Do you tell your SO everything?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@LadyBlackheart:  Yes, I tell my fiancee everything because I know she can keep a secret and I trust her 100% as she has never given me a reason not to. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

@LadyBlackheart:  I tell DH everything as well!  I think it’s pretty natural.  If someone says to me “Don’t tell anyone” that, to me, means everyone except him.  

The way I see it, why does my friend care if my DH knows about her trip to the gyno?  I know I wouldn’t care if she told her DH/BF/SO…cause they’re men and don’t even really care about that stuff anyways!  DH has told me before that he listens to me because he loves me, but some of those (admittedly) gossipy details about friends or coworkers just go in one of his ears and out the other.  Kind of refreshing to hear him say that, TBH!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yep, sorry to my friends, but I will tell my fiance everything, he is my sounding board so I talk to him about everything. I think people assume I will tell him anything they tell me so they will only tell me what they are happy to hear!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@LadyBlackheart:  I tell my man everything. The only exceptions would be if he really wouldn’t care, i.e. “babe, I had chicken salad for lunch” or it just slips my mind. I don’t think he needs a play by play of my day, but I do give him the highlight version.

Honestly though, I think my friend’s yeast infection would fall under the category of shit he really wouldn’t care about 😛

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

yep. i tell the hubs everything. we are one… so it’s not like i really spilled any secrets.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Enh, yes and no.  I tell him important things.  I don’t tell him about my friends’ trips for their annual cooch-snoop. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Eh, there’s a time and place. I don’t get anything out of sharing girl talk with my boyfriend, and neither does he… so I wouldn’t share secrets in that respect. Sometimes something told to me in confidence will make me think about something, and that will become a conversation I have with him, but I won’t relay the discussion that brought it up. I am privileged to have friends that trust me with what’s close to their hearts, and I generally don’t find any reason to potentially betray that trust just to share all my thoughts with my partner.

But unless you were going into detail about another woman’s appointment, I don’t think mentioning that it was the topic of conversation is any crime against humanity.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I tell my SO pretty much everything, but in this case, I would have kept my mouth shut. That’s some pretty personal information, not to mention it’s kind of gross. As your friend, I’d be pretty pissed that you told your SO about my possible STD. It’s just not something he needs to know. It’d be embarassing to face him knowing that he knows about that.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

I would be pretty pissed if I thought I had an STD and told you in confidence and 5 minutes later you turned around and told your BF with me in ear shot.

 

That said,  no I don’t tell my husband what my girl friends tell me because he doesn’t care and because it’s none of his business.  We share things like that on a need to know basis,  such as an emergency or if something is terribly wrong. Mundane chatter? He couldn’t be less interested in that stuff and would quickly let me know as much. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@LadyBlackheart:  I tell my husband everything, but my friends understand this.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I tell him everything, and he tells me everything. I also know that he won’t pass on anything I tell him in confidence!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@LadyBlackheart:  Sorry but I think it’s pretty fucked up that you’d tell your fiance about something as personal as your roommates potential STD.  No, I don’t tell my DH everything, especially not something told to me in confidence.  I respect my friends’ right to privacy.  This is why I’m totally against “snooping” in people’s cell phones “for fun.”  My DH has no business reading my private conversations between friends, not because I don’t want him reading what I wrote but I don’t want him reading what was written TO ME.  If you’re friends wanted your SO to know about their issues, they’d tell him themselves.  

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