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Do you think this is ok? Would you be mad as a guest?

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    Helstrong    April 9, 2011   Overland Park, KS

    Do you think it's okay to have an afternoon wedding with a cake and punch reception to follow immediately at the church, and then to take immediately family and the bridal party out to dinner afterwards. Do you think everyone that only has cake and punch would be offended or upset? Obviously I wouldn't announce to everyone that we are taking family/bridal party to dinner, but I'm sure of them will find out.

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    I think as long as you keep it to the bridal party and immediate family only than you are okay :)

    It's not like you are having the ceremony and ditching your guests right after! You are still giving them a nice afternoon to visit you with some light refreshments. If other guests are upset they didn't get to go out to dinner that is their problem.

     
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    afbacher    January 8, 2011   Kansas City, Missouri

    I think it's fine.

    I would however, add to the invite that it IS a dessert only reception, so people don't expect a full meal (some people need food on a regular basis for blood sugar and such)

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I wouldn't be offended.  Just make sure that you let people know on the invites that it is a cake and punch reception.

     
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    future mrs kirsch    July 24, 2010   Ferndale, MI

    I think that would be fine. I would tell the dinner guests to keep it hush-hush as to not offend anyone. Also keep it to immediate family and bridal party. Some people may wonder why they were left out if you invite some friends and not others for example.

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    Do let guests know it is dessert only reception or cake and punch (maybe have a dessert bar?)

    Def keep it on the down low about the dinner with the immediate family and bridal party.

    I think it's fine.

     
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    mountain.bride    December 12, 2009   Australia

    I have been invited to one of these in July. The invite says we are invited to the ceremony to be followed by afternoon tea in the church hall. They are having a dinner reception in the evening which I know because the bride and I have talked about their plans. However, considering we are former workmates and not much more friendly than that, I am not offended at all (that reception has approx 100 people invited). I probably would have gone to watch the ceremony anyway, but I feel quite honoured to be invited in this way (especially since it does involve a mini reception!)

     
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    Helstrong    April 9, 2011   Overland Park, KS

    I was definitely going to include that a cake and punch reception would follor the ceremony. Dessert bar is a good idea bellenga. Thanks for that idea!

     

    Phew, I'm glad we think it's ok :)  Me and FI just told his parents about the plans tonight when we talked about the budget. So I just wanted to make sure it wasn't bad idea. Thanks girls!

     
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    Just make sure it's clear on the invitation.  If anyone has a problem with that when it's made clear that you aren't hosting a dinner then they are just being rude.

     

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