Do you tell your SO what you're getting them for Christmas, present-wise?

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Do you tell your SO what you're getting them for Christmas/holidays?
    Sure do! I wouldn't want to get it for them if they don't even want it! : (10 votes)
    11 %
    Nope! It's a surprise! Plus, they can always return it! : (49 votes)
    54 %
    Sometimes I do but it depends on the item : (28 votes)
    31 %
    Other - please explain! : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    3699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I “snoop” for information. I’ll find it in a magazine I’m reading, or see a commercial and start asking about it. Or say that it came up on Amazon as a recommended item I might like. That way I can get his thoughts, but I’m not asking him if he’d want it for Christmas.

    I’m also one of those annoying people who shop year round (I’m basically done with Christmas chopping at the moment). So I generally ask these questions MONTHS in advance so Christmas isn’t even on his radar (he’s a shop Christmas Eve kind of guy)

    Post # 4
    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I said sometimes by mistake… I meant “other” because I tend to shop off his Amazon wish list because he’s CRAZY picky about what he wants. For a while I would shop off of it and just not buy it through his wish list (so he doesn’t know it’s been bought), but then his dad and I both got him the same thing… So now I either buy it straight off the list or clear it with anyone who may also be shopping for him.


    I would try hinting around about it so he has some idea, but not outright tell him. Also make sure no one also has that in mind for him this year.

    Post # 5
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I flat out ask what he wants if I’m feeling uninspired. Otherwise, I tell him I already got him something and keep him totally in the dark. That’s not very often though… We’re not super gifty, and he’s usually after something very specific and gun-related.

    Post # 6
    8389 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I usually make him something and he always loves it.  I made him these a few years ago and I’ve been adding to the costume ever since.

    Post # 10
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @cooperlove:  No, I don’t. Sometimes he can guess but I never actually tell him. I even hide his xmas presents at my parents’ house because he is a snooper.

    Post # 11
    448 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We don’t buy gifts for each other for Xmas and birthdays so we always know that we aren’t getting things.


    Post # 14
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I will often say “don’t buy…. ” and that’s how he knows he’s getting something. We’re not big surprise people though once in a while I like to do it!

    Post # 15
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    For big ticket items, absolutely. I am not going to spend a whole bunch of money for something that isnt absolutely perfect, so he is always very involved in the gift selection process. Of course, we are 100% combined finances, so it’s half his money anyway. It seems only right to give him full say in how that money gets spent. Heck, he has already received his Christmas gift for this year. Something he really wanted went on a very good sale last month. My brother gave me the heads-up, so I asked Mr. Lk if he wanted the item as his christmas present, and he enthusiastically agreed. Awesome! I will probably purchase 1 or 2 small things, and fill his stocking. So he will still get small surprises, but nothing that compares to his big gift.

    Post # 16
    7230 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Depends. Sometimes we tell each other what we want or give a list of options so its still kind of a surpise. Other times, we both just come up with something on our own without any input. 

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