I look at his email occasionally (very rarely, more if i have a suspicion that he’s left out a few details about an upcomingn event) but it’s more snooping to figure out if his mom has emailed and she has said she’s coming to visit or has plans for us, which he always forgets to mention her whole detailed list of plans.  Or that he’s invited people over for a party and again forgets to mention it until he knows people are coming. 

    Post # 16
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    4355 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Ok I picked text message and internet history. The text was an accident, but then I did snoop at a few more while I was there. The internet history happened after I found an engagement ring website open on his laptop, and I checked in to see if he had visited it again after that lol..

    I do feel guilty but my snooping is not for lack of trust, it’s for ring curiosity lol.

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