Do you tell people it's not a diamond?

posted 1 year ago in Rings
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Sugar bee

Personally, I disdain anybody who lies about what their stone really is. That’s all.

Tell me what it really is. I don’t care if it’s not a diamond.

EDIT: Just wanted to add that I generally don’t ask about the stone anyway. it’s true that no one really does, and those who do, are trying to see if you one upped them or vice versa.

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Sugar bee

I can not imagine who would be so uncouth as to ever actually ask someone.

Also, chances are no one will ever be able to tell. Some bees get all het up about the idea of “passing” a moissy off as a diamond. I think 99% of people will simply make the assumption.

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Sugar bee

I don’t think any moissy owners need to go “LOOK! It’s a moissanite!” if they don’t want to. But I do think they should say “It’s a moissanite!” if people ask if it’s a diamond (who asks though?). Moissanites are amazing and have the coolest story of where they came from. Be proud of what you have.

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Sugar bee

@missporkchops:  I don’t have or want moissanite, but I’m curious as to why it matters if someone does want to pass it off? Who really cares? If someone feels better saying they have a diamond then why not?

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Sugar bee

@mamadingdong:  not that I would ever know (and I generally don’t ask about the stone anyway), but that just screams insecurity and unhappiness with the fact that it isn’t a diamond.

or that they got the moissy just to get the bigger carat to show it off to others, which to me, shows that the person’s priorities are a little sideways.

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Sugar Beekeeper

You’ll get quite the range of answers to that question I think!

I don’t run around saying “it’s a diamond” about my ring, so if someone has a moissanite why would they run around saying “it’s a moissanite”

That about sums up my feeling on it!

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Sugar bee

@strawbs:  But so what? I think many people wear CZ (esp in earrings) and the majority of us have no idea. A big part of the reason moissanite is popular is that it looks extremely similar to a diamond. If a big stone is what makes someone happy and feel loved and secure, then so be it. Wear a moissanite the size of your head- doesn’t affect my life.

It’s a pretty judgemental stance that you have there. Just saying.

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Bumble bee

@mamadingdong:  No clue, I’m not in that boat either but it screams insecurity to me like what StrawBS stated. It’s like the girls that walk around with fake LV or Prada bags and pass them off as real. Psychologically I don’t think its healthy.

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Buzzing Beekeeper

@mamadingdong:   If a big stone is what makes someone happy and feel loved and secure, then so be it

If it makes you feel secure, then you shouldnt have to lie about it.  You should be secure in what it actually is, not what you want people to think it is.  The fact that someone would lie does scream insecurity to me too.

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Sugar bee

@pinkshoes:  But my question is why does it bother people so much if they are insecure and want the big ring? In the end, it is that person’s situation and really doesn’t affect you. If wearing a 2ct equivalent makes someone feel good, so be it. How is it lying? Is she supposed to make an announcement somewhere?

Who is asking??? I have never, ever heard of someone asking and would never think to do so.

You’re right- it’s the same as the fake LV bags and there are millions and millions of them in circulation and most people couldn’t care less if it’s real or fake. And most people don’t go around announcing “Oh, it’s a knock off.”

I think you guys are being hard on the girls that maybe want a big diamond but it’s simply not in the budget.

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Bee Keeper

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Buzzing Beekeeper

@mamadingdong:  I’m not saying it bothers anyone per se.  I couldn’t care less what anyone else chooses to do in their personal life that doesn’t effect me.  I’m just saying that if they feel the need to lie about it, they don’t seem one bit secure about what they have.  I’m not saying go around announcing it to every stranger, if asked, how about the truth?  Why do people have to think about lying about it?  What’s there to prove?  Nothing.  

I actually did go around announcing my knock off.  I had one fake LV bag before, and if anyone said something to me about it, I’d say, “it’s fake, doesn’t it look so real!”.  And then I felt like a fraud with people thinking it was real after a while and never used it again.  I was more insecure with a being fake and people assuming it was something it wasn’t.

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