Post # 1
So I feel entirely silly posting this, I really do. But although I hate surprises, I also hate to ruin a surprise, so I don’t want to bring my sneaking suspicion to my mom or my friends and be able to hear in their voices or see in their faces that I’m right, and then hate myself for being nosy! Also, I don’t want to be embarrassed when it doesn’t happen. So mostly, I just want someone to tell!
My cousin is getting married in Memphis next weekend. For the longest time, I thought it was the weekend after next – June 27 rather than June 20. Last night, I was talking with FI on the phone (we have been long distance for the past couple weeks and will be for a year) and I mentioned the wedding, and he was quick to correct me on the date. "I’m looking at my calendar and it says right here when it is," he said. "Call your mom and make sure." I was surprised that A) he definitely knew when it is, and B) that he was so insistent that I iron it out with my mom right away.
My cousin is having a black and pink wedding, and his future wife wants family members to dress in the wedding colors – though not extended family. I was talking with FI again about it today, and he said, "Aren’t we supposed to wear black and pink?" He said we about a wedding he’s not going to.
Aside from these two things, my biggest clue is, I was looking over his shoulder (innocently!) months ago, and saw an email to my mom that said "Memphis trip". I didn’t think much about it, because I’m from TN, and I’d forgotten about it. But my cousin is getting married in Memphis!
SO! Do you think what I think? Is he going to surprise me at my cousin’s wedding and propose?? We are already planning a wedding and he told me I’d have my ring in August, but maybe he’s doing it early! I hate to get my hopes up but the thought has been so exciting all day, I can’t get my mind off it!
Post # 3
Maybe! Sounds like there’s definitely some sort of surprise cooked up fro you! Just enjoy it.
Post # 4
Okay, I think you take a step back and take a deep breath. I think that when we are waiting for a guy to propose, we turn the littlest thing into a "SIGN" that he’s going to do "it". Nothing in your post "says" that he is going to propose. Show up to the wedding and surprise you? Yes, I can totally see THAT happening. But that’s just me, I don’t like to set myself up for failure.
Post # 5
Oh I remember the days of being constantly suspicious and hopeful. 🙂 I’d say it sounds like a good possibility, but don’t set yourself up for heartbreak if it doesn’t happen! Keep us posted!
Post # 6
I have to agree with Jezzybell.
Post # 7
haha you’re toooooo cute ^_^
Post # 8
Ohhh those guessing days 🙂
Hehe I think there’s a good chance but just try to concentrate on your cousin’s wedding for now 🙂
Post # 9
I’m with jezzybell as well. The surprise very well could be that he is going to the wedding, especially since you didn’t think he was going and you guys aren’t seeing eachother as often since it seems like you are newly long distance. I had my hopes up WAY too many times and it didn’t happen. I would hate for you to be disappointed! Please let us know when you get back though!!! 🙂
Post # 10
Ah, you guys are right… he’s probably just surprising me by coming. First of all, I don’t think its his style to propose at or even right before someone else’s wedding, and steal their thunder. Secondly, I know where the ring we picked out is, and there’s no way he would have been able to buy it already.
I just WANT. IT. TO. HAPPEN.
Post # 11
Just be patient and relax. I honestly dont see anything concrete in there and really do you want to be proposed to at someone elses wedding? You need to just let it happen.
Post # 12
Take it from somebody who thought they were 100 percent getting engaged in Jamaica on their big trip this year…and DIDN’T.
Men will do what they want when they want. Btw, I’m from Memphis originally and can say to go enjoy some good BBQ, watch the ducks walk at the Peabody, and give Elvis my fondest regards (seriously..we have a family connection!)
Enjoy your trip and do not even think of the e..it will happen all in good time. Enjoy the phase you’re in right now. Because now is all the good fun before the hard work of merging two lives together and planning a wedding begins!
Post # 13
Thank for all the support, hive. I guess the hard thing for me is mourning my big, surprise proposal. I always thought my proposal would precede wedding planning, and that I would go to tastings and wedding gown shopping with a ring on my finger.
Since we’ve chosen June 19, we are "getting the ball rolling", though we haven’t told everyone to try to make the actual engagement more of an announcement. But I talked to my mom today and she suggested we go ahead and share the news before I get my ring, because she wants me to be "prepared" for it to take a while.
I know the reason its going to take a while is that he’s planning something special and getting me the ring of my dreams, so I hate to act so selfish, but its just now how I thought it would be. That’s why I got my hopes up for next weekend, thinking that I could still have that big proposal experience.
But what matters is that I get to marry the love of my life, right?!
Post # 14
Right! Is he just coming along but not going to the wedding?
I really hope he doesn’t propose AT your cousins’ wedding. I really think that’s the worst thing anybody could do to a family member/friend. At least younknow it’s not his style! He might do it afterwards, but he might not! Try not to think too much about it!
Post # 15
He’s not coming at all, and I really wouldn’t want him to propose at someone else’s wedding either!