Post # 1
Just want some opinions…my mom is having a heck of a time finding a dress in a lighter color (my colors are blush and ivory)…she really wanted something like champagne or mauve or some kind of pastel like color that but all the nice dresses that aren’t black (black is a no no and so is ivory/white obviously) are either navy blue, blue, eegplant, Beige (ick), purple, gray or brown.
Options are so limited for her…she did find a dress in a lovley stunning blue designer gown (she had been leaning towards a navy blue gown but there was concern it would look black in photos) but now she’s worried she will catch some flack for not coordinating with the wedding at all. I told her she can always take it back, but she’s been looking for months and has only a short time left to decide.
She’s very picky about necklines and despises ruffles..this hasn’t been easy.
Post # 3
Also…my FMIL is wearing gold…I’m pretty sure blue and gold clash pretty bad….does it even matter?
Post # 4
As far as I am concerned, there is no need for her to match with the bridal party. She is not a member of it!
Post # 5
I think it’s kind of weird when moms match with the bridal party. Your mom should find something that’s comfortable and flattering on her…but maybe that’s just me.
Post # 6
I’ve never heard of them matching the bridal party, just that it needs to be a solid for pictures and nothing loud.
Post # 7
My mom got kind of annoyed with me when I told her to wear whatever color she wants, white, black, orange, I don’t care. She is more concerned about matching/coordinating than I have energy to even think about. Tell her to wear what makes her comfortable if you aren’t too picky about the color.
Moms are kind of crazy though. My BFFs FMIL spent more on her outfit for the wedding than BFF did for her dress.
Post # 8
Nah she doesn’t have to match (FMIL either) in our wedding BP is royal blue, my mum (who is walking me down the aisle) is in Burgandy and FMIL is in dusky pink…
I agree with PP a solid colour for photos thou 🙂 easier when lots of people in shots not to clash…
Post # 9
I think as long as the colors don’t clash, you’re fine 🙂
Post # 10
Nope! My mom bought a plum dress, and my colors are grey, aqua blue and cranberry red. But she will look nice next to my dad (black and grey suit) and the bridal party, who will be in grey.
Post # 11
I don’t think matching is important. My colors are eggplant and green and my mom is wearing navy. She found a dress she loved that made her feel comfortable, that was a win in my mind.
FI’s mom is wearing cranberry, so not much matching going on over here.
Post # 12
I don’t think it matters. Both my mother and my husband’s mother wore purple, which I *hate*. I didn’t say anything to them, because they picked the dress that they liked best. My colors were tiffany blue and yellow.
Post # 13
Thinking black is a ‘no no’ is pretty old school, as is attempting to match the BP. Who would actually have the nerve to give her flack for wearing a color (any color) at your wedding? Let her wear what she wants and is comfortable in. Champagne should be easy to find, but mauve? Not so much, but it’s possible.
Is she shopping online or mainly locally? I had my best luck in a small boutique that sells mostly evening wear. If she’s checking out only MOB dresses, she won’t find very much that isn’t frumpy.
Post # 14
I don’t think she has to match. My colors are chocolate brown, sage green, and ivory – my mom is wearing a royal blue dress. I’m also not a fan of the style of the dress, but you know what, she loves it and feels beautiful in it and that’s all that matters to me.
Post # 15
My mom originally wanted to wear the same dress as the bridesmaids because some etiquette book said she should match the bridal party. I kid you not. Personally I prefer they don’t match. My colors are grey and yellow and my mom is wearing black, FMIL is wearing eggplant (I think…).
Post # 16
i think it depends where you are. British ettiquette says the MOB should compliment, not clash with the bridesmaids. That’s common sense for the photos anyway I think. My bridesmaids are wearing a bright royal blue and my mums wearing a dark purple-navy colour.
Because she’s going to be in so many photos it might make sense to have her pick a colour that doesn’t clash too badly, but I don’t think it’s a huge deal 🙂