Post # 1
Warning: this post is fairly graphic and discusses ejeculation.
DH and I have been married for almost 5 months. We waited to have sex until marriage, so we’re still experimenting with what we like, etc. I really enjoy giving him BJs . . . . but one thing I haven’t enjoyed yet is swallowing. In fact, I usually alternate between a handjob and a BJ until he cums in my hand.
DH hinted that it was a fantasy of his to see me swallow, so I wanted to please him and tried it . . . and there was so much fluid that I almost threw up. I also thought it tasted strange and didn’t agree with my stomach. I did swallow everything and didn’t want to ruin the experience for him or make him feel bad by throwing up (he clearly thought the experience was awesome). But after that my stomach was queasy for hours, and I just haven’t wanted to try swallowing again.
DH has hinted a few times that it would be great if I swallowed again, I’ve just avoided it every time. I never told him that it made me queasy because I don’t want him to feel at all gross or dirty in relation to this sensitive topic, but I just teased him and said that he produces so much fluid and I wasn’t sure I could handle so much. I’m sure he would love it if I swallowed regularly (not to mention it would reduce the clean-up afterwards), but I’m having trouble getting past that first experience where I felt queasy after swallowing his fluids.
So, any thoughts on this? Has this experience gotten easier / better for anyone? I’m of course not going to push myself to do something I ultimately don’t like, but I don’t mind trying it again if it gets easier. It’s hard not to want to try it again — he absolutely loved it. 😉
Post # 3
Well, if it makes you sick to your stomach to think of/do, I wouldn’t do it and just tell him that you aren’t comfortable with it. I’d give it another shot and see how it goes. If he drinks pineapple juice, apple juice, grape juice and other fruits and their juices make the semen taste better, and so does lemon and peppermint.
As for it getting “easier,” it really depends on the person, and I don’t necessarily think it’s an “aquired taste” so to speak — you either like it or you don’t. There is never going to be a time where the texture is super pleasant and the taste is delicious, though the amount of it can certainly vary.
As for me, the first couple of times I felt a little sick because of the texture/taste — and while it’s still not exactly pleasant, I don’t feel like throwing up when I do it.
Post # 4
I swallowed for the first time 10 years ago… it DOES get better, believe me. I can actually remember the first time I ever swallowed and I remember being like “….. ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhh” But now, honestly, it doesn’t even bother me one bit!
ETA: I do not think you either “like it or don’t..” I do not know a single person who enjoys the taste! But, honestly, when you get used to it, it becomes much easier.
Post # 5
You already did, he’s got the picture in his head. Another alternative is spitting it out but not swallowing it. After he”s done it really doesn’t matter what you do with it. He’s already seen you swallow it, he can hold onto that image as long as he pleases
Post # 6
I’m no help but I totally need help on this too! I’ve just never been able to bring myself to do it! It’s just soooo much liquid lol! I’m afraid I’ll gag…..
Post # 7
Just keep breathing through your nose.
You should try it a few more times. If it doesn’t get any better you could suggest that he come on you somewhere. Some guys think that’s really hot.
Post # 8
FTR: I’ve never been one to spit. Honestly, the best way to do it is if you deep throat; that way you do have much to swallow and you don’t taste much of anything.
Ditto PP on having DH eat better/differently to help it taste better. Ultimately, if you don’t like to swallow don’t and tell your DH that.
Post # 9
@discodance: Careful with this…I’ve had it go through my nose before…haha. Ew.
OP, when he’s about to ejaculate, make sure his penis is as far in your mouth as possible so it hits the back of your throat and therefore goes down like a shot of liquor rather than sitting in your mouth.
Post # 10
Oh my I’m queasy just talking about it LOL. I don’t think I’d ever be able to do this without throwing up and totally ruining the moment.
Post # 11
I’d say try what others said about making sure he eats and drinks sweet stuff to help with the taste.
You could also probably just catch it all in your mouth then sneak off to spit it out in the sink (or in a towel you have handy), so at least he gets the visual of you taking it in your mouth. That might help you either work your way up to swallowing, or deciding if you just can’t do it.
Oh and make sure you put your tongue up against the back of your throat, that way it’s not all shooting down your throat and making you gag (sorry to be graphic!).
Post # 12
I have to agree with @elle_z: regarding taste. Meat eating, heavy spices, smoking and alchohol make cum taste horrible 😛
BUt acidic sweet friuts makes it taste sweet and make sure he drinks plenty of water that helps a ton.
As for swallowing your going to have to time your swallows as its comming out xD it takes a bit of practice. Bpnus: if it’s far enough back you may not even taste it.
So what I can say is dont write it off compleatly just yet. Make a deal tell him to change his diet and you’ll try again. Then if you find you like it tell him he has to stay with the diet if he would like you to keep doing it ^-^ compromise! the foundation of a healty marriage right? hope I helped.
Post # 13
A cocktail of fruit juices wont make his cum taste sweeter off the bat, but it is totally overall diet as previously mentioned: eating meat, processed foods, dairy, etc., will all increase the likelihood of it tasting way worse than it can be but in my opinion is never tastes GOOD. My FI now has a great diet and his is doable compared to previous guys I dated who had shitty diets.
In my opinion you tried it, never rule it out but keep in mind there are wives out there who have been married for YEARS and don’t even give BJ’s so good for you for trying so quickly into your sex life!
Post # 14
If you don’t like doing it, stop doing it. Obviously you want to please him but to what degree are you going to go to please him whilst making yourself physically uncomfortable? If you wanted you could try deep throating him when you know he is close, the best way to not taste it is to not let it collect in your mouth. If you let him ejaculate in your mouth and you wait for him to finish it is going to be alot to, ahem, deal with. The texture is one thing, the taste is another, if you want to give it another run, the best thing you could try is to have his member(!?!?!) past your mouth when he is ejaculating, or once he starts get him to the back of your mouth where your throat is, so his cum bypasses your mouth, thus eliminating that big gulp. Hope this helps!
Experience: Married over 3 years, been sexually active over 14 years, given multiple BJs and have since decided it is not for me and havn’t give one in almost 4 years!
Post # 15
all the previous advice re: trying to have him shoot at the back of your throat is seconded.
I add here that after you’ve tried it a couple more times, if it still disagrees with you, just tell him you think its super sexy too, but upsets your tummy. Then throw him the bone (ha) of making it a “special occasions” thing. BJs still feel good if he ends up shooting on your chest, neck or hand in the end. Oh, and try lots of eye contact during, and especially while he’s coming, that ups the hot factor, and he might not miss the swallowing aspect as much.
forcing yourself into something you dont like will have a negative impact on your sexlife in the long run.
Post # 16
I actually threw up the only two times I tried to swallow. I have not attempted since then, and my husband understands. He has joked about me trying again, and I just tell him that if he wants me to be sick on him, then we can try again lol. I wish I wasn’t like that, I just have a really weak stomach for whatever reason.