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I'm 100% sure they notice. And I think it adds to the pressure. As does watching wedding TV shows with them around.
@KatNYC2011: Hmmm, well I am not going to stop the looking at the jewellery because it is just in passing and I never once have watched a wedding show around him.
I agree, they absolutley notice. And I'm pretty sure they even notice when you get really quiet during the commercials and don't say a word. (as I often do)
Oh they notice. FI would always smile and laugh or make a comment about it. The pressure didn't phase him (even though there were lots of times when I wished that it did)!
@smb4268: Yeah most of the time I get completly quite too, but sometimes I will throw in an inocent comment.
@Running Elley: I agree I think mine doesnt let that put more pressure on him, but i am pretty sure it gets him thinkin...
@Anxiouspeanut: You know full well those comments aren't innocent. 
@KatNYC2011: Ha ha ha ha nope!!!! what I was getting at is that the comments dont turn into a huge conversation or arguement.
@Anxiouspeanut:Oh they definitely get them thinking!! That's why, as much as I HATED all of those commercials and reminders that I wasn't engaged yet, I was glad that they put the pending engagement back on his mind and I didn't have to ;)
@Running Elley: Thats true, thats what I thought they would be doing... get him thinking about it when the commercial is on and I dont even have to say anything, even though sometimes I do
@Running Elley: my SO is like yours...it doesn't phase him or it actually makes him annoyed pushes him away. i have learned that before so a lot of times i have to stifle a comment or just keep my mouth shut about anything wedding. it's frustrating!
@Anxiouspeanut: I'd be careful about bringing it up too much, especially if he's already planning.
FI got pretty upset with me when I wouldn't let it go after he'd let me know we were on the page. It frustrated him that I didn't trust him, and made him not really want to propose to me since all I could do was talk about it/hint about it (even if I only dropped a hint once every few days, to him it seemed like ALL the time).
He also told me that if I was thinking about it all the time the proposal would never be a surprise like he wanted it to be.
I've never gawked at a jewelry store, and I don't watch wedding shows. Ah well.
He totally knows. We have picked out a ring. Sometimes I say, "I was in the mall today and I visited my ring. I'm probably the only person who thinks it's my ring!" He said, "Oh, I think there might be another person who knows..."!
So, we both know about the ring. Financial times are weird, since I just had surgery last week and won't return to work until approximately April 7. We just had a discussion about going on a financial diet so we can pay down debt.
We had wedding/reception talk yesterday and he was clear that he wasn't saying he would be doing any of the things he mentioned, it was just a concept. He got in big trouble with me last year for saying things that sounded like I AM ABOUT TO PROPOSE and then he didn't do it.
We have just resumed, er, pillow time after a 4 months hiatus. So the ring isn't at the top of our shopping list. But I wish it was!
@KatNYC2011: I dont do it every few days it happens every couple weeks maybe if that... but my SO is exactly the same as yours, I used to bring it up all the time and it only pushed the proposal farther away, and he doesnt want me brining it up anymore so I havent since the beggining of January. I understand that they want to catch us off gaurd and surprise us.
@KatNYC2011: i try and let him bring it up a lot of the time but every once in a while something slips out. not necessarily about the ring but about wedding in general, even if it's just a small comment. i have been really good lately but today when he told me we basically took a step backward in the ring fund i had a mini melt down :(
I try NOT to gawk when we walk past a jewelery store/counter, but I DO try to sneak a peek at his face to see if HE is looking in that direction. Usually he's not :(
And the jewlery commercials could be laundry detergent commercials. They don't phase him. At all. His expression/mood/actions aren't any different during the jewelery commercials than they are during any other commercial. And I don't say anything during them, either, fwiw.
Le siiiiiiiiigh.
@Wonderwoman217: I do the same, but not enough that he notices me looking at him ...lol sometimes he is looking though.. he even made a comment of one of the rings on the promotion sign once...
Haha, I almost forgot about yesterday. I TRIED to get something, anything out of him. Didn't work. It was a commercial for metal detectors. It was going on and on about how you could get rich finding coins, scrap of precious metals, antiques and lost jewelery. (They showed pics of all the stuff you could find, one of which was a ring) I said, "Hey, baby, let's go buy us a metal detector so we can dig up old jewelery and get rich quick, bahahahahaha!" His response? "Yeah, we'll go out and find old guns and knives that are from like, the Civil War and stuff." Wtf? Just goes to show how their minds think on the opposite end of the spectrum of ours most of the time.
My boyfriend definitely does notice. More than he used to. I'm always watching the wedding shows on TLC but I watched those before I met him. But he does notice I look longingly in jewelry stores when we're at the mall know. I never used to do that until much recently.
@kayely88: Dont take me the wrong way, but I always wanted to watch the wedding shows, not really make him watch them but when he comes home or is in the shower and I am watching t.v... but i always thought that some women just purposely watched them around their SO to piss them off. But I really like them and I am 25 years old and it should be happening soon for me ( what he says ) so why not right? I wont make him watch them with me unless he comes into the room after doing something of his own and its something I am interested in watching until its over.
@Wonderwoman217: Thats funny, and frusterating at the same time. Thats when you give him the huge eye roll and walk away. lmao
I don't stop in jewelry stores so he wouldn't notice. The only time he notices is when I'm online looking at my jewelry forums. He'll say you are on there looking at rings again. He just does it to get on my nerves and to tease me.
@Vegan: I dont stop in them , it is just walking by where I might see something that catches my eye on the sign out front but thats it.
We hardly watch any type of brodcast TV, and only got to the Mall about once a year, so no, my BF doesn't notice, simply because there's nothing to notice. :(
@Isilme: Is there anything that ever brings up the topic?
I purposely don't look in the jewelery stores while with my SO, aside from a quick glance. And also, like Wonderwoman, I quickly sneak a glance at HIM to see if HE'S looking. He never is, sadly.
During commercials, I go completely silent. There have been a few times over the last few months that he has been the one to comment on the commercials. One time he asked me if a 3 carat engagement ring was big. I just about had a heart attack, because I was on my laptop pretending I didn't hear the commercial haha. Then, a couple months later, we saw an engagement ring on TV, and he asked if I thought it was a nice ring. Again, I could barely say a word because I was so shocked.
The other night, we were watching The Office episode where Jim proposes to Pam. I knew it was coming, and a couple minutes before, I grabbed my iPhone and started playing around on it. I didn't even look at the screen while he was proposing in the show haha. My SO is beside me on the couch, he's like "Awww..." and then I can feel him look at me. I did nothing! Didn't acknowledge it at all hahaha. I've watched a wedding related show around him once or twice, only because I was already watching it when he came home, and I wanted to see the end. Other times, I've switched the channel. He even admitted to me once that he was watching a wedding show when I wasn't home, because he was amazed at what an a-hole the groom was being! It was hilarious.
I definitely think they notice, the buggers! If only they knew the angst we go through when those shows/commercials come on. Mind you, in some cases, my guess is that it isn't too comfy for them either.
@authentic: I have never gone in to the jewellery store with him ever.... but only when we walk by I will notice the propmotional signs with the engagement rings on them.. he has commented before and I was quite shocked... I also saw this commercial nearing valentines day and it was a very ugly ring, I commented on it how ugly it was and whenever that commercial would come on again he's would be like " hunny there is your ring I am gonna get you" men like to joke... Its so not fair that they have one up on us when it comes to this... so frusterating...
@Anxiouspeanut: I really like the wedding shows too. That's why I watched them before I met him. Everytime I turn them on now and he's around he playfully rolls his eyes. He absolutely hates SYTTD because he thinks that the girls are annoying and obnoxious.
@kayely88: I was watching one while he went out for a bit last night but by the time he came home it was over lol...
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Bee's, do you think our SO's notice when we gawk in at a jewellery store when we are passing by it in the mall? Or when a commercial comes on when you both are watching t.v and you mention what a beautiful ring it is? I think mine does just because he already says to me that he has a proposal plan in his head and when I say those things and comment on other womens rings I think he gets what I am trying to say " Where the hell is mine?" lol but what do you all think?