Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
When I tell a friend a secret, I assume they will tell their SO unless I swear them to secrecy even from their SO.
When a friend tells me a secret, and doesn’t swear me to secrecy, I generally don’t tell Mr. Bee. He is the same way.
How about you? How much do you share with your SO? Do you tell him everything?
Post # 3
Yup. I share everything with him. Not that when I learn something new do I go racing and tell him- but if a relavent topic comes up I tell him.
Having said that- one of my best friends mentioned something to me and made me swear I wouldn’t tell my fiance. So I honor that. But I feel like, who I am, who I interact with contributes to the whole of me. And so I like to share that aspect with my SO. Like life lessons learned from conversations I have had with friends.
Post # 4
I tell my FI absolutely everything! I guess there’s a trust there that no matter what he’ll never tell anyone. Because ultimately what is said between us stays between us. It’s nice not to have to keep everything just to myself. There are some secrets that just feel better to share with someone and maybe that’s why I tell him.
Post # 5
If it were something minor I would tell him. If it’s a really private matter of my girl friend’s, and they told me not to tell even him, then I probably wouldn’t. I respect my friends, and would hope they would do the same for me. Friendship outside of ours is still very important to me.
Post # 6
I always tell people "okay well you know the only person I’ll tell is *fiance*" and 99% of the time they just go "yeah whatever you can tell him" … but when I tell him secrets I have to be VERY specific when it’s a really really big secret. Boys just don’t seem to "get" secrets! If it’s a super big one, I can usually keep it to myself.
Post # 7
I will tell him if I think it’s something he will care about. Otherwise, secrets are safe with me. He isn’t gossipy so he usually rolls his eyes or laughs at whatever juicy dirt I am excited about.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
I tell him everything, unless it’s a surprise for him or something like that. If it’s my secret, it’s his secret too.
Post # 9
I tell my FI everything… even when I am "sworn to secrecy". People know that I can’t keep secrets. By being able to tell my FI, I am a better secret keeper.
Post # 10
I tell FI everything unless someone tells me not to tell him specifically. FI is really good at keeping secrets though so it never gets back to them.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
If someone specifically asks me not to tell him, I absolutely won’t tell him. If not, it really depends on the situation….I am a very loyal friend & there are just certain things that he doesn’t need to know about my friends personal issues!
Post # 12
How much I tell my FH generally depends on who tells me and the sensitivity of the information, as well as whether it’s something my FH needs to know or if it would just be a relief to me to share it or if it’s just interesting gossip.
I trust him with everything, but it’s not my place to share someone else’s private issues with my FH if it’s not something he needs to know or that I need the emotional support of sharing.
Post # 13
i don’t tell him everything. i don’t know about everyone else, but my fi and i have very different approaches to solving problems. sometimes i just need to vent and work things out but he’ll want to offer all kinds of suggestions when all i need is someone to listen. so there are times when i’ll vent to a girlfriend instead ’cause i just need an ear. but generally he is an amazing person and i love to share things with him.
Post # 14
I’m like quiche and tell him everything, unless specified that I shouldn’t…and he is the same way with me. We have mutual friends and they all already assume we tell each other everything and will make the caveat if they want to.
Post # 15
I tell him everything! Even the stuff that I probably shouldn’t (for his sake). I just can’t lie and if he asks I spill it. I have friends who used to hit on my shamelessly when I was single. I told him this and now he doesn’t trust them.. He’ll get over it though.. haha
This is really a problem with his mom. My sister’s mother in law, aunt in law, and my FI’s mom are all best friends so my sis has all the gossip on her. She is a really bad mom. I’m not just saying this… she just doesn’t like my FI as much as she likes herself or her other kids. When my sister hears about the lies she tells, including those about he and I, she tells me. I know that if I tell him it will just hurt him more. He wants her to love him SO much! But I get so mad I end up telling him anyway. BAD BAD BAD me!!!!
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
Yeah I tell Mr. Peng everything, even if someone swears me to secrecy UNLESS they specifically say, Don’t tell Mr. Peng. I’ve kept a couple secrets from him because people have asked me to specifically. But if someone tells me a secret and just says in general, "dont tell anyone," I typically tell him.