(Closed) Do You Still "Pull the Goalie" When NTNT?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Does DH/SO "pull out" while you're NTNT (not trying not to)
    yes : (10 votes)
    33 %
    no : (20 votes)
    67 %
  • Post # 3
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    He doesn’t but I am on the pill.

    Post # 4
    4583 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I consider “pulling out” to be Trying Not To. So based on that, I’d think most couples NTNT wouldn’t bother pulling out. We personally didn’t have much of a NTNT stage.

    Post # 5
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t get it.  In my mind, if a SO is not pulling out- then you are TTC, but maybe that is just me!


    Post # 6
    3772 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @cbee:  because you are not actively trying to figure out when in your cycle you’re fertile.. you’re just having sex and whatever happens happens… or at least that’s how I always viewed NTNT.

    Post # 7
    1186 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think “pulling the goalie” means removing your form of birth control. Like going without condoms or in, the most literal sense, having your IUD out.  I guess NTNT means “whatever happens, happens” and you’re not actively preventing pregnancy.  While withdrawal isn’t real effective in the long term, if you “pull out” that is an attempt to prevent pregnancy.

    Post # 8
    492 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    If you’re pulling out, you’re still trying to avoid conception…just not trying very hard.

    In my mind:

    TTC = making an effort to get pregnant

    NTNT = what happens, happens…no trying to time things, no method to avoid

    preventing/trying to avoid = pull out, condoms, the pill, or other method.

    Post # 9
    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    At first, he did, and as we got closer to the time we had decided to TTC, he stopped.

    Post # 10
    1301 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    To my mind, if you are pulling out you are trying not to, to me its a form of birth control, albiet not the best one.. I used it for years with my Darling Husband and we never got pregnant. 

    Post # 11
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I consider pulling out to be TTA (Trying To Avoid), albeit not the most reliable method of preventing pregnancy.

    And I’m with cbee.  I don’t really get the concept of NTNT.  To me, if you are having unprotected sex (without pulling out) and you are not practicing natural family planning techniques where you monitor your cycles and avoid fertile times, then you are TTC. 

    Some people get more strategic about the whole process than others, but to me, TTC does not necessarily mean charting, temps, scheduled sex, OPKs, etc.

    Post # 13
    1652 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    NTNT means he does not pull out.

    The difference between NTNT and TTC is that TTC is more actively trying, whereas NTNT is not preventing, but not actively trying.

    Post # 14
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ve always heard “pulling the goalie” refer to stopping the use of birth control, not pulling out.

    To me, NTNT means that aren’t using any form of birth control but you also aren’t actively charting, tracking your ovuation / fertile windows, etc.  You’re just having unprotected sex.

    Post # 16
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I would say NTNT means he doesn’t pull out and you are just letting it happen without actively charting or trying to get pregnant.

    I stopped taking the pill when we got married and used the pull out method as our only form of BC. 2 months after our first anniversary I was pregnant. we were not trying but clearly not preventing very well either lol.

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