Do you think that it is possible to have too big of a ring????

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It is gorgeous but for my day to day life it is not functional for me to have something that large. I think it is up to you and your preference.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

This isn’t my engagement ring but it is the one of someone I know. I believe the center stone is a 4.3 ct cushion cut.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@dynomite:  I think that whatever you want and love is perfect for you.  That being said I would think about getting a smaller ring for when you’re out places you don’t want to invite possible problems (esp. if you’re travelling).  It will attract attention which is awesome, just make sure it’s not attracting attention from the wrong types of people.  And for god’s sake make sure to insure the hell out of it (at that size you might consider taking out a seperate insurance policy since many plans only cover up to a certain amount).  It’s a beautiful ring!  Congrats!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It’s possible for me -personally- to have too big of a ring, but I think it’s totally up to the person wearing it! Yours looks amazing!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For me, yes. I want something that I can wear everyday that won’t get in my way. I do think that its possible to look gaudy when a ring gets too big, but I think it also depends on the person. Typically when I see unusually large rings I assume that they’re costume jewelry, unless I’m in an area where those size stones are the norm. Personally I would not want any bigger than 1.5-1.75 for myself, but I also wear a size 4 and I think that makes a big difference.

OP, I think your ring is gorgeous!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think Khloe Kardashian’s ring is too big lol.

But yeah I mean I’ve never seen a 4 ct ring in person but  I do fee like people would be judging me. And I’m not well off, so I’d want some of that money lol. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I had a ring that was 2.75 carets in my first marriage, and it turned me off of e-rings for good.  Even with the ring insured, I didn’t like worrying about whether someone would hurt me to get the ring.  I felt strongly enough about it that I decided not to have an e-ring at all in my second marriage.  So I can’t imagine wearing 4 carets.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@dynomite:  i love it!  i love a lot of bling and full finger coverage.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@dynomite:  I had a friend who couldn’t wear her e-ring and wedding ring together because it was too big. She made sure everyone know too… just because of her I have to say that it is possible to have a ring that is too big

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Definitely possible. I tried on a ring that was about 2 carats total and it was too big for me. I have small hands and short fingers (ring finger is about 5.5). I told my FI that I definitely don’t want something that big. I think a carat is good for me, maybe 1.5 with side stones. Even .75 would be ok with me because still looks like a good size on my fingers. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@highschoolhoneys:  i was going to say the same thing, It looks like a cluster ring to me also. I love large rings and if its a cluster ring it’s not really the same as if it was a 4 carat diamond. 

ETA it looks great on you though so if its comfortable I wouldn’t worry

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

To answer your thread question, yes, it is definitely possible. But, that “too big” point is relative to what is worn by others around you.

I thought about this when we were choosing my ring and realized that picking a “normative” size for the people around me was a better choice for me than getting the biggest high quality diamond we could afford. That way, I step as much out of what I call the “carat races” as possible, races in which I posit that there are no winners, all participants inevitably lose. There are social “messages” that wearing a larger diamond than others around you sends out, and I didn’t want to send those messages. At least some people around the comparatively-large-diamond-wearer will assume that the wearer either actively intends to send those messages, or at least isn’t bothered by the fact that those messages are being sent.

Another factor is aesthetics… there are diamonds I would think are too large to wear in a daily ring, even if they were abundant and cost $5. It’s a matter of gilding the lily. However, I’d still find a use for those large diamonds…. such as setting them into a gorgeous evening necklace!

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes, that is way too much bling for me, but some women are the exact opposite. 

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