Do you think it's "OK" for women to make more money than their SO/FI/DH?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What do you think about women earning more than their partners?
    Completely ok! Power to her! : (106 votes)
    97 %
    Eh, it's "ok," but not ideal. : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Not ok! He should be earning more! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I own my own business and my fiancee is in the motion picture industry here in Los Angeles, in the last two years I have made more then double what he makes, now he is getting the opportunity to direct a film, so he will probably make more then men this year. I think its the 21s century and men and women both have the opportunity to get an education and pursue their dreams. I think if a man has a problem with the fact that you earn more he probably has some kind of self esteem issues, that being said, I don’t know if I would want to date a man who for whom unemployement was a choice or a way of life, unless of course he was a stay at home dad or something of that nature.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  BelleEtoile.
    Post # 3
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    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t think it matters who earns more.

     

    Post # 4
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    11740 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Seriously?  This is actually something that needs to be discussed?

    DH would love it if I made enough money for him to sit at home all day and be a SAHD.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I can’t believe this is even a conversation in this day and age. Of course it’s fine. Your cousin makes me angry. 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Agree with PPs, it’s ridiculous to even have to ask.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Your cousin is clearly living by some mostly obsolete ideologies. 

    While a some people (clearly) still feel this way, I would certainly hope that the majority of people aren’t perpetrating this opinion. I mean, let’s be realistic here.

    Money is money. It clothes you, feeds you, houses you and provides for you an your family. Two married people are a unit and generally contributing to the same household finances and goals. So who the heck cares who brings in more on which gender side?! 

    Personally, if I was a man, I think Id want a woman who was willing to shoot higher than me. Why not? How is more earning power a bad thing from anywhere? Heck, send the kids, they’re welcome to out earn me too 😉

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    IN an ideal world both parties would be able to make equally good salaries but in the real world one is always going to make more than the other.  I’m an attorney and my husband is a writer so I make more than twice (okay 10 times) what he makes.  It just worked out that way.  I actually prefer being the breadwinner because I know that I can take care of myself should something bad happen to my husband.

    We also plan for my husband to be a Stay at Home Dad when we have a child next year.  I will take my 3 months FMLA with 75% short term disability pay and then return to work.  Thankfully we live close enough to my office (1.5 miles) that I will be able to go home and breastfeed during the day if I want.

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    My sister makes, and will probably always make, more than her husband. That has not stopped them from having a successful relationship for nearly 10 years, with two kids in the picture. My Mom makes more money than my Dad now, but only because he is retired. They seem to be doing fine at nearly 40 years of marriage. Ignorance exists in the world, and always will. Not that it should make you comfortbale with it, but I think we have to accept that it will always be here, in one form or another. At least your cousin believes that she can work and go to college  Though, have you asked her her opinion on votes for Women? 😉

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by  .
    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Actually now that I think about it most of the women I know make more than their husbands.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    I often joke that FI will be a SAHD.  Yes, of course it is okay. Your cousin sounds silly.  

    Post # 12
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Your cousin is an idiot.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Absolutely it’s ok. Not every profession makes an equal amount of money. What to me is unacceptable, is not making enough money because one of the partners sits around not getting a job, pretending to try, etc etc etc… that whole situation.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    of course it is OK. It means more money. I don’t get how that would be a bad thing…? Please ignore your cousin and avoid future related conversations with her about gender roles and money.

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