I'm curious to see if more people do tell vs. don't tell their SO.
So when someone hits on you do you tell your SO about it or not?
I always tell my SO when it happens at work, it's just part of my ranting about my job. I work at a hotel and get hit on way more than I should, it's not like I'm a dancer or anything. And it's always men who are 20 to 30 years older than me. But the other day a co worker was drunk and started hitting on me. Even though he's dating my friend and he knows I'm getting married. He was drunk. He walked away and later came back saying the same things. I didn't want to worry my FI about this as it was a co worker that I see every day but since I tell him about everyone else I told him about that too, I felt like I was hiding something if I didn't. He didn't get upset though, just said some compliments about me and why people would hit on me.
So am I the only one who tells their SO this? Should I not tell him, not tell him as much or keep tellinghim everything?
always, i tell my FI everything. i would want to know if some chick hit on him.
Only if it was a really funny occurance or super creepy. Otherwise I don't even remember it.
I always tell my DH everything.
And for some reason it appalls me when someone hits on me, because I'm married. Naive, I know, but it pisses me off; what the hell is wrong with some guys, anyway?
I used to tell him all the time, in an effort to be 100% honest. But I have found that unless it's associated with a funny story, its not worth mentioning on its own. He's not the jealous kind, luckily!
I always do because I hate being hit on and I'm always a rude bitch when it happens. Boyfriend likes to hear my bitch stories :)
@LiliKitty: Yeah pretty much always really creepy at my work.
When I get home and am telling him about my day this gets mixed in with it. Plus I don't want him thinking I hide anything from him so I'm always honest, perhaps too honest at some points
@KJA00: Haha I'm working on the rude part. I'm never rude but I really hate being hit on. But being the nice person I am apparently it makes the weirdos think they have a shot I guess? So I've been working on being rude to them. I haven't gotten very far in that yet,, but I have learned the art of ignoring. I just don't look at or talk to them when they do this. But I think I have to get a little more tough since some guy says "Do I make your nervous? You're shy, I'm making you shy I like that" when really I was trying to ignore him.
I used to tell him until he told me how uncomfortable it makes him. Now I don't, unless it's something he should know about (i.e. friend, or a celebrity--hey, it happened once! Haha).
for me it all depends on the circumstance - I was hit on recently at work and had to tell him because I'm 4 weeks from having a baby...I'm huge, married and pregnant! who does that? I loved every second of it because I can't even remember the last time someone hit on me and I've been feeling quite disgusting lately.
I always tell SO whenever I get hit on, esp. if it's something really weird and funny like say if we're at the mall together and we separate from each other at a department store. I'll tell him and then we'll both laugh and he'll say "that's kind of a compliment to me...that I have a beautiful and hot gf! :)"
I tell him either if it's RIDICULOUS the way the guy did it or if I think a friend will bring it up at a later date, otherwise it's not worth bothering him about.
I don't tell him unless it's an over-the-top example of someone acting the fool, and while I've never had one of his friends or my friends hit on me, I would probably tell him simply because of the existing relationships. But I'm not hiding the fact that I occasionally get hit on. It's just not conversation-worthy.
No, why tell him and potentially upset him over something that means nothing to me? He's a wee bit jealous so I don't play into it.
The vast majority of the time, yes I'll tell her. However if it's something ridiculously small like someone tries it on with me and I knock them back and they are respectful there on in, I dont see why I would tell her. It's not that I'll keep it from her, it's just it doesn't come up because it doesnt matter. There have been times when someone has been a bit more forward and I shared it with her then as I didnt want her to hear it from someone else and get the wrong end of the stick.
I tell him. They're always funny situations with douchebag comments. lol. FI works at a bar and oh boy! these girls have no boundaries when hitting on my FI. They tell him straight out that they want to eff him or givr him a bj. lol. One time this girl's friends told my FI she needed help and she was in her car. Him thinking she was drunk, sick, passed out... went to make sure she was ok. He opened the door and there she was sitting in the back seat, no pants, pulling her underwear down. My FI cussed her out, slammed the door, went to get her friends and banned them from ever going there again. FI is an asshoLe with girls that hit on him, I was the one exemption. lol. So I am just amazed how women are these days. So my stories come nothing close to his when I tell him when guys hit on me. haha
Alcohol courage... wow! lol
No, not unless it was super amusing and a funny story. Guys don't want to hear those things so why would I tell him?!
No. I dont knwo what it would accomplish to tell him unless I was seriously offended and wanted him to know. Telling him would only make him jealous or protective of me. Yes, we could laugh it off (and we have in the past, but it's more uncomfortable than it is funny).
I always tell my FI but particularly love it in funny circumstances such as when I got wolf-whisteled whilst running. As he constantly teases me about my sweaty look I love rubbing it back in his face haha
I tell him if it's a good story, like if it was a total creeper or funny in some other way. If it's nothing noteworthy I don't need to tell him. Like a while back some normal seeming guy hit on me in a coffee shop, I told him I was taken and that was that. In that situation there really wasn't anything to tell my SO. Now if the guy hadn't backed off, if it was someone we knew, or if he was like wearing a rainbow top hat, then I would tell SO as those are stories.
Nope. Not unless it was really funny as a PP said, or particularly rude.
I don't. My husband is not a jealous man - but to me, I see no point in telling him, because I don't see the positive in telling him. My husband knows that other men find me attractive, so I guess I just don't feel the need to validate it by telling him every time a man hits on or compliments me. It works for us :)
I do sometimes, like if it was a funny story. Otherwise, I figure it would get old after awhile.
First off -- it would have to be really, really obvious before I'd even pick up on it. Once we started dating, it was like I dismantled and threw away my pick-up radar. It's gone.
But yes, we tell each other. It's typically a "can you even believe this happened?" moment. Usually it's just random people out in the world, but once it was the girlfriend of a mutual friend hitting on DH when I wasn't around. That was awkward.
I tell my SO everytime, bc a part of me enjoys attention from other guys, even if its a flirty meaningless thing. lets me know I still got it! But i want him to know everytime, so there are no secrets, and I'd want to know about girls. i feel very comfortable telling him
I generally don't tell him. he knows it happens anyway. I did, however, tell him about the one time his friend tried it on with me (he's harmless, it was a stupid game this girl was playing, he was drunk, I was nearby).
Of cours! Gotta let him know I still got it...
Usually if I realize I've been hit on, it's under extremely awkward circumstances and I definitely tell him. I tell him everything anyway!
There was no poll option for "No." I don't see the point in telling him since I brush it off and he isn't in the least bit jealous. If I told him he would be completely apathetic about the whole thing. Plus, I would feel like I was bragging to him, which seems really weird to me haha.
I made that mistake once. I told my husband that I got hit on at starbucks when I was in NY visiting my family. I knew who the guy was, he just didn't know who I was, apparently. Well, I told him and he flipped. When I ended up leaving a month later because of a huge argument with me and my husband, he said I was running away with that guy. WTF?! LMAO
I tell him if it was a particularly clever or odd approach. But for the most part I don't. It's not a big deal to either of us.
I usually tell him about it. He usually gets all frisky and says, "ROWR, I got me a hot wife!"
No because in all honesty, it happens a lot! I am super friendly and flirty (can't help it) and it would be so repetitive and seem like I'm sharing it to make him feel jealous. He knows I talk to everyone I meet so he doesn't worry. I can't help it! I love talking to strangers :)
I only tell him some of the time. If someone close to our circle (or a coworker) hit on me, I would definitley tell him as a point of concern.
If I am at the bar with friends and some random flirts/hits on me, I shoo them away and don't bother telling DH, unless they guy becomes annoying, then I will tell him.
If I get hit on at a weird place (bank, grocery store), or if a guy uses a funny/cliche line, I tell him because it is funny.
I tell my husband everything. I think he gets a little kick out of other guys wanting me and me rejecting them. Hitting-on is different than touching- we were at a club before we were engaged and a guy danced up to me without my knowledge. The guy was about to touch me when, all of a sudden, my now husband picked me up by the waist, pivoted 180degrees, and set me down. I blinked and ended up standing somewhere else.
All that said, I've been mostly ignored by the single male population ever since I put on my e engagement ring.
I tell him when I'm hit on. We both like to brag.
He'll come work and tell me about a saucy russian woman who hit on him at work.
I'll tell him about a handsome young gent that followed me around the store. We have a good time with it.
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