Post # 1
Just curious and for fun! Do you prefer for him to be there when you see the results on the pregnancy test, or would you rather test then let him know/surprise him?
P.S. Extra brownie points for stories!
Post # 3
We are staring next cycle, but I think I am going to do it alone in the beginning. He works nights and getting our schedules to match will be hard.
I would also like to surprise him. Maybe a Christmas gift? He has not idea about when to test so at this point I am going to be vague and see what happens.
Post # 4
I have never thought about this because we are not TTC yet, but I think I would only do it with him there. If it did turn out we were pregnant, I would want to share that moment with him.
Post # 5
I tested with him around, it stressed me out though I think him staring at me for 3 minutes freaked me out lol.
When I was pregnant I “secretly” tested while he was at the store with our son. I got a positive, Then burst into tears when he walked through the door.
Post # 6
I went to Europe with my mom and the day I got back I tested, I was still on PTO and he was at work and I wanted to surprise him anyway. In the moment part of me wanted someone to be like OMG with, but being alone gave me a chance to process, and a chance to surprise him that night in a fun way.
Post # 7
@bdockery: we are not TTC yet…but we plan to start trying the end of next year.
But what i can tell you is I plan to surprise him.
When he proposed he attached a note around my dogs collar and I plan to do the same.
Post # 8
We had a pregnancy scare and I tested with him. It was incredibly stressful…he was watching and asking “well what does it say” over and over.
So when we got back from our honeymoon and I missed my period I was getting paranoid. I didn’t want to freak him out and I was telling myself that it was all in my head and I wasn’t really pregnant. So I tested without him.
Thank GOD I did. Because when that blue line popped up and I got my BFP I needed some time to myself. I had a mini panic attack. Said “oh shit” several times… I needed to process it by myself. If he was there he would have tried to comfort me, and that would have freaked me out more.
Everyone is different, some people would have needed or wanted that support. For me personally, I am so thankful I had that day to myself to get excited enough to tell him by the time he got home. 🙂
Post # 9
I’ve done both, but I never told him about it, I would just toss them in the trash and dig them about about 73 times. I really feel like peeing on things is a solo event.
The only time that I tested that he actually knew about it was when he forced me (lovingly) to take another test after I came home with my BFP (was at work). I peed on it, the line came up right away so I walked out of the bathroom handed it to him, had a shower and he was still staring at it 20 minutes later.
Post # 10
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There were a few times before we were officially TTC-ing that I tested and didn’t tell him. The first time I tested and he found out it was negative, it bunmed him out (we weren’t trying and I was religious with my birth control but he was hoping anyway lol) so I stopped sharing after that.
Post # 11
I always tested when he was home, but I rarely ever told him what I was doing. I didn’t want him to get stressed out or be disappointed with the results. When I did get the BFP, my plan to surprise him with a cute gift went out the window and I ended up shoving the pee stick in his face like “OMG LOOK”, haha.
Post # 12
I always tested with FMU, so he was always home!
Post # 13
I’ve always done it first thing in the morning, so he’s home. It wasn’t a conscious decision about him, I’ve just always heard mornings are best.
Post # 14
I POAS while he was there the first time, but he seemed so disappointed that I didn’t want to do it that way again. The first two months we weren’t majorly trying, but the third month we were and i really didn’t want him to be upset so I waited for him to go to work. When I realized it was positive I freaked out! It was nice to have my time to myself but I couldn’t wait for him to get home! It also gave me time to do something cute for him.
Post # 15
I tested when he was home.
But only because it was a Sunday and I had a spray painting (furniture) project I wanted to finish up, but didn’t want to do it if I was pregnant because of the fumes. So I ran to the store just so I could take the test and be sure I wasn’t pregnant and inhale all the fumes I needed to without feeling guilty. Except the test was positive. And our kitchen chairs are still two different colors.
Post # 16
@MrsBot: LMAO! That’s so cute and hilarious 🙂 But hey at least instead of feeling guilty everytime you see the unfinished mismatched chairs you can feel excited and joyful!