Post # 1
I’ve been thinking about this. I’m on a health website forum and got sent some flirty messages from another user today. I quickly shut it down and ignored the conversation but was wondering if I should even bring it up to FI? We generally have a pretty open policy about that stuff and communicating it to each other, but is it even worth mentioning?
How much do you share with your SO about being hit on? Do you tell them every incident or let little situations slide?
Post # 3
I only tell him if it’s something totally retarded. Which it usually is.
Post # 4
Usually I dont, unless its a funny story. I think of it as, would you want him telling you everytime someone hit on him?
Post # 5
I agree with Rockstar33 I usually only tell him if its something we can get a good laugh out of…otherwise I just blow it off…I’m not going to act on it and sometimes it doesn’t make the other person feel good knowing about it.
Post # 6
@RockStar33: Yep. This. I only let him know if it’s something completely ridiculous (which of course it is most of the time).
Post # 7
No, unless it’s really weird.
Post # 8
If it makes for a good story and I know he’ll laugh then yes. But in general no, he doesn’t really like knowing. And I wouldn’t really care to know vice versa.
Post # 9
Telling him usually only makes him feel insecure and I don’t want ot make him feel that way so I usually don’t say anything unless its something funny and stupid. If it was a big deal I WOULD tell him, but sometimes those little omissions keep others from feeling bad about nothing.
Post # 10
I tell him with its so stupid or not the norm. Like when I was in a drive thru getting coffee the guy infront of my bought me a coffee. Hubby was a bit jealous and asked if I was going to get coffee the next day, hehe
Post # 11
I agree, I’ll tell him if it’s a funny or weird situation. I was out with a couple of girl friends the other night for drinks, and this guy comes up to our table and says, “You guys good on drinks?” Thinking he was a waiter, we said, “Yep, thanks” and went back to our conversation… only when we saw him walk back to his table did we realize that he didn’t work there.
SO and I had a good laugh when I told him the story (both at the guy’s lame line and my cluelessness!)
Post # 12
I ALWAYS tell him. I think it is a really good idea in a relationship. I tell him everything in general and I think it is good for trust, and usually it is funny.
Post # 13
If it’s a funny story, then yeah, to make him laugh! If it was more weird or uncomfortable, I’d just keep it to myself instead of making him upset/mad that someone made me feel that way.
Post # 14
For example, i told him about the guy in the grocery store who kept coming by and turning to me with his creepy clown smile.
Post # 15
Gosh…. I can’t even go grocery shopping or get the mail without some douchebag making some stupid remark….
“I am pregnant Creeper!!! UGH!”
Sometimes I tell him, sometimes I don’t. If its funny then sure, but other times I don’t find it important enough to bring it up. He dosn’t really need to know how many a-holes hit on me. Maybe it is the town I live in…but if I felt the need to tell him everytime it happens….it would be brought up everyday.
Post # 16
I do, but that’s because he knows what a catch I am () and finds anytime I turn a guy down amusing — he doesn’t really go out much (without me anyway) and doesn’t get hit on a lot, although there were some 16/17 year olds who were in his store the other day and did their best at flirting (it was really more giggling uncontrollably) lol