Post # 1
Today SO asked me what I want for Chirstmas and I kind of felt strange saying “Oh please get me x,y,z.”. I know if I get what I would actually want (earings) I will be thrilled. Whereas, I’m not sure how well he will do shopping “on his own”. In the past he has done ok on his own. Of course, I’ll be happy with us just being together for the holidays!
Do you tell your SO exactly what you want or wait to be surprised?
Post # 3
I personally think that if you want something, you should tell your SO. If he has trouble picking gifts, he might get something you really don’t like. I don’t see a problem with telling people what you want, it’s better than getting stuff you don’t like and having to lie or return it and making them feel bad.
Post # 3
Hahaha…. I flat out told FI I wanted earrings!
If I didn’t, lord knows what he would get me. He actually prefers if I give him like 5 little things that I’d like and he can choose which one to get so it’s still a surprise.
Not this year though…. I want those dang earrings. 😉
Post # 4
I usually tell him 4 or 5 items, he picks 2 or 3 of them from that list and then also gets 2 or 3 on his own. That way he knows I’ll love some of it, but i’ll also be surprised 🙂
Post # 5
Great question!! I also feel weird telling anyone I want “x.” (pretty sure doing the registry thing is gonna be super awkward for me, haha). I like to drop hints, but when FI asks me, I tell him that I think he’s a great gift-giver and I’m sure I will love whatever he picks out! I never ask him what he wants, cause I love surprising him.
I would leave your browser up with a page that has earrings you like. Heheh! 🙂
Post # 6
We usually tell each other a couple of things we’d like. But we usually end up getting each other something we didn’t ask for. If it’s something really specific, I figure he can buy it for himself (and that way I won’t screw it up). I’m always more touched by gifts that I wouldn’t have thought to buy or even want for myself… but that are still awesome, of course.
Post # 7
Excellent! Thank you everyone who has posted so far.:) I was a little torn and don’t want to come across as pushy. But the truth is I want earings so I will tell him this!
Post # 8
I typed mine up a list of about 12 items (so he has choices), complete with a link to what the item is…he asked for a wish list and i really had to think hard for one…it had all kinds of random things on it.
Just TELL him you want earrings for Christmas!!! He won’t read your mind, promise =].
Post # 9
I do tell my FI what I want. It is usually after I have already made the purchase(s) though. We have been together for just over 10 years and over the years I have gotten some pretty strange gifts. It just works better with me getting my own gifts. He still surprised me with a little something extra, but I get the major stuff. It seems like no matter how I explain something that I want, he will only hear a few words and what he gets is something that really isn’t what I was trying to explain to him.
Post # 10
I tell him because he always asks me. 🙂
Post # 11
Oh, I definitely make a list for my husband! I make it well in advance, before he even asks, because he is a terrible procrastinator. Also, his mom will ask him (not me) what I want, so I like him to have a list.
Now that I think about it, she is the only one who buys off the list. :o) For example, for the last two years I have had on my Christmas list “long, black LuLuLemon yoga pants.” I guess last year my husband went to look at them, but did not buy. This year, I put them on my list again, and he says, “That is so ridiculous. Why do you need $150 yoga pants?!?!” Men. They just don’t understand.
Post # 12
It depends. Sometimes I’ll say “If you need a Christmas gift for me …” and sometimes he’ll send our DD to find out what I’m hoping for. Other times, I’ll come ome from Christmas shopping and I’ll have bought something for me and I’ll say “You bought this for me” and he’ll say “Good because you bought this for me the other day!” and we laugh!
We do manage a few surprpises for each other, though ….
Post # 13
im the worse person to buy for so yes i have to tell him if i would like a gift on christmas day – even if its a hint like “honey the new stephen king book is coming out Nov 7th” – which it did so i know he bought it that day and its waiting for me
i usually get scuba gear or a scuba holiday for christmas and birthdays – i got new jet fins last week and im getting a new snorkel… very romantic
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Post # 14
I tell him if he asks. And anyone else for that matter. If they want to get me a gift I want their money to be well spent and go towards something I actually want/need.
I start making a googledoc with links at the beginning of November then I send it to my mom and dad.
Of course this year I already got my Christmas present from my husband…my new car! 🙂