Post # 1
Like, even secrets that are not yours to tell? I do not understand why some women feel that they must share everything with their man. I will tell him everything that pertains to me, but anyone else’s is off of the table. If my friend sucked 5 penises in one night, I’m sure she doesn’t want my man to know. I also have friends who tell their SO when a stranger hits on them. Why? What is the goal? I have strangers try to hit on me all the time, I never tell SO. If I go out to a place that has many men (a party) he might ask me if anyone hit on me. I will tell him then. Otherwise, I don’t volunteer “Hey honey, at the gas station some guy asked for my number.” Anyway, I guess that is two questions. Do you tell your SO everything, even someone else’s secrets? And, do you always reveal when you get hit on?
Post # 2
I tell him mostly everything. He’s my best friend. If another friends tells me something and asks me not to tell, I will not. Otherwise, I really do share pretty much everything with my FI.
I don’t always tell him if I get hit on, sometimes I will if it’s a funny situation, then we just laugh about it. haha.
Post # 3
If it’s something he shouldn’t know, I generally don’t tell.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2015 - Banquet Hall
I am the same way as winterwoodlandbride15. My FI and I tell each other everything pretty much. There are not any secrets really. Unless we are planning something for the other. He’s my bestfriend. People tell their bffs everything so same with my FI/bestfriend. I don’t tell him all the time if someone has hit on me unless it’s funny or it really disturbed me. 🙂
Post # 5
I don’t understand the “best friend” nonsense. i don’t even tell my best friend of 25+ years all my other friends’ business so why on earth would I tell my husband? If it doesn’t pertain to me I don’t share unless it’s something that isn’t personal.
Bellagiobride: don’t try to understand it if you don’t do it. You will never understand.
Post # 6
I tell him mostly everything because he’s my partner and we share our thoughts, ideas and experiences.
If I’m asked to keep something in confidence, I don’t tell him. If I think telling him something about my friend or family member might negatively change his opinion if them, I might not tell him… but it depends.
I sometimes tell him I got hit on, in a teasing way. Not in a confessional, “oh honey I feel soooo guilty” way.
Post # 7
My husband is definitely my bestie. However, he’s my bestie. Not my friends bestie. He doesn’t need to know everything about them. Only me. Their experiences are separate from mine. I mean, we have plenty of other things to talk about without reaching into my bag o’ friends business. I mean, is it just for conversation? To have something to share? Juicy gossip? lol. I am just tooooooo curious, obvi.
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Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
Bellagiobride: in my previous relationship, I would not tell my guy everything. He was a pretty judgmental person. However, I do tell my now FI other people’s secrets sometimes because he’s my bestfriend and he’s a caring and non judgmental person. Sometimes a girl just has to talk! For your second question, if FI asks if someone hit on me, I’d tell him. I would also tell him if it was a funny situation without him asking me.
Post # 9
We pretty much tell each other everything. I never got the “he’s my best friend” thing either until i started dating my fiance. He truly is my best friend and I trust him completely.
Post # 10
I’ve shared some things with my FI when a close friend has brought something to my attention that I don’t know how to react or respond to. He is my sound board and has some pretty good feedback (like, keep your nose out of it! Lol) I don’t tell him things to be malicious to the other person or the intent to gossip. I honestly want his opinion since he is more rational, while I go by emotional response. Which most ladies can agree, isn’t always the smartest plan!!!!
Post # 11
I tell him everything. If someone we both know asks me to keep a secret, that secret is between me and them UNLESS it would need to involve my husband (Like if a friend says they want to kill themselves or hurt someone, extreme stuff like that.) Otherwise, yes, I tell him everything.
Post # 12
I do-I’m not sure why I wouldnt. He understands that some things I tell him have to stay between us, and he can’t go talking about it. But yea, if it’s some juicy stuff…I’m going to tell him.
There’s not a single person who would tell me a secret that doesn’t know I’m going to tell my husband.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2015 - Aloft Hotel
I tell him everything. I assume friends and family know this, as I know that many of them tell their partners things about me. We think of couples as units. Thankfully my FI is just about the least judgemental guy I’ve met and no matter what I tell him, his opinion of a person is always formed by his personal interactions with them (and not what I told him to think).
Furthermore, if something is bothering me or I want to talk about something important I trust him the most with all of the gritty details of my emotions. If I think my friend’s being a bitch or if my sister hurt my feelings I feel most comfortable opening up to him about it (before I confront the issue with the person in question of course). Partners, in our understanding of the word, means no secrets.
Post # 14
I tell my FI everything, even things that are probably meant to stay between me and other friends. But he’s the only person in the entire world with whom I can share my completely real, honest reactions without fear of being rude or hurting someone’s feelings. And he knows what things stay between us and shouldn’t be brought up around other people.
Post # 15
I’m definitely going to ask my friends about this, because I don’t feel comfortable with their SO’s knowing things about me. Our infertility issues is one. I only told a couple friends, but I would hate to think they are discussing it with SO. My husband is wonderful, non judgemental, and a human vault when it comes to secrets. He would never even act differently around said person. Hell, he likely wouldn’t even think about it when said friend comes around, but if a friend shares with me, they just share with me. I am going to ask them if they think sharing a secret with me is sharing a secret with “us”. I know how my best female friend feels about it, but I will definitely be discussing it with my other friends. I clearly can’t assume anything. Thanks for the insight ladies.