Post # 1
I have a close friend who is absolutely obsessed with weddings and rings and getting engaged. (I mean, we all are at some point. We all obsess over it on WeddingBee, but 24/7 she is OBSESSED and only talks about rings I know her Bf can’t afford.)
Today she text messaged me and asked me what size diamond I have on my ring. I told her, because I wasn’t sure how to respond. My center diamond is about a .62 almost perfect diamond, colorless…very fire-y and sparkly. It is, I guess, a little small. The setting does have 2 side pear-shaped diamonds, along with baguets across the band, and micropave on the sides. It’s pretty blinged out! And I know how hard my Fiance worked to get it for me, it means so much, but I thought the question was still a little weird.
Well, she responds with a “Oh, well, I mean, it looks bigger than that. We just looked at a .90 ct diamond, and it’s x-amount of $.” Seriously, that’s ALL she replied with.
I keep looking at my ring now, feeling a little…oh, I don’t know, put off by her comment. I don’t think it’s ever right for someone to ask what size diamond you have. I mean, can’t you just tell by looking at it? :/ I know when I put my e-ring with my dream wedding ring it’s going to be ICED OUT! 🙂 But … ugh, people are so inconsiderate sometimes. I feel like she always wants to one-up me.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
So rude! She’s obviously feeling competitive about it. So immature.
Post # 4
Yeah. I don’t think it’s EVER okay!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I think that was pretty rude of her. Don’t let her crappy comments make you feel put off about your ring!
Post # 6
Not OK at all, in my opinion, unless you have that kind of relationship with one another. But even then, proceed with caution, as it can be a sensitive topic . . .
Post # 7
After I got my ring my aunt asked if my fiance had a lot of money. I felt really embarassed. It’s about what you love not how much or how big. Her lucky fiance!
Post # 8
I think the way she did it was especially rude. My BIL asked me one day and I was like, why so you can buy a bigger one for your gf? You better not buddy, lol!
Post # 9
I also thought of one other rude comment my SPANISH professor of all people said to me. He saw it and goes, “Wow, he spent a LOT of money on that!” and winked. Um, well, I know how much he spent…but couldn’t he just tell me it was pretty? So awkward!
Post # 10
For me…it would be rude in all cases…but I would tolerate it depending on who asked. My little sister b/c we talk about everything…but that’s about it.
Post # 11
If you are super close to the person and they are asking with good intentions, then yes. But obviously her intentions were not so innocent. Pretty rude.
Post # 12
I voted on it depends because if you had a friend who was genuinely trying to gauge what size diamond looks good on her finger, or what a diamond the size of yours costs or asks any other pertinent (but not competitive) question, then to me, that seems like it would be okay. But this girl just seems very competitive. Don’t let her demean your gorgeous ring!!!
Post # 13
Some people are all about numbers and price tags, if you love your ring that’s all that matters :o)
Post # 14
I think there’s a tactful way to ask and the intent matters. I asked a friend before I got my ring, while my Fiance and I were starting to look at rings, because I thought the size looked perfect on her hand. I wasn’t trying to compare anything, just researching. I think your friend’s response shows she’s not only researching, she’s trying to one up you, and that part is rude. I’m sorry she did that. Your ring sounds just GORGEOUS btw, you should post a pic if you haven’t already somewhere else on here 🙂
Post # 15
Totally rude! I don’t think it is necessarily rude to ask about diamond size but it has to be done tactfully and her response was not tactful!
Post # 16
Eh… it depends on who asks you. Several people have asked… or hinted until I answered about mine. My mom, my brother’s Fiance, and a few of my close friends. I didn’t take it as anything but genuine curiousity. I’d be curious! And it wasn’t at all snarky on any of their parts.