(Closed) Do you think this is weird at all?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: So bees...?
    She's weird and doesn't know her place : (28 votes)
    23 %
    She clearly has a thing for him : (39 votes)
    33 %
    He must've done something to encourage this behaviour : (42 votes)
    35 %
    There's nothing wrong with this situation : (11 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would worry more about how he responds to the behavior now than what he did over the weekend. Is he shutting down any advances? Is he ignoring her texts/calls? Or is he doing something to encourage her to continue contacting him?

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Sometimes I’m overly friendly with people, not in a “I want to get in your pants” kind of way, but just because I can be friendly and like to talk to people.  From the sounds of it, your FI was probably nice to her so she thought they got along good and she might have thought that he was a new work friend she could talk to.

    I definitely don’t think he cheated though, just based on what you know she’s said to him.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think its possible he gave her his number. If it bothers him, he can tell her to stop calling.

    Post # 6
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    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I don’t know man, chicks are really weird and clingy especially with guys who they know are taken.  They have a radar and if they are ALREADY weird they will be super weird when they are drunk.  I have a feeling (althought obviously only 2 people really know what went down on the weekend) that she is just a creeper hoping something will happen between them.  He told you immediately that she was texting him so he isn’t trying to hide it.  I say chalk it up to crazy biatches unless you have a reason to think otherwise!

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I don’t necessarily think your FI did anything to encourage her behavior other than being a nice friendly human being (but I don’t know your FI and am assuming he’s a decent guy). 

    I see why you have a problem with the situation though because it is a bit weird, and it could verge on being inappropriate. Go ahead and tell your FI you feel weird about the situation and don’t like it.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    First of all, she does sound a little crazy. 

    Secondly, I completely agree with asscherlover.  Whether or not he flirted a little bit when he was drunk doesn’t really matter at this point as long as he doesn’t reciprocate the communications in the “flirty” or “overly friendly” manner.

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Sounds like you should talk to your FI about this. I assume you are pretty suspicious of him since you went through his phone and saw the text from her? Has he given you other reasons to be suspicious? Why can’t you just ask him?

    Post # 11
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I dont think its appropriate…and I would be irritated too. I think ppl need to understand boundaries, and to me it isnt appropriate to be sending non-work related texts to an engaged guy. I keep thinking of Jessica Alba’s character in “Little Fockers” : )

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @littlepossum:  

    Tell him it bothers you and see what he says.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s pretty unusual for flirting to go this far unless FH has given off some signals that it’s ok. He could have nipped this in the bud easily. I’m not saying he’s cheated, but I think he has flirted inappropriately. It’s now up to him to give the signals to get her to back off.

    BTW I think getting drunk at a work party is never a good idea.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @littlepossum:  

    Only those two know what happened. I really can’t speculate. Maybe she got the wrong impression? I don’t know .

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    He needs to respond, I’m doing great, just had dinner with my wife.

    I’m doing great, just went to the mall and bought my wife a new coach purse.

    Work is great, been super busy, my wife is making me my favorite dinner tonight, can’t wait to eat and spend the night with her.

    I’m doing great, going out for a beer with the guys then my awesome wife is meeting us at the bar for a late night snack.

    She will get the point real fast, no drama, just respond but always seem to bring you up.

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