Do you think the flower used for boutonnieres should also be in the bouquet?

posted 3 years ago in Flowers
Post # 3
473 posts
Helper bee

I’ve always been of the mindset that they should be, but we aren’t doing that. Haha. Our bouquets will be made of peonies and roses, and the bouts will be calla lillies. 

I asked my florist the same question, and she said it didn’t matter. 

Post # 4
4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@nomnom:  I don’t think it matters! We did mini cymbidium orchids in the bouts and had them in my bouquet as well. I think it’s anything goes! i like it when the colours are of the same palette, but that’s just me!

Post # 5
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@nomnom:  DH had a lavender bout (by his request) and I was convinced there wasnt any lavender in my bouquet but I went and looked at our wedding pics just to be 100%.  Sure enough, there are a few pieces of lavender in the bouquet I carried. Although my florist put the lavender in the bouquets to match, I would say that it honestly doesnt really matter. Nobody checked to see if they matched. I had no clue they were in there and if they were missing, who would have cared?! Its a detail that just isnt that important. Just as long as it all flows together, you dont need to have them in your bouquet.

Post # 6
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think that the bouts need to have the flowers in the bouquet but they should still be cohesive with your theme or other details of your wedding.

I had a brooch/fabic flower bouquet with silver and pearl brooches and I had a hair comb made of a pearl brooch and silver leaf. The bouts for the groom and groomsmen all had pearls and silver leaves.

The bouts I made for the parents, however, were the same flowers as in the bouquet with some pearls.

Post # 8
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

nah! I will be taking the approach of haing the boutineers and the bouquets “go,” not “match”


I want my FI to choose the boutineer and have it be something he likes and feels good with, not something I slap on his chest

Post # 9
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@nomnom:  my bouquet is roses so FI is having a rose and the groomsman will have a Ferber daisy to match the bms bouquets

Post # 10
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Doesn’t have to be, but it is a nice way to tie a look together.


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