Do you test when your SO is home or gone?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Test when your SO is home?
    Always : (14 votes)
    19 %
    Never : (12 votes)
    16 %
    Sometimes : (27 votes)
    36 %
    Doesn't Matter : (21 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We are staring next cycle, but I think I am going to do it alone in the beginning.  He works nights and getting our schedules to match will be hard.

    I would also like to surprise him.  Maybe a Christmas gift?  He has not idea about when to test so at this point I am going to be vague and see what happens.

    Post # 4
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I have never thought about this because we are not TTC yet, but I think I would only do it with him there. If it did turn out we were pregnant, I would want to share that moment with him.

    Post # 5
    2189 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I tested with him around, it stressed me out though I think him staring at me for 3 minutes freaked me out lol.

    When I was pregnant I “secretly” tested while he was at the store with our son. I got a positive, Then burst into tears when he walked through the door.

    Post # 6
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I went to Europe with my mom and the day I got back I tested, I was still on PTO and he was at work and I wanted to surprise him anyway. In the moment part of me wanted someone to be like OMG with, but being alone gave me a chance to process, and a chance to surprise him that night in a fun way.

    Post # 7
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @bdockery:  we are not TTC yet…but we plan to start trying the end of next year.

    But what i can tell you is I plan to surprise him.

    When he proposed he attached a note around my dogs collar and I plan to do the same.

    Post # 8
    1343 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We had a pregnancy scare and I tested with him. It was incredibly stressful…he was watching and asking “well what does it say” over and over. 

    So when we got back from our honeymoon and I missed my period I was getting paranoid. I didn’t want to freak him out and I was telling myself that it was all in my head and I wasn’t really pregnant. So I tested without him. 

    Thank GOD I did. Because when that blue line popped up and I got my BFP I needed some time to myself. I had a mini panic attack. Said “oh shit” several times… I needed to process it by myself. If he was there he would have tried to comfort me, and that would have freaked me out more. 

    Everyone is different, some people would have needed or wanted that support. For me personally, I am so thankful I had that day to myself to get excited enough to tell him by the time he got home. 🙂 

    Post # 9
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve done both, but I never told him about it, I would just toss them in the trash and dig them about about 73 times. I really feel like peeing on things is a solo event.

    The only time that I tested that he actually knew about it was when he forced me (lovingly) to take another test after I came home with my BFP (was at work). I peed on it, the line came up right away so I walked out of the bathroom handed it to him, had a shower and he was still staring at it 20 minutes later.

    Post # 10
    1229 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    There were a few times before we were officially TTC-ing that I tested and didn’t tell him. The first time I tested and he found out it was negative, it bunmed him out (we weren’t trying and I was religious with my birth control but he was hoping anyway lol) so I stopped sharing after that. 


    Post # 11
    2174 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I always tested when he was home, but I rarely ever told him what I was doing.  I didn’t want him to get stressed out or be disappointed with the results.  When I did get the BFP, my plan to surprise him with a cute gift went out the window and I ended up shoving the pee stick in his face like “OMG LOOK”, haha.

    Post # 12
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I always tested with FMU, so he was always home!

    Post # 13
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’ve always done it first thing in the morning, so he’s home. It wasn’t a conscious decision about him, I’ve just always heard mornings are best. 

    Post # 14
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I POAS while he was there the first time, but he seemed so disappointed that I didn’t want to do it that way again. The first two months we weren’t majorly trying, but the third month we were and i really didn’t want him to be upset so I waited for him to go to work. When I realized it was positive I freaked out! It was nice to have my time to myself but I couldn’t wait for him to get home! It also gave me time to do something cute for him.

    Post # 15
    1019 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I tested when he was home.

    But only because it was a Sunday and I had a spray painting (furniture) project I wanted to finish up, but didn’t want to do it if I was pregnant because of the fumes. So I ran to the store just so I could take the test and be sure I wasn’t pregnant and inhale all the fumes I needed to without feeling guilty. Except the test was positive. And our kitchen chairs are still two different colors.

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