Post # 1
When the FI and I started planning our wedding over a year ago, our families were excited and everyone couldn’t wait and wanted to come. Now as the date nears, people are backing out left and right or saying very non commital things which leads me to believe they aren’t going to bother coming. I know that you can expect some people to RSVP with a no, but family that lives in the same city??
We could have went with a smaller venue that we had originally wanted. Now with the number of people who have been wishy washy we’re basically only going to fill half of the room we did get to accomodate all those who wanted to come. How sad is that?
Is anyone else stressing about this?
Post # 4
I stress about this a lot actually. I’ve had nightmares over this… and my big day is 5 months and 7 days away! Crazy right! lol But my friend is getting married next month is also stressing over all the people being wishy washy so don’t worry it’s not just you lol
Post # 5
@molliechristine: Thank goodness. 🙂 It’s seriously keeping up at night….as you can see. lol
Post # 6
I think about it also. Our wedding will take place in Iowa, where I’m from. Iowa is much less expensive place to have a wedding, we’re from the Minneapolis area. I stress that people won’t want to make the drive, our friends from Minnesota mostly. It’s only a 3 hour drive, but it still stresses me out, I want everyone there!
Post # 7
The way I see it is that everyone wants to be invited but no one wants to show! jk. I hope they don’t really turn out that way! I’d be so sad.lol
Post # 8
Nope. I am worried and in fact, this is pretty much fact.
Out of my family, only my Mum, sister and her hubs and two kids are coming.
Out of my non mutual friends, I have only three buds and 2 of which just aren’t the ‘mexico’ type and one of the hasn’t worked a steady job in a year or so. I seriously didn’t even waste the Std b/c they would just feel bad to have to say no and my third bud and I have been growing apart for a while and I finally ‘broke up’ with her. of course, she was the only one of my three girl clan who would have come.
My FI’s family, I have no idea if they will come, and if they do that would only be about another 4 people
FI and I have two sets of couple friends and they are both maybes.
I am having a Dw though, so my situation is a bit different than yours I guess
Post # 9
you should add another option.. “don’t know, don’t care”
while I think MOST people are going to our Vow Renewal. I HIGHLY doubt my Mother in law will be going, even though she can ride with any one of us and even if she doesnt, she is very well off to come alone. But I do expect her twin sister (my husbands aunt) to go… so go figure this out. The Aunt was very happy when we told her about it, she laughed and thought it was hilarious, where my MIL when I told her, she pshaw’d me, and just turned her back on me (literally) and changed the subject… uh get over it lady, we been married 18 years… i am not going anywhere, and i am NOT sorry that pisses you off LOL
At first we were worried, but now we decided, we don’t care! we deserve a vow renewal that WE want… and are not compromising! and we are thankful. this is just from PHX (mostly) to Las Vegas. I am also inviting my family from Seattle, Kentucky, Indiana, Michigan, and Alaska… I figure these people have to travel anyhow, so lets make it more fun!
right now I am estimating 30-40 people, but wont know anything until i send out STDs and Invitations.
I say don’t worry about it, ( I definitely know, easier said than done) but its really their loss. Its your wedding, you will be beautiful, your groom will be beautiful. It will just be amazing and its a shame they don’t care to be a part of it… don’t focus on who is NOT there, but focus on who IS there:) They love you:)
just my 2 pennies:)
Post # 10
i’m worried about the opposite- having TOO many people rsvp yes!! from a budgeting perspective, having less people rsvp yes would be a plus!
Post # 11
@Mrs. Meowerson: dammit meow! this didn’t even cross my mind till right now! LOL Uhm, yea, this could be of great concern.
thanks!!!! hrmmm I need to work out some ideas in case this happens. Bu thtat is a VERY GOOD Point…
I have posted on my website tthat “no need to wait to RSVP… if you know you can or cannot make it, its okay ot let me know now” I actually got 7 RSVPs back, but these are coupls we vacation with often and stuff. good luck you sweets! everything will work out!
Post # 12
I feel like people want to be invited but they dont care to come. Our RSVPs are due next week and we are still waiting on 49 people to respond. I really didnt invite a lot of my acquaintances. I didnt want to invite people just to fill the room. Now it fills like even the people I want to be there wont.
Post # 13
Once your wedding day comes, you will be really to busy to realize if no shows or not. I did realize on our day a couple of people didn’t show and was at the point didn’t care. The people who showed are the ones who cared enough about DH and I. It was only after the wedding did I realize who all didn’t show and by that time it was to late to stress or care.
Post # 14
@ms_nickie: You are definitely not alone. A year ago, everyone wanted an invite and told us they wouldn’t miss it, so we got a venue that could seat tons of people and invited 278. Well, it’s 5 days until our RSVP deadline, and we are missing about 175 responses. 37 have said no, and like 66 have said yes. I went through our guest list, adding up the people we know are definitely coming but haven’t responded, and that only gets us up to like 80 people. At this point I’m starting to think we’ll be lucky if 100 come.
It makes me really sad. I guess people that haven’t RSVP’d could all be yes’s…but from what I heard, the people that wait the longest are usually the no’s. We originally were hoping for 175, but I don’t think that’s going to be possible now. I would have invited so many more of my friends that I didn’t put on the list because we were already inviting so many people. 🙁