Post # 1
I know its none of their business but when someone asks you how much something wedding related costs, do you tell them?
My friend (who is not planning a wedding) asked how much the caterer was, I told her and my mom found out and kind of freaked. What do you say when someone asks a quesiton like that?
Post # 3
I think it’s a bit rude to ask how much something cost when they are being treated at that party. IMO, it’s a bit like being asked how much a birthday gift cost you. If they were considering hiring the same person/using the same venue, I would tell them, but if they were just curious for some reason I’d probably say I don’t feel comfortable sharing that.
Post # 4
I would just say, “It’s costing us enough!” and change the subject. If they keep pushing, just say you and your FI have decided not to share financial information with anyone.
Once at a work function, while we were wedding planning, I had some coworkers ask me how it was all going. One girl blurted out, “I think anyone who spends more than $5K is ridiculous and wasteful!” Needless to say, we were WAY over $5K. But I just smiled and said, “Yeah, weddings are expensive, and everyone has different ideas on costs.”
Post # 5
I don’t tell. When I am asked questions about how much something costs I usually deflect it somehow. Saying something along the lines of – – “I’m not exactly sure of the $ specifics per person, why are you looking for a caterer within a specific budget? Any great catere will work within your budget and if they’re not able to they’ll know others that are…..”
EDIT – I have never been asked how much something has cost us. I made up the above which is how I would answer
Post # 6
If they ask I usually tell them. I don’t really care. Unless I don’t like the person asking 🙂
Post # 7
My new response is “it really doesn’t matter” and then I change the subject. I found out the hard way to do this when I told my grandmother how much and she blabbed it to everyone who would listen.
Post # 8
@jackie-o: haha! love your edit.
Post # 9
I think we may have in the beginning depending on who we were telling. We learned quickly to just keep our mouths shut.
Post # 10
Deff not telling anyone. I made the mistake of telling some people certain prices and the response immediately was along the lines of how could you spend that much on anything ever. But in their defense, none of those people have ever planned weddings before and will be probly spending what I am when it’s their turn… 😉
Post # 11
Other than my fiance’ (because we are paying for it), no. I did tell my BM’s what their dresses cost, but that’s only because they offered to pay and I didn’t want them to since they were only $20 each.
Post # 12
I did not tell ANYONE what the things cost. If someone asked I would just politely reply “oh it wasn’t so bad” or “it was very expensive”. The only person that I shared that info with was another friend who was planning a wedding and was comparing prices of vendors.
Post # 13
i’ve told some people because they’ve asked nicely and politely. typically i get asked from friends who might be getting married in the next few years and they are just trying to figure out what things cost.
if you’re nice about it, and i know you won’t judge me for how much we are spending, i’ll tell you 🙂
Post # 14
I hate talking about money, and hadn’t disclosed any numbers to anyone, but… a few weeks ago one of my bridesmaids asked me point blank “what is your budget?” I couldn’t lie so I told her but asked her to keep that info to herself.
I definitely don’t advertise it but when I’m put on the spot I cave!
Post # 15
I posted about this a while back. My boss/friend was planning her daughter’s wedding at the same time I was planning mine, so would always ask what we were paying for everything. I’ll tell if there’s a reason somebody needs to know.
Post # 16
I hate telling people how much something is that I’m spending my money on. Don’t know why, I just feel like my financial stuff is personal and not something anyone needs to know about. I really didn’t have anyone ask me how much stuff was except for close family (meaning like my aunt). I didn’t mind telling her but if my mom’s friends asked or something that would be different. I did have my friend who is getting married want a break down of my wedding budget which I didn’t mind doing either since it is helping her out a lot and we are close.