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Just curious..
I've noticed sometimes I'll post on here to someone's thread or whatever, and never get a reply or acknowledgement. It's kinda... rude..? It's almost like I can hear that person whistling "doo dee-dooooo" and turning their head the opposite direction, ignoring my post altogether.
Does anyone else ever feel like that on here?
(I'm definately not calling anyone out on this, so please don't put up any screennames or anything like that! Not trying to start a war ;)
It's just crappy. When you try to be nice to people and you get the feeling of being slighted.. I know this is internetland, and we can't actually see each other, so it's a little different than just being outwardly ignored, but at the same time it is an online community that's main function is to give each other support and encouragement during different stages of planning & life. It's nice to have your praise acknowledged sometimes.
Might sound like I'm being overly sensitive, but it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
Note: I absolutely KNOW it's not possible to respond to every single person that comments on your thread. That would be impossible, especially going back to the older ones. I'm just venting I guess right now...probably best to ignore me :/ <--- haha @ ignore me. I made a funny.
I know how you feel. I really try to respond to anything that I can add something to because I don't like feeling ignored!
I've felt this way sometimes, but I really really think it's just a product of too many nice people, if that makes sense... As in, there are so many nice replies that it becomes easy to skim over them and not reply to each specific one. It can be kind of a good problem to have, you know?
I think it could sometimes be an accident. Like if I start a thread I'll try to come back to it a bunch of times and reply, but if someone replies like a week after the thread has died out, I'll probably miss it...
I can't think of a single board bee that I'd try to avoid :) I can't imagine that many people would do something like that!
Sometimes I don't respond when I don't have a great response... but that's about it.
I always try to respond to each person too. I don't think it's anyone's intention to make people feel left out - at least it isn't mine! :)
I think some people just get busy and don't respond again. You can't expect them to respond to every little message.
I think all of us have been ignored some time or another. But you're right, it hurts a little. I try not to take it to personally. I try to leave responses like missasb!
Hopefully the bee community gets stronger now!
I don't think anyone ignores you :) I love reading your posts. I find them funny, witty and insightful.
I think that sometimes there are so many posts that it is hard to keep up. Especially during the week when we're all busy at work or school. Don't take it personally, I don't think that anyone is doing anything on purpose.
((HUGS))
I feel this way sometimes! I am sure no body means anything by it!
However, it's the worst when someone responds to all posters on the thread by name EXCEPT you! LOL
Meh, it happens. I've been around forums for years and years, so I guess I understand that it's quite different from RL conversations. Sometimes people post comments that don't merit a response, sometimes whatever you would have said was covered in your response to other people, and so on. It's totally not a personal thing.
@ EVERYONE - Thanks all for the kind words. You all are correct about everyone being busy and it's definately too hard to track down all old posts, etc. Also, like MissAsB said, there's just not anything you feel like you can add *sigh*.
I think this stupid post is just a product of me being 1) A sensitive person 2) Getting woke up by my cats this morning before I was ready to get up 3) Having a bunch of stuff to do today and not wanting to do it 4) Feeling like I've hit a rut in my excercising and having ZERO motivation to continue.
I'm just stressed and unleashing.
Sorry for the whining.
No worries OK - Honestly I totally related to your post as soon as I saw it and was like Awe she feels like me LOL!
I think one culprit is I notice that the boards aren't as busy as they have been and so if you are active on the boards no one posts after you for a long time!
Don't worry about whining! You're not alone, I've felt the same way before. I'm sure you're right, and it is a coincidence, but it's still not a fun feeling!
Yep, I've felt that way. But I don't let it bother me. I keep on trucking, giving support wherever I go. :)
@ok I have never done that on purpose...but i am SURE i have done that on accident...I hope your day gets better! its rainy and gross over here so that means no exercise for me too.
@okqueenbee - dont worry about the whining - I think we are all whiny sometimes! :-) And I think it seems like everyone has felt this way at one time or another, but I think it might stem from outer things in our lives and then that little thing gets to us more than it normally would. Sometimes I think about going back into my profile to look at all my old posts to see if there is anything new, but then I realize how long that would take and how I would miss out on all the current posts!! Were all in the same boat though, so dont feel bad for posting about it!
I would say this is true in some instances. You are not out of your mind or whiny!
me too :o) i have created threads and heard Jiminy singing...
Sure, in rare instances I think that happens, but honestly I think most of it is just people being busy. I often post a sort of group reply, where I follow up on a bunch of comments. I don't respond to each and every one, but I read through them and appreciate them. Maybe I should take the time to respond individually!
I might have done it accidentally but I love me some bees (except the ones that pick you out and talk smack at you).
I know what you mean, but I'm sure I've done it accidentally - because I'll get busy or leave the house/computer and not come back to weddingbee for awhile. I don't think anyone does it on purpose!
I also get sensitive when no one comments at all on my posts..hehe, i know...boo hoo :)
@ everyone - Thanks for listening and commenting. Today was definately a "Woke up on the wrong side of the bed" day and so certain things were getting to me that I shouldn't really have taken to heart. I get like that sometimes. It's nice to know I'm not alone though ;)
I'm glad you feel on the right side of the bed today!
@ MissAsB - This morning, I told my hubby "I woke up on the wrong side of the bed." and he said "No you didn't, cuz that would be MY side and I didn't see you over there." LOL - what a goober.
Bwah ha ha ha ha! I totally feel you there, honestly. I can think of a couple of bees that more or less avoid me, but I'm okay with it because honestly, it's the internet and what do I care if they don't like me?
ay ya... we're dramatic creatures, aren't we? women, I mean. :)
I'm not good at responding to commenters on my threads, because I feel like it'll look like I'm shamelessly bumping my own threads up again. Plus I'm never actually online the same time as everyone else (wrong side of the globe...), so I see all the comments in one shot, rather than one by one, and don't end up responding to everything. Doesn't mean anything personal against anyone though!
I also almost never follow up on comments I've made on someone else's thread. I comment on so much stuff (and read way more threads than I comment on) that it's hard to remember what might need following-up-on.
ETA: If I'm short on time, I also skip over threads started by some bees all together. It's not that I dislike them or don't care about them - but if they're prolific board bees, I know they'll get a lot of comments from others and don't 'need' my comments as much. If I have time, I like to read most of the threads, but if I don't .... I guess it's the part of me that attracted me to being a hostess, but I really love encouraging newbees and offering advice on emotional posts. :)
@KM - I'm with you there! I almost find it funny, because I'm such a quiet, unoffensive person in real life that when I clearly bother a small handful of people online it takes me by surprise!
I've heard crickets on a couple posts, and I wondered if it was me. I just chalk it up to life on the internet, and try not to take it personal. But I'm glad I'm not the only one!
yes i've definitely felt like this!!! sometimes i give advice, make a suggestion / comment and get crickets. Then another poster will post the exact same comment and get ooodles of praise and hand clapping.
it happens...i try not to take it personally and i hope to heavens its not because i'm being intentionally ignored. yikes? should i worry!? 
.....
sometimes posts that I find boring, or question why someone even posted about that (really? you really think I care about your pets?), or wedding related questions that are not applicable to me, i would not respond to those.
try not to take it personally and get all butt hurt over this.
This is me purposely ignoring you.......
But seriously, crickets follow me wherever I go. That's cool, they sound nice....=]
You know, I don't think anyone is purposely ignoring anyone. The problem is that when people reply to you on threads you often have no idea that they replied to you unless they keep checking back. I know I've gone back to older threads before and been likes, oops, I feel so bad that I didn't see so and so replied to me! :)
awww totally feel you, and i was just thinking the other day, how cool it would be to get a "notification" every time a bee replied to a thread or post i wrote, just so i could keep track.
esp. with the threads that i create, i try to go back and read everyone's responses, but in the midst of trying to read other posts, i get lost in trying to keep up.
((HUGS)) so u don't feel ignored any longer! :)
@ missjyc there is actually that option! Just check the subscribe button, and weddingbee will email you when someone responds. I think there is a little delay in it though
@crash806, i knew there was some option that involved that, i guess i've jsut been too lazy to figure out how to set it up or get that going! :P
I have to say, I've been on Weddingbee for several months now and I haven't noticed this at all! Maybe I'm just really clueless.
I've never noticed this, and I hope I've never done it to anyone! I'm with daydreamwanderer on responding to comments on my own threads - I always feel like I'm bumping up my thread and that I'll annoy people. I have been trying to be better about it, though!
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