Post # 1
Kind of a spin-off of the “man pleasing food” topic.
I never get the “man food” versus “woman food”. I’ll eat steak with no complaints, and my husband is just fine eating a froo-froo colorful salad with edible flowers on it. (Heck, if I’m cooking at home, it’s not unusual for us to both have the steak AND the froo-froo salad in the same meal.) We’re both open to try about anything, and neither of us categorize food as “manly” or “girly”, it’s just food!
It seems to me the idea of “man food” or “woman food” stems from some strange pop-culture ideas we have. (I say “pop-culture” because I don’t really see it in other countries with traditional ethic cuisines.) That “man food” is: *grunt*, meat!, *grunt grunt!* And woman food is “pretty, light, and healthy”. It seems to stem from the idea that men need to be strong and burly, and women dainty and delicate.
Post # 3
I agree with you. My brother and I have very similar food likes and dislikes. I attribute this to the fact that we were raised in the same home. On the other hand my husband and I have different likes and dislikes (the man doesn’t like sweet things for breakfast, and really doesn’t like “sweet meat” like sloppy joes and brown sugar meatloaf), but we grew up in different cultures with different norms.
I think the idea of “man food” and “girly food” is ridiculous.
Post # 4
I also think that this is made up. I think because women try to watch what they eat more than men the stereotype occurs.
I really never understood this. My DH eats ‘women’ foods and i eat ‘man’ foods.
Post # 5
I was the creator of that thread, and I totally realize how silly it came off. I grew up in the south, and what you can’t hear is my fake, OTT southern accent when I say “man pleasin'” It actually kind of pokes fun at the whole concept. haha
I don’t think they have inherently different tastes, but I do think that many men are conditioned to like heavier, meatier things. It’s totally pop-culture, and you’re right, many other countries don’t do it. I know no one gave my little brother a guilt trip about not eating his brussels sprouts, but I sure got one. By the time they get to us, it’s what society or their moms has told them is appropriate. I did mention somewhere in the other thread that my FH was going to have to pretend to like veggies b/c I don’t want to answer, “but why doesn’t daddy have to eat his vegetables,” when we have kids.
To be fair, I love the sh*t outta some fatty, red-meat-y, starchy goodness, and I don’t really love vegetables. Salads are generally unsatisfying, unless eaten as a pre-dinner something or other.
I eat far more vegetables and fish than those other things though, because I’ve been watching my weight since i was, oh, 8 years old. 🙂 I don’t like the bloated feeling that, say, pasta alfredo, gives me, because I don’t like feeling “fat.” I’ve never understood it when people are all proud that they have a “food baby” (that distended belly you get when you eat WAY too much).
Interesting topic, you should add a poll! I’ll be watching for more responses…
Post # 6
I definitely don’t believe there is “man food” and “woman food”. I think I enjoy a well cooked steak even more than DH sometimes!
Post # 7
I agree that there isn’t really man food vs woman food. Its all in how you were raised to eat. We were both raised to try anything, and are very adventurous with food (me more than him).
Post # 8
I agree, I don’t think this is a real thing as far as personal preferences go. I do think that we are expected to fall into those food stereotypes, however.
Its something that we are conditioned to believe, for sure, and I think it often intertwines itself with perceptions of people’s weight as well as class issues.
We’ve been conditioned to believe that salad=skinny and burger=fat, even though its wildly untrue. I had a friend in college who did not believe I ate Burger King and asked for photographic evidence. One thing that drew my FI in when we first started dating, he says, is the fact that I would eat whatever I wanted. Apparently, that was surprising to him, cause he had been taught to believe that women don’t eat that way.
Its funny. Some of us would do a double take a at gruff 300 lb male biker eating a field green salad, the same way we would be surprised at a 90 lb model eating ribs.
This is really interesting! Just as I’m writing this, I’m thinking of all the way food is divided by gender, class, race, weight, etc. Really something to think about!
Post # 9
I’d take a bacon cheeseburger or a nice rare steak over a salad any day.
Post # 10
The only food I can think of that I tease my fiance about being a “man food” are sardines…and that’s probably because I have never seen a woman eat them in my life, and yet my dad, my uncles and fiance and his brothers LOVE them. But, I’m sure there are women who enjoy them as well!
Post # 11
@bells219 – I hope I didn’t come off as insulting your thread. It just reminded me of how many times we hear things like “man food” or “girly drinks” or “that’ll put hair on your chest (referring to hard alcohol)”, etc..
@kimberlyr22 – You can add me, my sister, and my mom to the list of women who eat sardines! (Especially the ones in mustard sauce! YUM!)
My mom runs a bed & breakfast, I know she does it too. If she has a group of hunters (typically males), breakfast will be something like biscuits & gravy, bacon, scrambled eggs. If she has a group of middle-aged women, breakfast will be more along the lines of cream-cheese and walnut stuffed french toast with apricot/orange homemade syrup. If there are mixed groups (say, hunters and craft-show exhibitors), she’ll do a middle-of-the-road breakfast like apple breakfast casserole, eggs, sausage.
Post # 12
I don’t think there are gender-specific foods, but I do think the sterotypes have pushed men and women to *think* there are. I know some men who absolutely love the so-called “girly” drinks like cosmos and fruity tropical things, but they will NOT order them at a bar or restaurant, for fear of getting ripped by their friends (nice friends, huh?). I also recall some chicks in college who wouldn’t order a hamburger and beer because they thought it was “manly food.” Hah.
DH and I eat and drink according to what we like, so we definitely combine and cross our tastes. He would laugh if he ever heard someone refer to food as manly/girly, and probably just look at them and say “it’s just food!”
Post # 13
I think i describe food differently depending on who i am serving it to. Like if i am having my girlfriend over for dinner, i’ll say ‘This is organic, locally-raised beef with caramelized onions and Sutherfarms Brie’ and if i am making dinner for my husband i’ll say ‘ BABE! DINNER IS READY!’
Post # 14
@BostonBaby: I remember my FI telling me a story about some teenagers who were making fun of thier friend because he bought a pink milkshake. It was, uh, strawberry.
I also recall some chicks in college who wouldn’t order a hamburger and beer because they thought it was “manly food.”
Well, they missed out!
Post # 15
@abbyful: that brings my total to 3!
My college cafeteria experience was much like the stereotype…the school I went to was 75% dance/theater and 25% liberal arts…so you had a ton of girls who only ever ate from the salad bar. Then you had my group of Journalism major girls who hit the hamburgers and fries and pizza with the guys. We used to look at each other and say, “We suck at being girls!”
Post # 16
I think our relationship may be a little different because I’m vegan but I can see how DH and I would look like we eat Man food and Girl food. DH isn’t a fan of lettuce so he usually shys away from the leafy greens while thats a huge part of what I eat! He’s big into animals and starch.