Post # 1
I have never thought twice about this, but now that we are married, my husband has suggested that we stop exchanging presents with my parents. He hasn’t done it with his parents for probably 10 years. He just thinks it’s weird that once you move out of the house, you still get presents like a child does. And mabye this is a regional thing, as he’s from a different part of the country than I am. What do you do?
Post # 3
We definitely still exchange gifts! My mom has a tendancy to go overboard the past few years which is pretty fun on my end, LOL! I got her a Roomba this year, she’s been dying for one so I know she’s going to be SO happy.
Post # 4
My grandma still buys her kids (my dad/aunts) Christmas gifts… I don’t think we’ll ever stop. 🙂
Post # 5
We still exchange with everyone in the family. I don’t think you are ever too old to receive/give a gift!
Post # 6
We definitely exchange gifts, and FI does with his parents, too. In my family, I give each parent a gift and usually recieve 1 “big” gift from the both of them, plus stocking stuffers. FI and I give each of his parents gifts and historically they give us multiple presents to the point that I feel a bit uncomfortable. I’m hoping they tone it down this year and expect they really might, since they’re helping to pay for our wedding and helping my FSIL pay for her wedding next year, too.
Post # 7
@shellyjean: I haven’t lived at home for years but I still exchange gifts with my mother and sisters. My mom only lives about 10 minutes away so we will be packing everything up and spending Christmas morning at her house. Tell your husband to just not participate. ^_^
Post # 8
I absolutely still exchange with my parents. Everyone that I know still does. I never thought that something like this would be regional but I guess its possible.
ETA: I havent lived at home for more than 5 years.
Post # 9
My brother and I only send gifts to my mom. We usually go in on something really nice for her. None of us are together at Christmas time, so my mom sends us stuff all year. She will see something online and she will just send it to us. My dad, I usually just take him a plate of goodies. He hates “stuff” so the homemade treats he really enjoys. Usually it’s stuff he only gets once a year since they are my moms recipes and they are divorsed.
Post # 10
Absolutely!!! 🙂 He hasn’t lived with his parents for 18 years (he’s 37) and I haven’t for 10 now (i’m 31) but we still exchange with each set of parents!
In fact, Christmas Eve is their tradition to open gifts – we all go to his parent’s house and everyone (including his bro and sil who are a few years older than us) SIL’s 9 year old and bil’s kids/grandchildren all sit around while everyone opens their gifts one at a time in a circle til everyone is done! 🙂
Post # 11
I haven’t lived at home since I was 18, but the way my parents and I have exchanged gifts has changed over the years. The first four years away from home I was at college, so I would always go home for the holidays, and my super nice parents usually got me quite a few gifts. Now, when I completed school and got a job, we scaled down and exchanged only a few gifts each. And that is pretty much where we are at now. We either exchange a “big gift” each, or a few little gifts. But nothing like when we were kids. I’ll always buy my parents a gift!
I can see why some might stop though, because usually you can buy stuff that you want if you have a job, but it’s not always the case. I really enjoy giving gifts!
Post # 12
This is the first year my dad isn’t buying for his kids as well as his grandkids. Money is tight, and he has been unsuccessfully trying to sell his house. He gives so much of himself helping us both fix things around our houses. He is buying presents for any grandkid/great grand kid under 18.
Us kids have all stopped buying presents for our nieces and nephews after they are about 21, and we don’t exchange between ourselves, other then to buy for the younger niece and nephews.
SO’s parents each buy one big present for each kid. He and his siblings & their SO’s pick names out of a hat.
Post # 13
I haven’t lived at home since I was 17, but we all still exchange gifts. My mom usually just gets me, my SO and our kids something really small that we can do together (boardgames,movie tickets,books etc) Last year my dad and stepmom got me and my SO a Wii and Wii fit! My SO’s parents have more money than my parents and they always go overboard at christmas. Last year, my main present was all new stainless steel dishes!!! And I always get a variety of clothes and stuff too. It almost makes me uncomfortable with the amount of money they spend on me, I get more presents from SO’s parents than I ever got from Santa when I was a little kid. The second christmas my dad and stepmom were together, she went out and bought me, my stepsister, and my stepbrother’s girlfriend crockpots, new purses and housecoats. I was kind of mad because they never got ANYTHING for my SO, (not even a christmas card) but stepbrother’s girlfriend got the exact same present as me. Oh, and my stepmom doesn’t believe in “gifting up” if you get her something for christmas, she seriously gets mad. She thinks christmas should be about the kids and grandkids.
Post # 14
We go on a Christmas vacation together every year. Since I was about 16 this became our gift ritual. We still do stocking stuffers and a few small gifts too.
Post # 15
@shellyjean: WE do every year. But this year we just put everyones name into a basket and we are getting one, 100.00 gift, i love this idea…so much less stressful. DH family are taking DH’s siblings to mexcio for christmas so they arent getting us anything, normally we would get them something as well.
Post # 16
We do! Parents are people too…I’m sure they like getting gifts just like anyone else.
My parents still give gifts to my grandparents. It would seem weird just suddenly stop just because we’re grown. Plus I have a sister at home still so it would seem odd to only give her a gift. We even send stuff my bro living in Japan each year. I’m not really sure why your FI wouldn’t want to give gifts to family.