Post # 1
I was watching Dr. Phil yesterday and one of his guests said she refused to talk to her children about sex because 1-they were raised that sex is only for the confines of marriage and 2-it would be awkward and embarassing for the kids.
I’m not a parent, so I’ve never had to really go through the whole giving of the sex talk. I don’t really remember having a sex talk with my mom either. I do plan on making sure my future children are informed so they can make good choices if they do choose to have sex outside of marriage.
While I understand that some people’s religious beliefs frown upon sex outside of marriage, I also think it is important to have an open door policy regarding questions concerning sex.
So bees, what are your thoughts? Do you think having open communication about sex is important? Do you plan or have you had the sex talk with your kids?
Post # 3
I dont have kids, but I hear far too many stories of accidental pregnancies or STI’s due to lack of education.
Sex is a natural part of life and it is important for parents to prepare their kids for the world. I 100% think parents should speak to their children about sex. Regardless of religious beliefs, it is an important thing to be educated on.
Post # 4
I think its so important on so many levels. While the ideal situation for that family might be to wait for marriage, there are things that can happen (both good and bad) and if someone is unfamiliar, it could lead to more problems down the road. I’d rather have a talk, get it all out there, but let them know my expecations or desires as a parent
Post # 5
I think it’s inappropriate NOT to. Honestly, I think it’s bad parenting to not talk to them about it.
Post # 6
It is absolutely essential for parents to talk about sex to their kids! Kids are curious and they WILL learn about sex somewhere. My Mom wouldn’t talk to me about sex so I learned about it on my own- by losing my virginity at 13 years old.
Post # 7
@arsing89: I think the open communication is very important to a point. I will not condone my kids to have sex whenever they feel like they are “ready”. But I will answer any questions they have truthfully. I will advise them to wait till they are married.
Post # 9
I don’t have kids, but I definitely plan on talking to them about sex! I think it’s pretty poor parenting not to. Even if your beliefs are that it should only happen after you’re married, I still think they need to know some basic facts about it so they’re not completely clueless. And I always think it’s better to hear it from parents rather than the kids at school. I plan on having age-appropriate answers prepared about sex if my future kids come to me with questions whether they are 5, 8, 10, etc. And I definitely plan on having a more in depth talk around middle school age, especially about condoms and birth control.
Post # 10
LO is due in January and yes, I have already thought about this.
With anything, especially sex…. I want open communication with her. It is better she hears it from her parents, then from her friends or the television…
Post # 11
I have a daughter that is 10. I’m planning the period talk with her this weekend because i feel she’s getting close. I’ve read books to educate myself on how to approach the subject and what will be asked by the child. I’m prepared to answer basic sex questions. When talking to girls about a period, it’s going to come up as to why girls/woman have them. It’s in books that I got for her to read also.
My parents didn’t talk to me about things, and I was devistated. I want to keep my kids informed and educated. It’s not so much the talk, it’s educating them. We can do so much better at educating them than the schools or peers can do.
Post # 12
I remember first asking my mom what sex was when I was eight. She didn’t freak out and gave me an honest, non-sugarcoated answer. I was just like, “Oh. Okay.” I didn’t run off and have sex at age 8 because of it, and it opened the door for us to talk more in-depth when I was a teenager.
Post # 13
@figgnewton: I feel the same way. I will advise my children to wait but I also want them to be informed so if they do decide to have sex they can do so safely. I don’t understand how you cannot talk about it in today’s society.
Post # 14
i think the “sex talk” is very important. i remember having the talk with my son.
if you are open and honest about sex, the chances are they will be too.
Post # 15
I think there is a line, your 10 year old doesn’t need details of their parents sex life but it is also a serious disservice to your child to NOT talk about it. There is a huge sexulization of childhood (hello little girls panties with juciy on the butt?) and they will get the info from somewhere and it would be better to get truthful information from an adult they trust like their parents not the locker room with all the BS pre teens and teens think. I still personally believe that sex is for marriage and marriage only but I also don’t plan on sticking my kids in chasitity belts and if they choose to have sex I would MUCH prefer them do it in a way that doesn’t make me a grandma at 35 or them with some gnarly disease that is totaly preventable.
Post # 16
Absolutely, children need a “sex talk”. Hell, they need more than one – at different ages. When they are young, they may just be curious as to what it is, and I’ll give them a straight forward answer, and include the biological aspect – the whole “how babies are born” deal. When they are older, you bet I will be telling them all about birth control and safe sex. I don’t want my kid running around unprotected.