Post # 1
We are fairly certain that we are going to get married at a vineyard. Not only do we love wine, but we love the idea of pictures in the wine cellar and out in the greenery. This will take place next summer given a lot of difficulties that we’ve had this year (family wise, not relationship wise).
While we are off taking pictures, I thought it would be nice to have a guided tour of the vineyard for our guests. I don’t want people to be bored, but I also don’t want to feel rushed capturing pictures from our special day (pictures are VERY important to us).
As a guest, would you want to participate or do you think this idea sounds stupid? I’m not sure if this is typical of weddings or not, but I thought it sounded like a fun idea. I would like to participate but maybe I’m off my rocker!
Thanks, Bees 🙂
Post # 2
I think it would be nice as an option, but not as something guests had to do. We got married on the grounds of a mansion from 1785, and we considered paying extra to have an optional tour of the house. We decided not to, and I think it worked out for the best — people mingled and chatted, and there was no rush to get things done.
I would ask your parents and your partner’s parents what they think their families will think. Then ask your friends. If people can go right to drinking, they might like that better…! Also, my cousin was married near a vineyard and while they didn’t do a tour, they had kind of a tasting at their cocktail hour. THAT was very cool.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Yeah, option not requirement. I think I’d personally love something like that, but my FI would probably prefer to hang out at the cocktail party and have a beer.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
We are having ours at a vineyard as well but I voted NO. Not that it’s stupid but I just know that most women in heels will have hurting feet at the end of the night already without having to take a walking tour on top of it. I also know that many guests will not have seen others for a while and will want to talk, mingle, catch up during cocktail hour while we take pics.
I vote no tour, just cocktail hour.
Post # 5
somethingblue04: if you offer it optional and not mandatory, i think it’s great.
Post # 6
I would enjoy it, but I guess one factor is howmuch time there will be between the ceremony and dinner?
Post # 7
Nice option to offer. Let guests know that it will be an option so they can wear approprate shoes.
Post # 8
That sounds like fun!! Like the other PP’s I say make it optional, but it’s definitely something I would do. I’m not a huge fan of cocktail hours anyway, mostly because I get bored, so as a guest I would really enjoy that.
Post # 9
It sounds a little awkward. At cocktail hour I’d rather mingle and see folks I’ve not seen in a while or make some new friends. I usually love a nice vineyard tour (especially if there are samples!!!) but it just doesn’t match with what I would expect to do when I go to a wedding. There’s the obvious issue of attire; even in flats, which I normally wear, I wouldn’t want to go traipsing around a vineyard. Too easy to get my nice clothes dusty, dirty or muddy! And it really takes away the chance to mingle, especially if some guests choose not to participate.
Maybe ask the winery if they have a self-guided tour option. Lots of wineries do these. Then guests can find something to occupy their time if they’re bored, without feeling like they “have” to go.
Post # 10
I agree that it’s okay as an option, but not as a requirement. I’ve done vineyard tours before, and once was okay, but any more than that and I get bored.
I’d much rather just have a glass of wine and hang out with friends/family.
Post # 11
I like the idea of presenting it as an option. I’d probably personally opt out because I’ve been on a lot of vineyard tours and I’d rather hang out in the tasting room and have a few drinks, especially while wearing heels. But I think it’s a nice option for those who are interested.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2014 - Villa Celeste
I agree with PP’s. If it’s an option rather than a requirement, I think that would work rather nicely for those who were interested. Personally, I’m a huge wine lover so I would jump on the opportunity. Especially because cocktail hours can sometimes drag just a bit. But of course you will have guests who just want to sit and relax, so by having both options available it would give everyone an opportunity to do what they wanted. Personally, I loved the idea and I say go for it!
Post # 13
It is not stupid, but if you have a lot of guests, it might not make sense for everyone to go on the tour at once.
Post # 14
not stupid. can you make it optional.
say anyone intested on going on a vineyard tour meet here at X time. otherwise, could have have some light snack and juice and wine while people wait.
Post # 15
I’m not a wine person so I wouldn’t be interested. Just have a cocktail hour (include good food, drinks, and music) while you are taking pictures.